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Anonymous wrote:Sooo many things.
Mother would walk around the house bare chested because she was hot when my brother wasn’t around. My father was sometimes around though, and I was grossed out as well.
At least he wore his pants.

There’s just too much to list.
After my mother died I got a glimpse into my dad’s disgusting habits because I started coming over to help and later moved him closer to me and now visit regularly. He had this one bowl he eats his slop from. Slop as in mixing everything together - soup, some grains, veggies, whatever he has that day. He then leaves the empty bowl on the table and reuses it without washing. When I visit I make him wash it of course but he doesn’t do it when he is alone.

Why do you think it was gross your mom sometimes walked around topless at home? As someone who breastfed, this doesn't seem like a big deal.

The food bowl thing with your dad is kind of gross, but only because he's not washing that bowl regularly. I don't think it's gross to combine grains and veggies to eat them. I also think you calling it "slop" is making it sound grosser than it is. It just sounds like food to me.

The judgment you have here seems deeply misplaced.

When your kids are WAY beyond breastfeeding years, yes it’s incredibly inappropriate to walk around topless. No one wants to see that.

...what is the problem? This seems oddly prudish. We're talking about someone in their own home, with immediate family. Breasts are not genitals.

And where do you draw the line? What if someone on a hot day wears a light cotton dress around the house without a bra. Is that "incredibly inappropriate"?

I'm honestly baffled by this one. There's nothing sexual or unhygienic about this. No one is objecting to a dad walking around without his shirt off. I'm not trolling, I truly don't get this.

In American society, breasts are private.

In many societies breasts are private. And in most societies, females do not typically walk around completely topless in front of their family members. (With the exception being nudists which is an entirely different topic.)

Would it be OK for a teen girl to go topless in front of her father and brothers? If PP is "baffled" why this is not acceptable there may be something psychological going on.

PP here and the example you give us specific -- I'm guessing that scenario would make all family members uncomfortable so they wouldn't do it.

But I'm Swedish and my husband is Korean, and it's not considered weird in either of our cultures for women to be topless around young kids (pre-puberty), especially girls. There's nothing sexual or "psychological" about it. It's also normal for my DD (who is 7) to come into my bathroom while I'm showering if she needs to, and vice versa.

Teens become more private with their bodies, that's normal. And also more shy about their families. Aa kids express needs for privacy, we give it to them. But for instance it would be normal in my house for me to walk through the house topless while getting ready in the morning, or for DD to be naked around the house before or after a shower or while getting ready for bed.

I genuinely don't get what the big deal is. This is also how I was raised and it's not "gross" or traumatic to me.

But you're Swedish. That's YOUR culture and your norm. It's not the norm here in the U.S. and is a big deal for many people. That's what you need to "get." It's one thing to share a bathroom with a parent of the same sex but a 7 year old daughter who walks "around the house" nude is not the norm. If she were to do that at a friend's house it would definitely be cause for concern.

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Anonymous wrote:Sooo many things.
Mother would walk around the house bare chested because she was hot when my brother wasn’t around. My father was sometimes around though, and I was grossed out as well.
At least he wore his pants.

There’s just too much to list.
After my mother died I got a glimpse into my dad’s disgusting habits because I started coming over to help and later moved him closer to me and now visit regularly. He had this one bowl he eats his slop from. Slop as in mixing everything together - soup, some grains, veggies, whatever he has that day. He then leaves the empty bowl on the table and reuses it without washing. When I visit I make him wash it of course but he doesn’t do it when he is alone.

Why do you think it was gross your mom sometimes walked around topless at home? As someone who breastfed, this doesn't seem like a big deal.

The food bowl thing with your dad is kind of gross, but only because he's not washing that bowl regularly. I don't think it's gross to combine grains and veggies to eat them. I also think you calling it "slop" is making it sound grosser than it is. It just sounds like food to me.

The judgment you have here seems deeply misplaced.

When your kids are WAY beyond breastfeeding years, yes it’s incredibly inappropriate to walk around topless. No one wants to see that.

...what is the problem? This seems oddly prudish. We're talking about someone in their own home, with immediate family. Breasts are not genitals.

And where do you draw the line? What if someone on a hot day wears a light cotton dress around the house without a bra. Is that "incredibly inappropriate"?

I'm honestly baffled by this one. There's nothing sexual or unhygienic about this. No one is objecting to a dad walking around without his shirt off. I'm not trolling, I truly don't get this.

In American society, breasts are private.

In many societies breasts are private. And in most societies, females do not typically walk around completely topless in front of their family members. (With the exception being nudists which is an entirely different topic.)

Would it be OK for a teen girl to go topless in front of her father and brothers? If PP is "baffled" why this is not acceptable there may be something psychological going on.

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Anonymous wrote:They voted Republican.

It’s gotta be exhausting to be around you. You think you’re clever and "hip’ but you’re not.

Anonymous wrote:My mom is a hoarder. I didn't have friends over that often. She managed to keep most of it in the basement and upstairs. It was embarrassing as a child, I didn't want to have people over.

It has gotten much much worse in her old age. Her house is a disaster. She won't even allow me to come over. I dread the day I have to clean it out.

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Anonymous wrote:So many canned peas and canned green beans as the vegetable for dinner.

I love canned peas.

Anonymous wrote:So many canned peas and canned green beans as the vegetable for dinner.

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Anonymous wrote:Sooo many things.
Mother would walk around the house bare chested because she was hot when my brother wasn’t around. My father was sometimes around though, and I was grossed out as well.
At least he wore his pants.

There’s just too much to list.
After my mother died I got a glimpse into my dad’s disgusting habits because I started coming over to help and later moved him closer to me and now visit regularly. He had this one bowl he eats his slop from. Slop as in mixing everything together - soup, some grains, veggies, whatever he has that day. He then leaves the empty bowl on the table and reuses it without washing. When I visit I make him wash it of course but he doesn’t do it when he is alone.

Why do you think it was gross your mom sometimes walked around topless at home? As someone who breastfed, this doesn't seem like a big deal.

The food bowl thing with your dad is kind of gross, but only because he's not washing that bowl regularly. I don't think it's gross to combine grains and veggies to eat them. I also think you calling it "slop" is making it sound grosser than it is. It just sounds like food to me.

The judgment you have here seems deeply misplaced.

When your kids are WAY beyond breastfeeding years, yes it’s incredibly inappropriate to walk around topless. No one wants to see that.

...what is the problem? This seems oddly prudish. We're talking about someone in their own home, with immediate family. Breasts are not genitals.

And where do you draw the line? What if someone on a hot day wears a light cotton dress around the house without a bra. Is that "incredibly inappropriate"?

I'm honestly baffled by this one. There's nothing sexual or unhygienic about this. No one is objecting to a dad walking around without his shirt off. I'm not trolling, I truly don't get this.

In American society, breasts are private.

In many societies breasts are private. And in most societies, females do not typically walk around completely topless in front of their family members. (With the exception being nudists which is an entirely different topic.)

Would it be OK for a teen girl to go topless in front of her father and brothers? If PP is "baffled" why this is not acceptable there may be something psychological going on.

Family friends in Sweden were nudists. Whole family.

It came up when my dad took a sabbatical and we moved there for a year; we socialized with that family quite a bit. I remember they mentioned several times, then brought out a photo album of their summer vacation at a “naturist” campground. The whole family was completely just, naked. And doing normal campground stuff; barbecues, campfires, fishing in a lake, etc. I think they wanted my family to come camping with their family, but it just wasn’t our thing.

BBQing and nudity do not go together.

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Anonymous wrote:Sooo many things.
Mother would walk around the house bare chested because she was hot when my brother wasn’t around. My father was sometimes around though, and I was grossed out as well.
At least he wore his pants.

There’s just too much to list.
After my mother died I got a glimpse into my dad’s disgusting habits because I started coming over to help and later moved him closer to me and now visit regularly. He had this one bowl he eats his slop from. Slop as in mixing everything together - soup, some grains, veggies, whatever he has that day. He then leaves the empty bowl on the table and reuses it without washing. When I visit I make him wash it of course but he doesn’t do it when he is alone.

Why do you think it was gross your mom sometimes walked around topless at home? As someone who breastfed, this doesn't seem like a big deal.

The food bowl thing with your dad is kind of gross, but only because he's not washing that bowl regularly. I don't think it's gross to combine grains and veggies to eat them. I also think you calling it "slop" is making it sound grosser than it is. It just sounds like food to me.

The judgment you have here seems deeply misplaced.

When your kids are WAY beyond breastfeeding years, yes it’s incredibly inappropriate to walk around topless. No one wants to see that.

...what is the problem? This seems oddly prudish. We're talking about someone in their own home, with immediate family. Breasts are not genitals.

And where do you draw the line? What if someone on a hot day wears a light cotton dress around the house without a bra. Is that "incredibly inappropriate"?

I'm honestly baffled by this one. There's nothing sexual or unhygienic about this. No one is objecting to a dad walking around without his shirt off. I'm not trolling, I truly don't get this.

In American society, breasts are private.

In many societies breasts are private. And in most societies, females do not typically walk around completely topless in front of their family members. (With the exception being nudists which is an entirely different topic.)

Would it be OK for a teen girl to go topless in front of her father and brothers? If PP is "baffled" why this is not acceptable there may be something psychological going on.

Family friends in Sweden were nudists. Whole family.

It came up when my dad took a sabbatical and we moved there for a year; we socialized with that family quite a bit. I remember they mentioned several times, then brought out a photo album of their summer vacation at a “naturist” campground. The whole family was completely just, naked. And doing normal campground stuff; barbecues, campfires, fishing in a lake, etc. I think they wanted my family to come camping with their family, but it just wasn’t our thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Sooo many things.
Mother would walk around the house bare chested because she was hot when my brother wasn’t around. My father was sometimes around though, and I was grossed out as well.
At least he wore his pants.

There’s just too much to list.
After my mother died I got a glimpse into my dad’s disgusting habits because I started coming over to help and later moved him closer to me and now visit regularly. He had this one bowl he eats his slop from. Slop as in mixing everything together - soup, some grains, veggies, whatever he has that day. He then leaves the empty bowl on the table and reuses it without washing. When I visit I make him wash it of course but he doesn’t do it when he is alone.

Why do you think it was gross your mom sometimes walked around topless at home? As someone who breastfed, this doesn't seem like a big deal.

The food bowl thing with your dad is kind of gross, but only because he's not washing that bowl regularly. I don't think it's gross to combine grains and veggies to eat them. I also think you calling it "slop" is making it sound grosser than it is. It just sounds like food to me.

The judgment you have here seems deeply misplaced.

When your kids are WAY beyond breastfeeding years, yes it’s incredibly inappropriate to walk around topless. No one wants to see that.

...what is the problem? This seems oddly prudish. We're talking about someone in their own home, with immediate family. Breasts are not genitals.

And where do you draw the line? What if someone on a hot day wears a light cotton dress around the house without a bra. Is that "incredibly inappropriate"?

I'm honestly baffled by this one. There's nothing sexual or unhygienic about this. No one is objecting to a dad walking around without his shirt off. I'm not trolling, I truly don't get this.

In American society, breasts are private.

In many societies breasts are private. And in most societies, females do not typically walk around completely topless in front of their family members. (With the exception being nudists which is an entirely different topic.)

Would it be OK for a teen girl to go topless in front of her father and brothers? If PP is "baffled" why this is not acceptable there may be something psychological going on.

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Anonymous wrote:Dad would pour Hawaiian Punch into his beer. This is a man who was raised in Germany with German parents, for Pete's sake!

Have you ever heard of Altbierbowle? Sounds like a make-shift version.

No, but the Hawaiian Punch was a syrup so maybe that’s how he came up with the idea.

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Anonymous wrote:Dad would pour Hawaiian Punch into his beer. This is a man who was raised in Germany with German parents, for Pete's sake!

Have you ever heard of Altbierbowle? Sounds like a make-shift version.