Anonymous wrote:We let a friend’s daughter stay with us for 3 months in a similar situation. It was a bit inconvenient at times but not that big a deal. I would want my friends to do this for my kids if they were in this situation and I believe they would. Why don’t people help each other anymore?
Anonymous wrote:He will get far more out of this program living in the programs housing which your mother should pay for since she’s looking to make this happen. Part of the value of these things is living independently with similar smart, motivated kids. Explain this to your rude mother.
No way would I do this in the situation you describe. Hosting a 16 year old means driving them around, feeding them, taking them on any of your vacation, weekend or whatever plans, juggling your kids activities with their activities etc. Does your mother expect you to get an extra car for the kid to use? Give them a hefty allowance for parking and or cover their parking tickets? Unless you live in safe walking distance to a metro area you the rude, bulky kid’s on call Uber?
Since the bully kid is so above every I’m sure your mother expects you to do his laundry, clean up after him and take him with you on all outings. Just no!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's ice cold to have your 16 year old nephew stay elsewhere.
Agree. Also your kids need to gain some grit. I think the real issue is that you don’t want your kids to see how comparatively spoiled and delicate they are.
Making a 16-year-old nephew stay by himself in a basement so your children don’t have to experience a single negative emotion ever in their lives is horrifically bad parenting.
I couldn't disagree more.
Anonymous wrote:I would invite him and EDUCATE him on his responses and general attitude. It's critical that he change, because otherwise he will be hated at work, and he won't be able to stay in relationships. You can tell him outright that you did not appreciate how he talked last time, and that you are happy to welcome him again, but that he needs to be careful not to hurt feelings like this.
Also, why are your nephew's parents not talking with you directly?
Anonymous wrote:What law firms offer scholarships? This sounds made up.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's very odd that a law firm would offer an internship to a 16 year old.
I don't think it's that odd. There are all sorts of selective summer programs for outstanding students. There Re athletic ones too. I went to olympic training during the summers at 14 and lived in a dorm. This isn't that different. He's 16, not a baby.
Anonymous wrote:If this is not a troll post, you are not a good person OP. Where I come from, we help our family when they need us, even if it is inconvenient at times. But, “boundaries”—right?