Anonymous wrote:Why would you want to stay with someone that doesn’t want to be with you? I know it hurts but if he were cheating you would be here saying why not just divorce instead of cheating? You can fall out of love with someone, I know it hurts but you will be fine. Go to a mediator and split amicably and be great coparents.

Anonymous wrote:How about giving his some p*ssy. I guarantee he feels totally neglected. That's the reason most men want out of a marriage.

Anonymous wrote:Do a Hillary Clinton and just sit back and watch the show.

Anonymous wrote:How about giving his some p*ssy. I guarantee he feels totally neglected. That's the reason most men want out of a marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t divorce if you have kids. You owe to your kids to remain married. Just separate and regulatly meet for dinners and spend time together with the kids. Be good coparents. Oh and be sure to meet for booty calls weekly or whatever works for both of you. While this is not conventional, it is still better than divorce.

Op please follow this excellent outside of box advice. Grass is not greener on the other side. Ignore all the trigger happy women of this board. There is no proof that your husband cheated. The fact that he asked for divorce could mean that you may need to work on your personality.

HOW DO YOU STAY MARRIED TO SOMEONE WHO INITIATES DIVORCE???????

Yeah, I don’t know if it’s one dim bulb who doesn’t get this or multiple people actually think you can stay married to someone who’s already left the building.

If he left the building due to op’s terrible personality, she can stay married by improving her personality

It doesn’t even matter why. He said he no longer wants to be married to her, and doesn’t want to go to therapy to discuss it. He’s done. You can’t play tug of war when the other person has dropped the rope and walked away. You cannot force someone to stay married to you. Divorce does not need a two party agreement.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t divorce if you have kids. You owe to your kids to remain married. Just separate and regulatly meet for dinners and spend time together with the kids. Be good coparents. Oh and be sure to meet for booty calls weekly or whatever works for both of you. While this is not conventional, it is still better than divorce.

Op please follow this excellent outside of box advice. Grass is not greener on the other side. Ignore all the trigger happy women of this board. There is no proof that your husband cheated. The fact that he asked for divorce could mean that you may need to work on your personality.

Very few people are trigger happy – at least not in this thread. Suggestions to talk to a lawyer to find out the various paths ahead is smart. One person suggested filing first. One. So maybe take your BS elsewhere and stop giving crap advice and lecturing people who have been badly hurt by someone they trusted.

Situations like OPs are not typical. When someone gets blindsided, their spouse has already formulated an exit plan and checked out long ago. This is not a situation where there has been a two way discussion that resulted in a separation. This is an FYI on the way out the door.

Recommending that someone "work on their personality" in hopes of winning back someone who has clearly spelled out that they no longer want to be there is not better than divorce. Sorrynotsorry, you insufferable POS.

Or it's just a threat because he doesn't know how else to fix a problem in the marriage. Has he actually moved out? Not arguing that OP should win him back or change herself, but trying to get to the bottom of the issue. OP should treat it, at minimum, as a serious warning and take protective measures around finances and other logistics.

She says he’s likely having an affair, so the reason for his departure is logical. It doesn’t seem a big mystery to OP.

Just because she says/thinks doesn’t make it true. There’s no proof

Yet. There's no proof yet.

What proof does she need of anything other than he literally told her he wants a divorce?

Exactly. When someone tells you how they feel or what they want - Believe them.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t divorce if you have kids. You owe to your kids to remain married. Just separate and regulatly meet for dinners and spend time together with the kids. Be good coparents. Oh and be sure to meet for booty calls weekly or whatever works for both of you. While this is not conventional, it is still better than divorce.

What? Booty calls with the Ex spouse?

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t divorce if you have kids. You owe to your kids to remain married. Just separate and regulatly meet for dinners and spend time together with the kids. Be good coparents. Oh and be sure to meet for booty calls weekly or whatever works for both of you. While this is not conventional, it is still better than divorce.

Op please follow this excellent outside of box advice. Grass is not greener on the other side. Ignore all the trigger happy women of this board. There is no proof that your husband cheated. The fact that he asked for divorce could mean that you may need to work on your personality.

Very few people are trigger happy – at least not in this thread. Suggestions to talk to a lawyer to find out the various paths ahead is smart. One person suggested filing first. One. So maybe take your BS elsewhere and stop giving crap advice and lecturing people who have been badly hurt by someone they trusted.

Situations like OPs are not typical. When someone gets blindsided, their spouse has already formulated an exit plan and checked out long ago. This is not a situation where there has been a two way discussion that resulted in a separation. This is an FYI on the way out the door.

Recommending that someone "work on their personality" in hopes of winning back someone who has clearly spelled out that they no longer want to be there is not better than divorce. Sorrynotsorry, you insufferable POS.

Or it's just a threat because he doesn't know how else to fix a problem in the marriage. Has he actually moved out? Not arguing that OP should win him back or change herself, but trying to get to the bottom of the issue. OP should treat it, at minimum, as a serious warning and take protective measures around finances and other logistics.

She says he’s likely having an affair, so the reason for his departure is logical. It doesn’t seem a big mystery to OP.

Just because she says/thinks doesn’t make it true. There’s no proof

Yet. There's no proof yet.

What proof does she need of anything other than he literally told her he wants a divorce?

Anonymous wrote:How about giving his some p*ssy. I guarantee he feels totally neglected. That's the reason most men want out of a marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:How about giving his some p*ssy. I guarantee he feels totally neglected. That's the reason most men want out of a marriage.

Ah. You're that guy whose wife realized that no s#x is preferable to s#x with someone like you.

Not true. I have a pretty good relationship with my wife. No complaints. I do know several divorced couples and it's always the same story.

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Anonymous wrote:How about giving his some p*ssy. I guarantee he feels totally neglected. That's the reason most men want out of a marriage.

Ah. You're that guy whose wife realized that no s#x is preferable to s#x with someone like you.

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