Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so bizarre my elderly family loves calls and visits but we are close.

your elderly parent married to someone in their 60s loves calls from 3 kids daily?

my mother loves calls and visits but she lives alone and is very dependent on my sister and me

My mother is older than Hackman and I don’t call her every day or every week. She’s busy and so am I. Get over your judgmental small minded selves.

So she could die, and you wouldn't know for a week?

DP, but so what? Mom is still dead regardless of whether you know the minute after it happens or a month later.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so bizarre my elderly family loves calls and visits but we are close.

your elderly parent married to someone in their 60s loves calls from 3 kids daily?

my mother loves calls and visits but she lives alone and is very dependent on my sister and me

My mother is older than Hackman and I don’t call her every day or every week. She’s busy and so am I. Get over your judgmental small minded selves.

That's weird. Not going to win any good daughter awards, that's for sure.

+1

Thanks for confirming that your weekly/daily check ins with your beloved parents are 100% performative.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so bizarre my elderly family loves calls and visits but we are close.

your elderly parent married to someone in their 60s loves calls from 3 kids daily?

my mother loves calls and visits but she lives alone and is very dependent on my sister and me

My mother is older than Hackman and I don’t call her every day or every week. She’s busy and so am I. Get over your judgmental small minded selves.

You sound wretched. Holy crap.

Yep

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so bizarre my elderly family loves calls and visits but we are close.

your elderly parent married to someone in their 60s loves calls from 3 kids daily?

my mother loves calls and visits but she lives alone and is very dependent on my sister and me

My mother is older than Hackman and I don’t call her every day or every week. She’s busy and so am I. Get over your judgmental small minded selves.

You sound wretched. Holy crap.

Anonymous wrote:so bizarre my elderly family loves calls and visits but we are close.

+1 we're the same in my family

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so bizarre my elderly family loves calls and visits but we are close.

your elderly parent married to someone in their 60s loves calls from 3 kids daily?

my mother loves calls and visits but she lives alone and is very dependent on my sister and me

My mother is older than Hackman and I don’t call her every day or every week. She’s busy and so am I. Get over your judgmental small minded selves.

That's weird. Not going to win any good daughter awards, that's for sure.

Yeah. DAMN. Your mom is older than 95 and you don't call at least once a week? I mean do you guys like each other?

I can’t call my mom every week anymore because she has dementia; I have to wait for my brother to be there and have time (she lives several states away).

I assume she's in a nursing home or has a caregiver.

Yeah, the key is whether your parent lives alone or not. In this case though it sounds like some checking in would have been beneficial, though who knows if it would have changed the outcome. It's always our instinct to try to say how we would avoid the bad thing, just to feel better about our chances of not having bad things happen.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so bizarre my elderly family loves calls and visits but we are close.

your elderly parent married to someone in their 60s loves calls from 3 kids daily?

my mother loves calls and visits but she lives alone and is very dependent on my sister and me

My mother is older than Hackman and I don’t call her every day or every week. She’s busy and so am I. Get over your judgmental small minded selves.

That's weird. Not going to win any good daughter awards, that's for sure.

+1

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so bizarre my elderly family loves calls and visits but we are close.

your elderly parent married to someone in their 60s loves calls from 3 kids daily?

my mother loves calls and visits but she lives alone and is very dependent on my sister and me

My mother is older than Hackman and I don’t call her every day or every week. She’s busy and so am I. Get over your judgmental small minded selves.

That's weird. Not going to win any good daughter awards, that's for sure.

Yeah. DAMN. Your mom is older than 95 and you don't call at least once a week? I mean do you guys like each other?

I can’t call my mom every week anymore because she has dementia; I have to wait for my brother to be there and have time (she lives several states away).

I assume she's in a nursing home or has a caregiver.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so bizarre my elderly family loves calls and visits but we are close.

your elderly parent married to someone in their 60s loves calls from 3 kids daily?

my mother loves calls and visits but she lives alone and is very dependent on my sister and me

My mother is older than Hackman and I don’t call her every day or every week. She’s busy and so am I. Get over your judgmental small minded selves.

So she could die, and you wouldn't know for a week?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so bizarre my elderly family loves calls and visits but we are close.

your elderly parent married to someone in their 60s loves calls from 3 kids daily?

my mother loves calls and visits but she lives alone and is very dependent on my sister and me

My mother is older than Hackman and I don’t call her every day or every week. She’s busy and so am I. Get over your judgmental small minded selves.

That's weird. Not going to win any good daughter awards, that's for sure.

DP

IME the elderly parents who raise kids that don’t win “daughter of the year” were never exactly “parent of the year” themselves.

I’m guessing you suspect this will be you some day and you’re projecting.

My parents (early 80s, in good health) and I text or talk daily, even when they're traveling, which is quite often. In truth, I think they're more worried about me than I am about them, as I live alone, but it's a routine that I appreciate and will be grateful that we've set this precedent when I'm the worried one or when unfortunately there's only one of them left. Our contact is pretty brief, outside of a once-weekly scheduled call. Often just a picture of something. But I like being in touch.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so bizarre my elderly family loves calls and visits but we are close.

your elderly parent married to someone in their 60s loves calls from 3 kids daily?

my mother loves calls and visits but she lives alone and is very dependent on my sister and me

My mother is older than Hackman and I don’t call her every day or every week. She’s busy and so am I. Get over your judgmental small minded selves.

That's weird. Not going to win any good daughter awards, that's for sure.

Yeah. DAMN. Your mom is older than 95 and you don't call at least once a week? I mean do you guys like each other?

I can’t call my mom every week anymore because she has dementia; I have to wait for my brother to be there and have time (she lives several states away).

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so bizarre my elderly family loves calls and visits but we are close.

your elderly parent married to someone in their 60s loves calls from 3 kids daily?

my mother loves calls and visits but she lives alone and is very dependent on my sister and me

My mother is older than Hackman and I don’t call her every day or every week. She’s busy and so am I. Get over your judgmental small minded selves.

That's weird. Not going to win any good daughter awards, that's for sure.

Yeah. DAMN. Your mom is older than 95 and you don't call at least once a week? I mean do you guys like each other?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so bizarre my elderly family loves calls and visits but we are close.

your elderly parent married to someone in their 60s loves calls from 3 kids daily?

my mother loves calls and visits but she lives alone and is very dependent on my sister and me

My mother is older than Hackman and I don’t call her every day or every week. She’s busy and so am I. Get over your judgmental small minded selves.

That's weird. Not going to win any good daughter awards, that's for sure.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so bizarre my elderly family loves calls and visits but we are close.

your elderly parent married to someone in their 60s loves calls from 3 kids daily?

my mother loves calls and visits but she lives alone and is very dependent on my sister and me

My mother is older than Hackman and I don’t call her every day or every week. She’s busy and so am I. Get over your judgmental small minded selves.