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Anonymous wrote:I bought a superior education, but more importantly, I bought a peer group and social currency.

Is that what you really wanted to know OP?

College admit is not the highest concern.

There is SO MUCH more to it than a top tier college admit.

You’re delusional. 5 years (or even less) out of college and barely anybody cares what college you went to. And certainly nobody gives a damn what high school you went to!

My spouse works with elite Ivy League grads and nobody ever, ever talks about what freakin high school they went to. It’s not on their professional bios, not on their LinkedIn profiles, not in their conversations. Nothing.

False. You must be looking at LinkedIn profiles from a bunch of public school graduates (who most likely do NOT put their high schools on their LinkedIn profiles).

Tip: 1. Go to LinkedIn; 2. Type in individual (one name/search) names of elite independent high schools (eg, Noble and Greenough, Horace Mann, HW, Sidwell Friends, St. John's (Houston), etc); 3. Come back and tell us what you find. 😝

Anyone including their HS on their LinkedIn profile better be either still in HS or at most a Freshman in college. 🙄

For graduates of elite high school it would be normal. They have strong alumni networks and some view it as more impressive than attending an elite college. You are clearly not in the know.

Maybe more clubby but not more impressive.

Getting in an elite high school takes being bright + having wealthy parents.

Getting in an elite college takes some actual demonstrated abilities at something.

This thread is super judgy. I suspect the well-educated elite college graduates with "middling" careers are happier and certainly more secure than most.

Admissions at elite colleges have become more about diversity and demographics than about abilities. It really isn’t about tests and grades anymore. The FA programs make it accessible to anyone off the streets.


While admission to elite high schools is more about tests and abilities, and the majority of these kids have an elite background. These admissions offices are doing a better job.

This is the copium people tell themselves when the rejection letters start rolling in.

Not really. When your kids get admitted to the T10 colleges, look at who their peers would be. The admissions offices are letting in a circus cast of characters.

DCUM - home of the bitter rejects and their parents.

I wrote that as a parent whose kid got into multiple T10 schools. These schools are not what they were 30 years ago, mainly due to changes in the admissions office that has changed their priorities.

Walking into new student orientation is like entering the cantina scene in Star Wars. Misfits from across the galaxy assembling to make TikToks and protest against economics. In four years they will be barely employable.

I think this is just a sign that you’ve become old.

Anonymous wrote:Are parents really pissed if they spend $35k per year on an elite private high school, but their kid ends up at a 2nd tier or 3rd tier college (which likely could have been achieved had the kid just gone to a local public)?

I ask bc I frequently meet alums of Gonzaga and the like who went to college at, like, James Madison or something like that. Seems like a huge waste of honey on the parents’ part.

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Anonymous wrote:I bought a superior education, but more importantly, I bought a peer group and social currency.

Is that what you really wanted to know OP?

College admit is not the highest concern.

There is SO MUCH more to it than a top tier college admit.

You’re delusional. 5 years (or even less) out of college and barely anybody cares what college you went to. And certainly nobody gives a damn what high school you went to!

My spouse works with elite Ivy League grads and nobody ever, ever talks about what freakin high school they went to. It’s not on their professional bios, not on their LinkedIn profiles, not in their conversations. Nothing.

False. You must be looking at LinkedIn profiles from a bunch of public school graduates (who most likely do NOT put their high schools on their LinkedIn profiles).

Tip: 1. Go to LinkedIn; 2. Type in individual (one name/search) names of elite independent high schools (eg, Noble and Greenough, Horace Mann, HW, Sidwell Friends, St. John's (Houston), etc); 3. Come back and tell us what you find. 😝

Anyone including their HS on their LinkedIn profile better be either still in HS or at most a Freshman in college. 🙄

For graduates of elite high school it would be normal. They have strong alumni networks and some view it as more impressive than attending an elite college. You are clearly not in the know.

Maybe more clubby but not more impressive.

Getting in an elite high school takes being bright + having wealthy parents.

Getting in an elite college takes some actual demonstrated abilities at something.

This thread is super judgy. I suspect the well-educated elite college graduates with "middling" careers are happier and certainly more secure than most.

Admissions at elite colleges have become more about diversity and demographics than about abilities. It really isn’t about tests and grades anymore. The FA programs make it accessible to anyone off the streets.


While admission to elite high schools is more about tests and abilities, and the majority of these kids have an elite background. These admissions offices are doing a better job.

This is the copium people tell themselves when the rejection letters start rolling in.

Not really. When your kids get admitted to the T10 colleges, look at who their peers would be. The admissions offices are letting in a circus cast of characters.

DCUM - home of the bitter rejects and their parents.

I wrote that as a parent whose kid got into multiple T10 schools. These schools are not what they were 30 years ago, mainly due to changes in the admissions office that has changed their priorities.

Walking into new student orientation is like entering the cantina scene in Star Wars. Misfits from across the galaxy assembling to make TikToks and protest against economics. In four years they will be barely employable.

Lol. I would 100% agree. Ivy freshman parent here. The kids are an ECLECTIC (many would say weird) bunch.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bought a superior education, but more importantly, I bought a peer group and social currency.

Is that what you really wanted to know OP?

College admit is not the highest concern.

There is SO MUCH more to it than a top tier college admit.

You’re delusional. 5 years (or even less) out of college and barely anybody cares what college you went to. And certainly nobody gives a damn what high school you went to!

My spouse works with elite Ivy League grads and nobody ever, ever talks about what freakin high school they went to. It’s not on their professional bios, not on their LinkedIn profiles, not in their conversations. Nothing.

False. You must be looking at LinkedIn profiles from a bunch of public school graduates (who most likely do NOT put their high schools on their LinkedIn profiles).

Tip: 1. Go to LinkedIn; 2. Type in individual (one name/search) names of elite independent high schools (eg, Noble and Greenough, Horace Mann, HW, Sidwell Friends, St. John's (Houston), etc); 3. Come back and tell us what you find. 😝

Anyone including their HS on their LinkedIn profile better be either still in HS or at most a Freshman in college. 🙄

For graduates of elite high school it would be normal. They have strong alumni networks and some view it as more impressive than attending an elite college. You are clearly not in the know.

Maybe more clubby but not more impressive.

Getting in an elite high school takes being bright + having wealthy parents.

Getting in an elite college takes some actual demonstrated abilities at something.

This thread is super judgy. I suspect the well-educated elite college graduates with "middling" careers are happier and certainly more secure than most.

Admissions at elite colleges have become more about diversity and demographics than about abilities. It really isn’t about tests and grades anymore. The FA programs make it accessible to anyone off the streets.


While admission to elite high schools is more about tests and abilities, and the majority of these kids have an elite background. These admissions offices are doing a better job.

This is the copium people tell themselves when the rejection letters start rolling in.

Not really. When your kids get admitted to the T10 colleges, look at who their peers would be. The admissions offices are letting in a circus cast of characters.

DCUM - home of the bitter rejects and their parents.

I wrote that as a parent whose kid got into multiple T10 schools. These schools are not what they were 30 years ago, mainly due to changes in the admissions office that has changed their priorities.

Walking into new student orientation is like entering the cantina scene in Star Wars. Misfits from across the galaxy assembling to make TikToks and protest against economics. In four years they will be barely employable.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bought a superior education, but more importantly, I bought a peer group and social currency.

Is that what you really wanted to know OP?

College admit is not the highest concern.

There is SO MUCH more to it than a top tier college admit.

You’re delusional. 5 years (or even less) out of college and barely anybody cares what college you went to. And certainly nobody gives a damn what high school you went to!

My spouse works with elite Ivy League grads and nobody ever, ever talks about what freakin high school they went to. It’s not on their professional bios, not on their LinkedIn profiles, not in their conversations. Nothing.

False. You must be looking at LinkedIn profiles from a bunch of public school graduates (who most likely do NOT put their high schools on their LinkedIn profiles).

Tip: 1. Go to LinkedIn; 2. Type in individual (one name/search) names of elite independent high schools (eg, Noble and Greenough, Horace Mann, HW, Sidwell Friends, St. John's (Houston), etc); 3. Come back and tell us what you find. 😝

Anyone including their HS on their LinkedIn profile better be either still in HS or at most a Freshman in college. 🙄

For graduates of elite high school it would be normal. They have strong alumni networks and some view it as more impressive than attending an elite college. You are clearly not in the know.

Maybe more clubby but not more impressive.

Getting in an elite high school takes being bright + having wealthy parents.

Getting in an elite college takes some actual demonstrated abilities at something.

This thread is super judgy. I suspect the well-educated elite college graduates with "middling" careers are happier and certainly more secure than most.

Admissions at elite colleges have become more about diversity and demographics than about abilities. It really isn’t about tests and grades anymore. The FA programs make it accessible to anyone off the streets.


While admission to elite high schools is more about tests and abilities, and the majority of these kids have an elite background. These admissions offices are doing a better job.

This is the copium people tell themselves when the rejection letters start rolling in.

Not really. When your kids get admitted to the T10 colleges, look at who their peers would be. The admissions offices are letting in a circus cast of characters.

DCUM - home of the bitter rejects and their parents.

I wrote that as a parent whose kid got into multiple T10 schools. These schools are not what they were 30 years ago, mainly due to changes in the admissions office that has changed their priorities.

Walking into new student orientation is like entering the cantina scene in Star Wars. Misfits from across the galaxy assembling to make TikToks and protest against economics. In four years they will be barely employable.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bought a superior education, but more importantly, I bought a peer group and social currency.

Is that what you really wanted to know OP?

College admit is not the highest concern.

There is SO MUCH more to it than a top tier college admit.

You’re delusional. 5 years (or even less) out of college and barely anybody cares what college you went to. And certainly nobody gives a damn what high school you went to!

My spouse works with elite Ivy League grads and nobody ever, ever talks about what freakin high school they went to. It’s not on their professional bios, not on their LinkedIn profiles, not in their conversations. Nothing.

False. You must be looking at LinkedIn profiles from a bunch of public school graduates (who most likely do NOT put their high schools on their LinkedIn profiles).

Tip: 1. Go to LinkedIn; 2. Type in individual (one name/search) names of elite independent high schools (eg, Noble and Greenough, Horace Mann, HW, Sidwell Friends, St. John's (Houston), etc); 3. Come back and tell us what you find. 😝

Anyone including their HS on their LinkedIn profile better be either still in HS or at most a Freshman in college. 🙄

For graduates of elite high school it would be normal. They have strong alumni networks and some view it as more impressive than attending an elite college. You are clearly not in the know.

No you clearly are not in the know. If I want to seek out people from my elite private HS, I’m not turning to LinkedIn when I can just turn to the alumni person at the school, or put out feelers within my own actual alumni network to make personal connections, or show up at any of the events where said alumni network will be in attendance.

Also, there are more selective ways to connect than just LinkedIn, for instance the programs and social networks specific to your actual field.

It always funny seeing people on here talk about elite HS or college networks who clearly have no idea how they actually work.

No, you are just weird. LinkedIn is normal.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bought a superior education, but more importantly, I bought a peer group and social currency.

Is that what you really wanted to know OP?

College admit is not the highest concern.

There is SO MUCH more to it than a top tier college admit.

You’re delusional. 5 years (or even less) out of college and barely anybody cares what college you went to. And certainly nobody gives a damn what high school you went to!

My spouse works with elite Ivy League grads and nobody ever, ever talks about what freakin high school they went to. It’s not on their professional bios, not on their LinkedIn profiles, not in their conversations. Nothing.

False. You must be looking at LinkedIn profiles from a bunch of public school graduates (who most likely do NOT put their high schools on their LinkedIn profiles).

Tip: 1. Go to LinkedIn; 2. Type in individual (one name/search) names of elite independent high schools (eg, Noble and Greenough, Horace Mann, HW, Sidwell Friends, St. John's (Houston), etc); 3. Come back and tell us what you find. 😝

Anyone including their HS on their LinkedIn profile better be either still in HS or at most a Freshman in college. 🙄

For graduates of elite high school it would be normal. They have strong alumni networks and some view it as more impressive than attending an elite college. You are clearly not in the know.

No you clearly are not in the know. If I want to seek out people from my elite private HS, I’m not turning to LinkedIn when I can just turn to the alumni person at the school, or put out feelers within my own actual alumni network to make personal connections, or show up at any of the events where said alumni network will be in attendance.

Also, there are more selective ways to connect than just LinkedIn, for instance the programs and social networks specific to your actual field.

It always funny seeing people on here talk about elite HS or college networks who clearly have no idea how they actually work.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bought a superior education, but more importantly, I bought a peer group and social currency.

Is that what you really wanted to know OP?

College admit is not the highest concern.

There is SO MUCH more to it than a top tier college admit.

You’re delusional. 5 years (or even less) out of college and barely anybody cares what college you went to. And certainly nobody gives a damn what high school you went to!

My spouse works with elite Ivy League grads and nobody ever, ever talks about what freakin high school they went to. It’s not on their professional bios, not on their LinkedIn profiles, not in their conversations. Nothing.

False. You must be looking at LinkedIn profiles from a bunch of public school graduates (who most likely do NOT put their high schools on their LinkedIn profiles).

Tip: 1. Go to LinkedIn; 2. Type in individual (one name/search) names of elite independent high schools (eg, Noble and Greenough, Horace Mann, HW, Sidwell Friends, St. John's (Houston), etc); 3. Come back and tell us what you find. 😝

Anyone including their HS on their LinkedIn profile better be either still in HS or at most a Freshman in college. 🙄

For graduates of elite high school it would be normal. They have strong alumni networks and some view it as more impressive than attending an elite college. You are clearly not in the know.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bought a superior education, but more importantly, I bought a peer group and social currency.

Is that what you really wanted to know OP?

College admit is not the highest concern.

There is SO MUCH more to it than a top tier college admit.

You’re delusional. 5 years (or even less) out of college and barely anybody cares what college you went to. And certainly nobody gives a damn what high school you went to!

My spouse works with elite Ivy League grads and nobody ever, ever talks about what freakin high school they went to. It’s not on their professional bios, not on their LinkedIn profiles, not in their conversations. Nothing.

False. You must be looking at LinkedIn profiles from a bunch of public school graduates (who most likely do NOT put their high schools on their LinkedIn profiles).

Tip: 1. Go to LinkedIn; 2. Type in individual (one name/search) names of elite independent high schools (eg, Noble and Greenough, Horace Mann, HW, Sidwell Friends, St. John's (Houston), etc); 3. Come back and tell us what you find. 😝

Anyone including their HS on their LinkedIn profile better be either still in HS or at most a Freshman in college. 🙄

Wrong again. There are hundreds (if not thousands) of Ivy+/T20 grads, working on Wall Street, Silicon Valley, consulting, etc) with their elite independent high school still listed on their LinkedIn profiles. I’m talking, 10+ years AFTER graduating from college.

This is really funny. Putting your private HS on LinkedIn, a resume, etc is basically just saying that your parents had money. How that is impressive is beyond me. The silver spoons are long here…

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bought a superior education, but more importantly, I bought a peer group and social currency.

Is that what you really wanted to know OP?

College admit is not the highest concern.

There is SO MUCH more to it than a top tier college admit.

You’re delusional. 5 years (or even less) out of college and barely anybody cares what college you went to. And certainly nobody gives a damn what high school you went to!

My spouse works with elite Ivy League grads and nobody ever, ever talks about what freakin high school they went to. It’s not on their professional bios, not on their LinkedIn profiles, not in their conversations. Nothing.

False. You must be looking at LinkedIn profiles from a bunch of public school graduates (who most likely do NOT put their high schools on their LinkedIn profiles).

Tip: 1. Go to LinkedIn; 2. Type in individual (one name/search) names of elite independent high schools (eg, Noble and Greenough, Horace Mann, HW, Sidwell Friends, St. John's (Houston), etc); 3. Come back and tell us what you find. 😝

Anyone including their HS on their LinkedIn profile better be either still in HS or at most a Freshman in college. 🙄

Wrong again. There are hundreds (if not thousands) of Ivy+/T20 grads, working on Wall Street, Silicon Valley, consulting, etc) with their elite independent high school still listed on their LinkedIn profiles. I’m talking, 10+ years AFTER graduating from college.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bought a superior education, but more importantly, I bought a peer group and social currency.

Is that what you really wanted to know OP?

College admit is not the highest concern.

There is SO MUCH more to it than a top tier college admit.

You’re delusional. 5 years (or even less) out of college and barely anybody cares what college you went to. And certainly nobody gives a damn what high school you went to!

My spouse works with elite Ivy League grads and nobody ever, ever talks about what freakin high school they went to. It’s not on their professional bios, not on their LinkedIn profiles, not in their conversations. Nothing.

False. You must be looking at LinkedIn profiles from a bunch of public school graduates (who most likely do NOT put their high schools on their LinkedIn profiles).

Tip: 1. Go to LinkedIn; 2. Type in individual (one name/search) names of elite independent high schools (eg, Noble and Greenough, Horace Mann, HW, Sidwell Friends, St. John's (Houston), etc); 3. Come back and tell us what you find. 😝

Anyone including their HS on their LinkedIn profile better be either still in HS or at most a Freshman in college. 🙄

For graduates of elite high school it would be normal. They have strong alumni networks and some view it as more impressive than attending an elite college. You are clearly not in the know.

Maybe more clubby but not more impressive.

Getting in an elite high school takes being bright + having wealthy parents.

Getting in an elite college takes some actual demonstrated abilities at something.

This thread is super judgy. I suspect the well-educated elite college graduates with "middling" careers are happier and certainly more secure than most.

Admissions at elite colleges have become more about diversity and demographics than about abilities. It really isn’t about tests and grades anymore. The FA programs make it accessible to anyone off the streets.


While admission to elite high schools is more about tests and abilities, and the majority of these kids have an elite background. These admissions offices are doing a better job.

This is the copium people tell themselves when the rejection letters start rolling in.

Not really. When your kids get admitted to the T10 colleges, look at who their peers would be. The admissions offices are letting in a circus cast of characters.

DCUM - home of the bitter rejects and their parents.

I wrote that as a parent whose kid got into multiple T10 schools. These schools are not what they were 30 years ago, mainly due to changes in the admissions office that has changed their priorities.

Walking into new student orientation is like entering the cantina scene in Star Wars. Misfits from across the galaxy assembling to make TikToks and protest against economics. In four years they will be barely employable.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bought a superior education, but more importantly, I bought a peer group and social currency.

Is that what you really wanted to know OP?

College admit is not the highest concern.

There is SO MUCH more to it than a top tier college admit.

You’re delusional. 5 years (or even less) out of college and barely anybody cares what college you went to. And certainly nobody gives a damn what high school you went to!

My spouse works with elite Ivy League grads and nobody ever, ever talks about what freakin high school they went to. It’s not on their professional bios, not on their LinkedIn profiles, not in their conversations. Nothing.

False. You must be looking at LinkedIn profiles from a bunch of public school graduates (who most likely do NOT put their high schools on their LinkedIn profiles).

Tip: 1. Go to LinkedIn; 2. Type in individual (one name/search) names of elite independent high schools (eg, Noble and Greenough, Horace Mann, HW, Sidwell Friends, St. John's (Houston), etc); 3. Come back and tell us what you find. 😝

Anyone including their HS on their LinkedIn profile better be either still in HS or at most a Freshman in college. 🙄

For graduates of elite high school it would be normal. They have strong alumni networks and some view it as more impressive than attending an elite college. You are clearly not in the know.

Maybe more clubby but not more impressive.

Getting in an elite high school takes being bright + having wealthy parents.

Getting in an elite college takes some actual demonstrated abilities at something.

This thread is super judgy. I suspect the well-educated elite college graduates with "middling" careers are happier and certainly more secure than most.

Admissions at elite colleges have become more about diversity and demographics than about abilities. It really isn’t about tests and grades anymore. The FA programs make it accessible to anyone off the streets.


While admission to elite high schools is more about tests and abilities, and the majority of these kids have an elite background. These admissions offices are doing a better job.

This is the copium people tell themselves when the rejection letters start rolling in.

Not really. When your kids get admitted to the T10 colleges, look at who their peers would be. The admissions offices are letting in a circus cast of characters.

DCUM - home of the bitter rejects and their parents.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bought a superior education, but more importantly, I bought a peer group and social currency.

Is that what you really wanted to know OP?

College admit is not the highest concern.

There is SO MUCH more to it than a top tier college admit.

You’re delusional. 5 years (or even less) out of college and barely anybody cares what college you went to. And certainly nobody gives a damn what high school you went to!

My spouse works with elite Ivy League grads and nobody ever, ever talks about what freakin high school they went to. It’s not on their professional bios, not on their LinkedIn profiles, not in their conversations. Nothing.

False. You must be looking at LinkedIn profiles from a bunch of public school graduates (who most likely do NOT put their high schools on their LinkedIn profiles).

Tip: 1. Go to LinkedIn; 2. Type in individual (one name/search) names of elite independent high schools (eg, Noble and Greenough, Horace Mann, HW, Sidwell Friends, St. John's (Houston), etc); 3. Come back and tell us what you find. 😝

Anyone including their HS on their LinkedIn profile better be either still in HS or at most a Freshman in college. 🙄

For graduates of elite high school it would be normal. They have strong alumni networks and some view it as more impressive than attending an elite college. You are clearly not in the know.

Maybe more clubby but not more impressive.

Getting in an elite high school takes being bright + having wealthy parents.

Getting in an elite college takes some actual demonstrated abilities at something.

This thread is super judgy. I suspect the well-educated elite college graduates with "middling" careers are happier and certainly more secure than most.

Admissions at elite colleges have become more about diversity and demographics than about abilities. It really isn’t about tests and grades anymore. The FA programs make it accessible to anyone off the streets.


While admission to elite high schools is more about tests and abilities, and the majority of these kids have an elite background. These admissions offices are doing a better job.

This is the copium people tell themselves when the rejection letters start rolling in.

Not really. When your kids get admitted to the T10 colleges, look at who their peers would be. The admissions offices are letting in a circus cast of characters.