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Anonymous wrote:Seems fine, honestly. Some people don't like living alone and roommates can be got it miss.

I would have her pay some amount if rent and deposit it in a HYSA that she will get as a gift towards a down payment or wedding when she moves out.

I would also discuss household contributions before hand, like cooking, cleaning, keeping rooms tidy, etc. A HS or college kid I'd feel comfortable saying "put your laundry away and you have to help with dinner." A 25/26 year old I would not want to *have* to tell her these things and would be resentful if she fell into teenage behavior of slacking in those areas, so I'd want to feel comfortable that she understands the difference between being a kid in our house and being a contributing adult.

+1. Since she is working FT without debt, I would ask for an amount to cover the extra cost of food, utilities and household supplies but not give it to her later. It is much less than rent so she should not balk at paying it.

Anonymous wrote:Seems fine, honestly. Some people don't like living alone and roommates can be got it miss.

I would have her pay some amount if rent and deposit it in a HYSA that she will get as a gift towards a down payment or wedding when she moves out.

I would also discuss household contributions before hand, like cooking, cleaning, keeping rooms tidy, etc. A HS or college kid I'd feel comfortable saying "put your laundry away and you have to help with dinner." A 25/26 year old I would not want to *have* to tell her these things and would be resentful if she fell into teenage behavior of slacking in those areas, so I'd want to feel comfortable that she understands the difference between being a kid in our house and being a contributing adult.

Anonymous wrote:While as a mother of kids that age that are now living almost 1,000 away it sounds so nice, I think back to myself at that age. I love my parent but if I didn’t want to be out on my own and not in their house at that age something was wrong. I just don’t this you are getting the full truth OP. If this is temporary arrangement to save money or not lock into new lease, okay. But to just want to be home sounds like she cannot handle something about adulting. Just my two cents.

Anonymous wrote:I moved back home in my 20s to go to grad school. It was wonderful to build a relationship with my parents as an adult after living away from 18-25. I was engaged and my now-DH was in law school in a different city. My parents' conditions were:
- I cooked dinner 5 nights per week
- I did the grocery shopping for the family (they paid, but I did the work)
- I ran errands for them every week, like picking up dry cleaning, taking the car to be washed, etc.
- I kept my space tidy and helped prepare the house for the cleaners weekly
- When they were travelling, I provided pet care, watered plants, etc.
- I had a firm move out date when my program ended

They didn't charge me anything and they paid my phone bill and car insurance, since my graduate funding only covered tuition and fees. It worked well for everyone, they basically got a household manager and I was able to graduate debt free.

Anonymous wrote:OP, what is your cultural background? It is very normal in some cultures for adult children to live in the family home until they get married and establish a new household of their own.

Anonymous wrote:Know a few who returned home or never left

It’s such a weird set up. They appear stunted in their mental capacity. Barely employed, super enmeshed in parents marriage, lives and think a man/woman is coming to save or marry them.

Odd

Anonymous wrote:OP you are super lucky. Welcome her home.