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Anonymous wrote:It is not different from any other elite schools. Kids don’t date any more whether they go to ivies or Wellesley. They are all so career focused now. In co-ed schools, girls still hang out with girls, and boys hang out with boys. No one has time for relationships or even hookups.

True. I have a daughter in a large public uni. It’s really hard to find guys. She is funny and objectively attractive but has been wholly unsuccessful (despite a lot of effort about which I feel like I have heard every detail).

This is also my daughter's experience too at a large state school. She is pretty, smart, thin but no luck with attracting any male interest. She has a pack of 12 close friends and they are all the same--no dating , no hooking up, no attention from guys and they are all objectively beautiful. So they continue to live their best life and have a lot of fun together.

Have women not picked up yet that post "me-too" they are now on the hook for approaching and asking men out?

I agree. I have two sons at elite schools, and they have not dated. The perception is that females are hostile to a boy’s interest or only want to date boys with a car and money and/or who are ambitious about making a lot of money and have a plan to get there. I understand that money makes the world go round, but most 18-22 year olds have no idea what they want to do with their life. Basically, most boys feel like the threshold to date nowadays is so high that they’re better off focusing on themselves and their friends and revisiting dating in their mid- to late-20s when they have a better perspective on their life and they can “measure up” to a girls expectations. Ironically, by that time many women might have adjusted their expectations too.

Anonymous wrote:If you want a lot of dating it’s best to go to a religious school, get involved with a religious group on campus, go to a mediocre school where most have modest expectations or attend an elite school and come from money or have plans to go to Wall Street, law school or medical school. Basically, those who are dating are fulfilling religious or modest life expectations or have already committed to the money trail.

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Anonymous wrote:It is not different from any other elite schools. Kids don’t date any more whether they go to ivies or Wellesley. They are all so career focused now. In co-ed schools, girls still hang out with girls, and boys hang out with boys. No one has time for relationships or even hookups.

True. I have a daughter in a large public uni. It’s really hard to find guys. She is funny and objectively attractive but has been wholly unsuccessful (despite a lot of effort about which I feel like I have heard every detail).

This is also my daughter's experience too at a large state school. She is pretty, smart, thin but no luck with attracting any male interest. She has a pack of 12 close friends and they are all the same--no dating , no hooking up, no attention from guys and they are all objectively beautiful. So they continue to live their best life and have a lot of fun together.

Have women not picked up yet that post "me-too" they are now on the hook for approaching and asking men out?

I agree. I have two sons at elite schools, and they have not dated. The perception is that females are hostile to a boy’s interest or only want to date boys with a car and money and/or who are ambitious about making a lot of money and have a plan to get there. I understand that money makes the world go round, but most 18-22 year olds have no idea what they want to do with their life. Basically, most boys feel like the threshold to date nowadays is so high that they’re better off focusing on themselves and their friends and revisiting dating in their mid- to late-20s when they have a better perspective on their life and they can “measure up” to a girls expectations. Ironically, by that time many women might have adjusted their expectations too.

So do they plan to be celibate until their mid to late 20s? Curious what the thinking is.

They would prefer not to be, but they feel like (whether true or not) they are one misinterpreted step from being called a rapist and expelled from school. That feeling is pervasive, even amongst kids from liberal homes. Basically, if a girl isn’t actively asking for sex, you best not touch.

Gently, it’s possible that they are not being completely transparent about their sex and dating life with their mother.

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Anonymous wrote:It is not different from any other elite schools. Kids don’t date any more whether they go to ivies or Wellesley. They are all so career focused now. In co-ed schools, girls still hang out with girls, and boys hang out with boys. No one has time for relationships or even hookups.

True. I have a daughter in a large public uni. It’s really hard to find guys. She is funny and objectively attractive but has been wholly unsuccessful (despite a lot of effort about which I feel like I have heard every detail).

This is also my daughter's experience too at a large state school. She is pretty, smart, thin but no luck with attracting any male interest. She has a pack of 12 close friends and they are all the same--no dating , no hooking up, no attention from guys and they are all objectively beautiful. So they continue to live their best life and have a lot of fun together.

Have women not picked up yet that post "me-too" they are now on the hook for approaching and asking men out?

I agree. I have two sons at elite schools, and they have not dated. The perception is that females are hostile to a boy’s interest or only want to date boys with a car and money and/or who are ambitious about making a lot of money and have a plan to get there. I understand that money makes the world go round, but most 18-22 year olds have no idea what they want to do with their life. Basically, most boys feel like the threshold to date nowadays is so high that they’re better off focusing on themselves and their friends and revisiting dating in their mid- to late-20s when they have a better perspective on their life and they can “measure up” to a girls expectations. Ironically, by that time many women might have adjusted their expectations too.

So do they plan to be celibate until their mid to late 20s? Curious what the thinking is.

They would prefer not to be, but they feel like (whether true or not) they are one misinterpreted step from being called a rapist and expelled from school. That feeling is pervasive, even amongst kids from liberal homes. Basically, if a girl isn’t actively asking for sex, you best not touch.

Gently, it’s possible that they are not being completely transparent about their sex and dating life with their mother.

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Anonymous wrote:It is not different from any other elite schools. Kids don’t date any more whether they go to ivies or Wellesley. They are all so career focused now. In co-ed schools, girls still hang out with girls, and boys hang out with boys. No one has time for relationships or even hookups.

True. I have a daughter in a large public uni. It’s really hard to find guys. She is funny and objectively attractive but has been wholly unsuccessful (despite a lot of effort about which I feel like I have heard every detail).

This is also my daughter's experience too at a large state school. She is pretty, smart, thin but no luck with attracting any male interest. She has a pack of 12 close friends and they are all the same--no dating , no hooking up, no attention from guys and they are all objectively beautiful. So they continue to live their best life and have a lot of fun together.

Have women not picked up yet that post "me-too" they are now on the hook for approaching and asking men out?

I agree. I have two sons at elite schools, and they have not dated. The perception is that females are hostile to a boy’s interest or only want to date boys with a car and money and/or who are ambitious about making a lot of money and have a plan to get there. I understand that money makes the world go round, but most 18-22 year olds have no idea what they want to do with their life. Basically, most boys feel like the threshold to date nowadays is so high that they’re better off focusing on themselves and their friends and revisiting dating in their mid- to late-20s when they have a better perspective on their life and they can “measure up” to a girls expectations. Ironically, by that time many women might have adjusted their expectations too.

So do they plan to be celibate until their mid to late 20s? Curious what the thinking is.

They would prefer not to be, but they feel like (whether true or not) they are one misinterpreted step from being called a rapist and expelled from school. That feeling is pervasive, even amongst kids from liberal homes. Basically, if a girl isn’t actively asking for sex, you best not touch.

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Anonymous wrote:My straight DD applied to Wellesley and Smith.

Hmmm....

Did she go? Hmnnnn….

Its one thing to be a straight woman who applies to Wellesley, Smith, any of the 7 Sisters. The question should be, is your daughter still straight while attending one of those colleges or is she now a lesbian. If she graduated from one of those schools, what is her sexual orientation now?

For all women who go to those schools, what is sexual orientation going into the school, while at school and after school? those would be interesting numbers.

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Anonymous wrote:It is not different from any other elite schools. Kids don’t date any more whether they go to ivies or Wellesley. They are all so career focused now. In co-ed schools, girls still hang out with girls, and boys hang out with boys. No one has time for relationships or even hookups.

True. I have a daughter in a large public uni. It’s really hard to find guys. She is funny and objectively attractive but has been wholly unsuccessful (despite a lot of effort about which I feel like I have heard every detail).

This is also my daughter's experience too at a large state school. She is pretty, smart, thin but no luck with attracting any male interest. She has a pack of 12 close friends and they are all the same--no dating , no hooking up, no attention from guys and they are all objectively beautiful. So they continue to live their best life and have a lot of fun together.

Have women not picked up yet that post "me-too" they are now on the hook for approaching and asking men out?

I agree. I have two sons at elite schools, and they have not dated. The perception is that females are hostile to a boy’s interest or only want to date boys with a car and money and/or who are ambitious about making a lot of money and have a plan to get there. I understand that money makes the world go round, but most 18-22 year olds have no idea what they want to do with their life. Basically, most boys feel like the threshold to date nowadays is so high that they’re better off focusing on themselves and their friends and revisiting dating in their mid- to late-20s when they have a better perspective on their life and they can “measure up” to a girls expectations. Ironically, by that time many women might have adjusted their expectations too.

So do they plan to be celibate until their mid to late 20s? Curious what the thinking is.

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Anonymous wrote:It is not different from any other elite schools. Kids don’t date any more whether they go to ivies or Wellesley. They are all so career focused now. In co-ed schools, girls still hang out with girls, and boys hang out with boys. No one has time for relationships or even hookups.

True. I have a daughter in a large public uni. It’s really hard to find guys. She is funny and objectively attractive but has been wholly unsuccessful (despite a lot of effort about which I feel like I have heard every detail).

This is also my daughter's experience too at a large state school. She is pretty, smart, thin but no luck with attracting any male interest. She has a pack of 12 close friends and they are all the same--no dating , no hooking up, no attention from guys and they are all objectively beautiful. So they continue to live their best life and have a lot of fun together.

Have women not picked up yet that post "me-too" they are now on the hook for approaching and asking men out?

I agree. I have two sons at elite schools, and they have not dated. The perception is that females are hostile to a boy’s interest or only want to date boys with a car and money and/or who are ambitious about making a lot of money and have a plan to get there. I understand that money makes the world go round, but most 18-22 year olds have no idea what they want to do with their life. Basically, most boys feel like the threshold to date nowadays is so high that they’re better off focusing on themselves and their friends and revisiting dating in their mid- to late-20s when they have a better perspective on their life and they can “measure up” to a girls expectations. Ironically, by that time many women might have adjusted their expectations too.

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Anonymous wrote:It is not different from any other elite schools. Kids don’t date any more whether they go to ivies or Wellesley. They are all so career focused now. In co-ed schools, girls still hang out with girls, and boys hang out with boys. No one has time for relationships or even hookups.

True. I have a daughter in a large public uni. It’s really hard to find guys. She is funny and objectively attractive but has been wholly unsuccessful (despite a lot of effort about which I feel like I have heard every detail).

This is also my daughter's experience too at a large state school. She is pretty, smart, thin but no luck with attracting any male interest. She has a pack of 12 close friends and they are all the same--no dating , no hooking up, no attention from guys and they are all objectively beautiful. So they continue to live their best life and have a lot of fun together.

Have women not picked up yet that post "me-too" they are now on the hook for approaching and asking men out?

I agree. I have two sons at elite schools, and they have not dated. The perception is that females are hostile to a boy’s interest or only want to date boys with a car and money and/or who are ambitious about making a lot of money and have a plan to get there. I understand that money makes the world go round, but most 18-22 year olds have no idea what they want to do with their life. Basically, most boys feel like the threshold to date nowadays is so high that they’re better off focusing on themselves and their friends and revisiting dating in their mid- to late-20s when they have a better perspective on their life and they can “measure up” to a girls expectations. Ironically, by that time many women might have adjusted their expectations too.

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Anonymous wrote:It is not different from any other elite schools. Kids don’t date any more whether they go to ivies or Wellesley. They are all so career focused now. In co-ed schools, girls still hang out with girls, and boys hang out with boys. No one has time for relationships or even hookups.

True. I have a daughter in a large public uni. It’s really hard to find guys. She is funny and objectively attractive but has been wholly unsuccessful (despite a lot of effort about which I feel like I have heard every detail).

This is also my daughter's experience too at a large state school. She is pretty, smart, thin but no luck with attracting any male interest. She has a pack of 12 close friends and they are all the same--no dating , no hooking up, no attention from guys and they are all objectively beautiful. So they continue to live their best life and have a lot of fun together.

Have women not picked up yet that post "me-too" they are now on the hook for approaching and asking men out?