Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why did you want a dog? Dogs are pack animals. You are part of her pack. Of course she wants to be with you!
You do not have the right temperament for a dog. Hopefully your family members are nicer and dog people.
It’s not about not being nice. It’s just that OP isn’t a dog person. You don’t have to be a dog person to be a nice, good person.
Anonymous wrote:We all wanted a dog and we finally got one. It was the worse decision of my life. Why do people have dogs as pets? She is very…. Pointless? She just walks around and follows me all the damn time. I have to plan my entire day around her shitting, peeing, etc. I feel like a slave to this animal. I planned on calling off work tomorrow. I need a break! However, the thought of being home with this dog all day, after the weekend, is a no go. The family helps but I am her go to person. She is 9 months. Does it get better? Doggy daycare needed? Longer walks so she leaves me the hell alone after? She isn’t even a hyper dog. She is just always freaking there. I would much rather have 5 more kids to one dog. How do I try to like my dog? It’s been two months and I just view her as annoying. I am ok with you telling me I am a harsh person if I am but please also tell me what I can do to help her and me.
Anonymous wrote:Op, it does get better. Can you pee train her in the house? We have a system in our bathroom and dog uses it a few times a day.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Hang in there, it gets better but very slowly.
A fence for our back yard was/is an expensive but very helpful training & management tool
OP here. I forgot about this thread.... I am dying for a fence. I think that is a huge problem for me. Every time she is outside, someone has to be out there. She can not just be out there on her own because it is unsafe. So at 5am, I am out there rain, shine and cold. 9pm? I am out there rain, shine or cold. From the moment I wake up until I go to sleep, my day is revolved around her. I have a 50 ft leash and staked it to the ground but still, I do not feel comfortable enough to leave her out there unsupervised for even 5 minutes. Getting a fence is not an option though. Someone had mentioned to me about an electric collar but I do not know how it works and do not want to traumatize her. She is already so skittish and timid that it seems cruel to do so. Potty training has gotten much better. My entire house kept smelling like pee. I finally picked up out 8x10 carpet and realized that she has been peeing on it without our knowledge. There were pee stains all on the bottom. It was gross honestly. I threw it out. House smells better and her peeing in the house has eased up. Maybe an accident once a week... Yes, she still follows me everywhere. I sneeze and she runs over to check if I am ok. I stand up and she is at my feet. I have to get used to it. I shamefully take breaks in my car in the driveway. I like my me time. I do not want to rehome her. I am not treating her horribly. She is well taken care of. I like her. I may not love her. I think that is ok. We tried daycare once a week but it was horrible that we paused it. She just cried and trembled with the dogs and people. We will try later but it does not seem worth it right now.
Anonymous wrote:
Hang in there, it gets better but very slowly.
A fence for our back yard was/is an expensive but very helpful training & management tool
Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP - I find my dog very annoying as well. He’s constantly in my way and under my feet. He’s 20 lbs as well and I walk him much longer than 20 minutes for at least 3 of his daily walks - more like 45-60 minutes (but when he was a puppy sometimes up to 90 minutes). That tires him out enough to take a nap and leave me in peace. The other 4 walks are shorter (10-30 mins). We send him to daycare on the weekends so we can enjoy life without spending the whole day walking the dog.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, this is life with a dog, which is why I don't have one. I grew up with outdoor pets who earned their keep. They killed rodents and scared off snakes and were good for security. We fed them once or twice a day, took them to the vet once a year, and brushed the dog's coat every once in a while. That was about it. If the dog developed an expensive health issue that lowered their quality of you, you put the dog down.
Now people walk their dogs multiple times a day, pick up their sh*t, let them lives in their houses, pay for expensive doggy day care when they go out of town, pay absurd vet bills set by hedge funds, etc. It's insane.
It does sound like dog might benefit from training. But yeah they are a lot of work.
This shift goes along with the whole bs "gentle training" movement, wherein you're supposed to ask your dog nicely and bribe them instead of demanding they comply because their feelings are more important than the results.
The good ol' days, when only people who knew what they were doing owned dogs and the dogs served a purpose beyond "living stuffed animal for emotionally-stunted adults" were better. Make Dog-Ownership Great Again, or something.