I normally get nothing. My x husband did treat me well on holidays....my thought is...it doesn't need to cost money. When you say that snd your significant other cant even plan a massage or make you a homemade gift...they just don't care too. If they do other holidays I get it. Mine does nothing for any of them. Truth be told I will probably leave him....he gets one last try after a.long conversation and straight and specific request.

Anonymous wrote:DH didn’t buy me roses or chocolate but he cleaned the house (he was home because our son is sick), did the dishes, did all my laundry washed and folded, stocked the fridge for the weekend and ordered dinner from my favorite Thai place. Best Valentine’s Day ever!

* This may not be everyone’s cup of tea but his love language is acts of service.

This 100% would be my ideal gift. I usually make dinner on Valentine’s Day, but was volunteering at a food pantry, so my DH picked up carry out. Perfect!

Gave nothing and received nothing

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Anonymous wrote:It’s more a holiday for people who are dating. When you’re married you have a wedding anniversary.

DH and I enjoy both.

Right? Imagine taking two whole days to do something extra to celebrate your partner.

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Anonymous wrote:If you're an adult and expect something for V day you need to get a life. It's fake holiday. I hope if you have kids there are more important things to think or focus on than getting stuff because of a made up holiday.

Counterpoint: if you’re an adult in a romantic partnership where your partner can’t spend $0.99 to buy you a card and the 15 minutes it would take to write something truly thoughtful, you need to get a better relationship.

And model higher expectations for your kid.

Cards are way more than $0.99

Trader Joe’s cards are .99
At a dollar store they can be 2/$1.00

Stop making excuses it’s embarrassing.

Anonymous wrote:It’s more a holiday for people who are dating. When you’re married you have a wedding anniversary.

DH and I enjoy both.

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Anonymous wrote:I have stupidly been waiting for the doorbell to ring all day and even opening the door to check if flowers were left there. I am truly an idiot. Why do I keep thinking he will finally do something? I did remind my son to make sure to do something nice for his girlfriend because it really stinks to be forgotten.

This makes me sad for you. Go do something nice for yourself!

I dunno. Down below she says she wants to divorce him. But she’s thinking the guy she’s that unhappy with might send flowers? Feels like a self inflicted injury.

Yeah, if I knew someone felt that way about me, wanting a divorce, I probably wouldn’t be buying them a big bouquet on Vday.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s the same if you have to send your husband a link to get you flowers. That’s almost worse than nothing.

But still not worse.

Anonymous wrote:It’s more a holiday for people who are dating. When you’re married you have a wedding anniversary.

This. We celebrate the romantic days that have meaning for us instead.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're an adult and expect something for V day you need to get a life. It's fake holiday. I hope if you have kids there are more important things to think or focus on than getting stuff because of a made up holiday.

Counterpoint: if you’re an adult in a romantic partnership where your partner can’t spend $0.99 to buy you a card and the 15 minutes it would take to write something truly thoughtful, you need to get a better relationship.

And model higher expectations for your kid.

Cards are way more than $0.99

At Trader Joe’s cards are $0.99

It’s more a holiday for people who are dating. When you’re married you have a wedding anniversary.

Anonymous wrote:DH didn’t buy me roses or chocolate but he cleaned the house (he was home because our son is sick), did the dishes, did all my laundry washed and folded, stocked the fridge for the weekend and ordered dinner from my favorite Thai place. Best Valentine’s Day ever!

* This may not be everyone’s cup of tea but his love language is acts of service.

This is 💯 me, down to the Thai food!!! I would have loved the rest but I’ll settle for the fact that Husband made a reservation at a Thai place for dinner and it was amazing! Good for you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're an adult and expect something for V day you need to get a life. It's fake holiday. I hope if you have kids there are more important things to think or focus on than getting stuff because of a made up holiday.

Counterpoint: if you’re an adult in a romantic partnership where your partner can’t spend $0.99 to buy you a card and the 15 minutes it would take to write something truly thoughtful, you need to get a better relationship.

And model higher expectations for your kid.

Cards are way more than $0.99

We get each other cards and go out to dinner.

Neither DH or I got each other anything. With double unemployment, I'd rather save everything we have. Had he wasted that money on flowers, I might have even been mad.