Anonymous
10/26/2025 17:36
Subject: Being asked to get covid, flu and Dtap shot before meeting baby
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Demanding vaccines but taking the infant to the breweries and stores exposing them to germs. It’s performative.
Just don’t have visitors or visit the baby.
:roll:
Why do you assume that OP’s sister is doing that?
OP here - They live in Manhattan. Not sure where they will be taking the baby but their primary mode of transport is subway and they have to do daycare after 4 months. I have done the other shots asked for, I just am on the fence about the covid shot. I'm not pushing for them to let me see the baby if I don't get it. I would just visit them later. I was only planning to drop by to bring a meal and gifts and stay for an hour. If they are out strolling around Rockefellar Center looking at Christmas lights and going to restaurants I will be a little irritated.
My dilemma was whether all this is worth it for a such a short visit.
If you aren’t willing to do what they requested out of love and care for their child - DO NOT VISIT. You made your choice.
The covid vaccine will ultimately be for your own benefit. Remember you must get it two weeks before visit, and wear a good mask (3m aura) on transportation there.
Anonymous
10/26/2025 17:33
Subject: Being asked to get covid, flu and Dtap shot before meeting baby
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
I'll never understand the reasoning of people like OP, who are fine with playing with a newborn's life just because they don't want to be inconvenienced.
My family was like OP. We haven't seen most of them in 5 years, by our choice. People like OP aren't just selfish about shots.
how is not getting a shot that you are not due and not visiting a family member for an hour selfish? The visit is to the benefit of the person who wants to see the baby.
Anonymous
10/26/2025 17:30
Subject: Being asked to get covid, flu and Dtap shot before meeting baby
Anonymous wrote:
I'll never understand the reasoning of people like OP, who are fine with playing with a newborn's life just because they don't want to be inconvenienced.
My family was like OP. We haven't seen most of them in 5 years, by our choice. People like OP aren't just selfish about shots.
Anonymous
10/26/2025 16:50
Subject: Being asked to get covid, flu and Dtap shot before meeting baby
Anonymous wrote:If this was my grandchild, I'd get the immunizations in a heartbeat. For a niece or nephew, I might wait out the COVID vaccine until the requisite time period was up.
OP here- this is a nephew. Other family members are staying with them to help provide care. The hotel alone is costing over $1000 not to mention train tickets, food, etc...NYC is never cheap
Anonymous
10/26/2025 16:45
Subject: Being asked to get covid, flu and Dtap shot before meeting baby
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Demanding vaccines but taking the infant to the breweries and stores exposing them to germs. It’s performative.
Just don’t have visitors or visit the baby.
Why do you assume that OP’s sister is doing that?
OP here - They live in Manhattan. Not sure where they will be taking the baby but their primary mode of transport is subway and they have to do daycare after 4 months. I have done the other shots asked for, I just am on the fence about the covid shot. I'm not pushing for them to let me see the baby if I don't get it. I would just visit them later. I was only planning to drop by to bring a meal and gifts and stay for an hour. If they are out strolling around Rockefellar Center looking at Christmas lights and going to restaurants I will be a little irritated.
My dilemma was whether all this is worth it for a such a short visit.
Anonymous
10/26/2025 15:37
Subject: Being asked to get covid, flu and Dtap shot before meeting baby
If this was my grandchild, I'd get the immunizations in a heartbeat. For a niece or nephew, I might wait out the COVID vaccine until the requisite time period was up.
Anonymous
10/26/2025 15:35
Subject: Being asked to get covid, flu and Dtap shot before meeting baby
Anonymous wrote:Demanding vaccines but taking the infant to the breweries and stores exposing them to germs. It’s performative.
Just don’t have visitors or visit the baby.
Why do you assume that OP’s sister is doing that?
Anonymous
10/26/2025 15:35
Subject: Being asked to get covid, flu and Dtap shot before meeting baby
This was also the case when our teens were babies, minus Covid. There was a whopping cough outbreak.
Anonymous
10/26/2025 15:29
Subject: Being asked to get covid, flu and Dtap shot before meeting baby
Demanding vaccines but taking the infant to the breweries and stores exposing them to germs. It’s performative.
Just don’t have visitors or visit the baby.
Just don’t have visitors or visit the baby.
Anonymous
10/26/2025 14:41
Subject: Being asked to get covid, flu and Dtap shot before meeting baby
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, it's not an outliner request. Many infant pediatricians highly suggest - exactly what your sister is requesting. Your desire to irritate your sister seems to be more important than whether you actually get the shot or not.
Stop being a bossy older sister. Probably looping-in family and friends to complain to. Shut up. Get the shot
My friends actually all agree with me on this. That's why i posted here.
I agree as well so would all of my friends, peers and everyone in my orbit.
Wrong thinking people tend to associate together so this means nothing
Anonymous
10/26/2025 14:38
Subject: Being asked to get covid, flu and Dtap shot before meeting baby
Good grief no!
Anonymous
10/26/2025 14:36
Subject: Being asked to get covid, flu and Dtap shot before meeting baby
I know a couple of people who deliberately went to social events while sick with Covid. They willingly harmed people. They are dead to me.
Anonymous
10/26/2025 14:35
Subject: Being asked to get covid, flu and Dtap shot before meeting baby
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am a mom of older teens so its been a while. My sister is having a baby and her ob/gym said anyone around the baby within the first two months must have a flu shot, covid shot and Dtap.
I've had enough covid shots and had covid a few times. I was not planning to get me or my kids another shot.
Is this standard for newborns now?
Your sister is asking you to help protect her baby. Who cares if it’s standard! If you don’t want to comply wait to see the child until you sister feels it’s safe. It sounds like you are looking for a reason to fight with your sister and have “proof” she’s wrong. It’s her kid. Let her do what she feels is best.
FWIW - I didn’t ask people to vaccinate and my kids were fine, but my youngest is 12. I did ask them to be healthy and wash their hands.
OP here - one thing I don't understand is that just because you have the recent covid shot doesn't mean you won't get Covid. If Covid is really the concern shouldn't they make everyone who enters the house test for covid? Family members will be walking off planes minutes before seeing them.
Ok, OP—I’m calling you out for being cagey.
You say you’re not anti Covid vax, but you also say you’ve had “enough” Covid shots without saying when your last shot was. And you’re doing that deliberately. And now here you are saying everyone should just be tested before seeing the baby rather than be vaccinated.
So clearly, what is going on here is not that you hadn’t “planned” to get a Covid shot—you simply don’t WANT to get one. You’re AGAINST getting another shot. Right?
No. I am against having my teenagers get another shot when it is not recommended for their demographic
Uh huh. Because Bobby Jr says so.
Anonymous
10/26/2025 14:33
Subject: Being asked to get covid, flu and Dtap shot before meeting baby
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I understand the flu shot and Dtap but the covid shot doesn't make sense to me. it doesn't prevent you from getting covid.
Either does the flu. People are such idiots
I got the dtap because we had a baby coming in our family. I had also had a flu shot as a matter of course (this was pre-COVID) and darned if the day after my second visit did I come down with Flu-Type A (after snuggling all over that kid) the next day! I felt terrible, but he was fine.
Anonymous
10/26/2025 14:30
Subject: Being asked to get covid, flu and Dtap shot before meeting baby
Anonymous wrote:I understand the flu shot and Dtap but the covid shot doesn't make sense to me. it doesn't prevent you from getting covid.
Either does the flu. People are such idiots