Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 10:16     Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
My husband often takes calls in the car and may get to bus stop or kid school or practice early so he can not be driving while on call. I often criticize him for being super early to pick up kids and he says he would rather not deal with traffic and take calls in parking lot. There isn’t enough time to come home so he just goes to the school.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 10:00     Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think the parents who drive to our public middle school every day, twice a day, think they are fancy or something. Like they are pretending their kid attends private school. Often the girls hop of the car with fresh Starbucks.


LOL. While I agree with you to a point, let’s not pretend only girls get Starbucks, Chick-fil-a, Dunkin, etc. Stop trying to blame girls for this ridiculous parenting scenario created by adults.


I don’t understand pp’s fancy private school comment. I have two teen boys. We don’t get Starbucks. They do carpool. It isn’t fancy. They roll into car before and after sports practice. Sometimes we get chipotle.

At our elementary, the girls do roll up in groups and may hold Starbucks or Stanley cups (out now?). My boys were not into this. I think it is a girl thing.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 10:00     Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I just volunteered for my son’s Spanish party at the middle school, as his teacher asked for parents to assist with set-up, serving food, and clean-up. This was during the second-to-last period of the day.

When I got to my car, a full HOUR ahead of the final dismissal bell, what do I see? A line of cars at least 20 deep, already forming the school pick-up line.

Are you people insane? Do you have nothing better to do with your time? Do you hate comfort? If your kids can’t walk home from school, you know they have buses, right? There’s buses for that. Are you seriously so afraid that Little Spencer or Brayden Jaymes or Lindseigh Grayson can’t handle the bus?

Is this seriously what you do with your time? You send your kid to school to learn about climate change, while you sit there burning fossil fuels and emitting pollution for a FULL HOUR? What is wrong with you?


I thought this was elementary school thing for parents to set up for parties, middle schoolers tend to dislike having parents at parties and rather do it themselves with their teachers.

As far as parents in carpool lane, there are several reasons for parents to do that. They coordinate it with picking kids on their way from work to home, with elementary school sibling pick up, doctor/dentist appointments, holiday shopping trips, afterschool activities etc.

Many are taking work/social calls from the car or other ways to multitask while waiting because going home and coming back would take as mucch time but add extra stress.

Middle and high school car rides are crucial time together for parent-kid bonding. Everyone should make the most of this.




So why not just stay at work and do your work until dismissal? Or work in a I don’t get how waiting in your car for an hour is helpful. If school get out at 3, your options are to arrive at 2, wait and hour, leave at 3:05. Or, arrive at 3:05 and leave at 3:10. You are buying yourself maybe 5-10 extra min tops by sitting there an hour. Is that really necessary?


She wasn’t asking for suggestions Janice. It works for her. What’s it to you?
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 09:55     Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I just volunteered for my son’s Spanish party at the middle school, as his teacher asked for parents to assist with set-up, serving food, and clean-up. This was during the second-to-last period of the day.

When I got to my car, a full HOUR ahead of the final dismissal bell, what do I see? A line of cars at least 20 deep, already forming the school pick-up line.

Are you people insane? Do you have nothing better to do with your time? Do you hate comfort? If your kids can’t walk home from school, you know they have buses, right? There’s buses for that. Are you seriously so afraid that Little Spencer or Brayden Jaymes or Lindseigh Grayson can’t handle the bus?

Is this seriously what you do with your time? You send your kid to school to learn about climate change, while you sit there burning fossil fuels and emitting pollution for a FULL HOUR? What is wrong with you?


I thought this was elementary school thing for parents to set up for parties, middle schoolers tend to dislike having parents at parties and rather do it themselves with their teachers.

As far as parents in carpool lane, there are several reasons for parents to do that. They coordinate it with picking kids on their way from work to home, with elementary school sibling pick up, doctor/dentist appointments, holiday shopping trips, afterschool activities etc.

Many are taking work/social calls from the car or other ways to multitask while waiting because going home and coming back would take as mucch time but add extra stress.

Middle and high school car rides are crucial time together for parent-kid bonding. Everyone should make the most of this.




So why not just stay at work and do your work until dismissal? Or work in a I don’t get how waiting in your car for an hour is helpful. If school get out at 3, your options are to arrive at 2, wait and hour, leave at 3:05. Or, arrive at 3:05 and leave at 3:10. You are buying yourself maybe 5-10 extra min tops by sitting there an hour. Is that really necessary?
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 09:54     Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:I think the parents who drive to our public middle school every day, twice a day, think they are fancy or something. Like they are pretending their kid attends private school. Often the girls hop of the car with fresh Starbucks.


LOL. While I agree with you to a point, let’s not pretend only girls get Starbucks, Chick-fil-a, Dunkin, etc. Stop trying to blame girls for this ridiculous parenting scenario created by adults.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 09:52     Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I just volunteered for my son’s Spanish party at the middle school, as his teacher asked for parents to assist with set-up, serving food, and clean-up. This was during the second-to-last period of the day.

When I got to my car, a full HOUR ahead of the final dismissal bell, what do I see? A line of cars at least 20 deep, already forming the school pick-up line.

Are you people insane? Do you have nothing better to do with your time? Do you hate comfort? If your kids can’t walk home from school, you know they have buses, right? There’s buses for that. Are you seriously so afraid that Little Spencer or Brayden Jaymes or Lindseigh Grayson can’t handle the bus?

Is this seriously what you do with your time? You send your kid to school to learn about climate change, while you sit there burning fossil fuels and emitting pollution for a FULL HOUR? What is wrong with you?


I thought this was elementary school thing for parents to set up for parties, middle schoolers tend to dislike having parents at parties and rather do it themselves with their teachers.

As far as parents in carpool lane, there are several reasons for parents to do that. They coordinate it with picking kids on their way from work to home, with elementary school sibling pick up, doctor/dentist appointments, holiday shopping trips, afterschool activities etc.

Many are taking work/social calls from the car or other ways to multitask while waiting because going home and coming back would take as mucch time but add extra stress.

Middle and high school car rides are crucial time together for parent-kid bonding. Everyone should make the most of this.



Middle school teacher here. I ask for parent volunteers once a year. THANK YOU to the parents who help out. We have a cake-making contest and I need to leave the room to pick up cakes that have been stored in the faculty lounge, or dropped off in the office. Adult volunteers mean I can leave my class to get that done.

If a teacher is asking for parent volunteers, it is because we’ve thought the scenario through and need some adult assistance. Otherwise we don’t want or need parents just to be there.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 09:49     Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
I have never been at the front of the line for pick up for any of my children (2 public, 1 private). I know that when I’m 15 min early, I’m fairly middle of pack. I once tried to get my kid early and got to elementary 30 min early thinking I would be first in line and there were at least 20 cars ahead of me.

To be in the front of line of a school with a thousand kids, it is probably an hour. My child was friends with a kid when she was in preschool and nanny would go to carpool line an hour early because child wanted to be one of the first to be picked up. Nanny would take younger sibling in car early.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 09:39     Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
I think the parents who drive to our public middle school every day, twice a day, think they are fancy or something. Like they are pretending their kid attends private school. Often the girls hop of the car with fresh Starbucks.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 09:14     Subject: Re:Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
I don’t pick up often in middle but I just park on a side street and have my kids walk to me. I show up about 5-10 min after dismissal bell.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2024 06:06     Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:I just volunteered for my son’s Spanish party at the middle school, as his teacher asked for parents to assist with set-up, serving food, and clean-up. This was during the second-to-last period of the day.

When I got to my car, a full HOUR ahead of the final dismissal bell, what do I see? A line of cars at least 20 deep, already forming the school pick-up line.

Are you people insane? Do you have nothing better to do with your time? Do you hate comfort? If your kids can’t walk home from school, you know they have buses, right? There’s buses for that. Are you seriously so afraid that Little Spencer or Brayden Jaymes or Lindseigh Grayson can’t handle the bus?

Is this seriously what you do with your time? You send your kid to school to learn about climate change, while you sit there burning fossil fuels and emitting pollution for a FULL HOUR? What is wrong with you?


I thought this was elementary school thing for parents to set up for parties, middle schoolers tend to dislike having parents at parties and rather do it themselves with their teachers.

As far as parents in carpool lane, there are several reasons for parents to do that. They coordinate it with picking kids on their way from work to home, with elementary school sibling pick up, doctor/dentist appointments, holiday shopping trips, afterschool activities etc.

Many are taking work/social calls from the car or other ways to multitask while waiting because going home and coming back would take as mucch time but add extra stress.

Middle and high school car rides are crucial time together for parent-kid bonding. Everyone should make the most of this.


Anonymous
Post 12/20/2024 16:19     Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:I often end up waiting at my kid's school. My kid attends a school that's far from my home, but a few minutes from my work. He doesn't qualify for a bus because he's not at his zoned school. He could take public transportation, but it's expensive!

So, in the morning he rides in with me and walks from my work to school, but in the afternoon, I finish the in office portion of my day about an hour before he's out. I don't have an office where I can close the door, and if I stay past my end time, I end up fielding questions, or dealing with people who want to socialize, plus if I want to do something like call in a prescription, there's no privacy. So, I head to my car, where I can do those things in peace. It doesn't make sense to drive to a third destination, so often I'll just go ahead and drive to school, and sit there waiting with my engine off, and my laptop fired up.

I'm not wasting time, I've found an efficient way to deal with the situation.


While I agree you don't have a better option, that sounds really miserable. An hour every single school day??? Ugh.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2024 15:04     Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I care because you block an entire street in my neighborhood and the cops won't let us drive around you (in the oncoming lane). So for an extended period of time, you shut down the road.


Sounds like you’re the entitled one. “The public road should be free of all other vehicles when *I* decide to use it!”


Free of cars is not equal to an entire road shut down for 45minutes every day so Larla doesn't have to sit on the icky public bus.


Use the road a block over during those 45 minutes, princess.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2024 14:48     Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I care because you block an entire street in my neighborhood and the cops won't let us drive around you (in the oncoming lane). So for an extended period of time, you shut down the road.


Sounds like you’re the entitled one. “The public road should be free of all other vehicles when *I* decide to use it!”


Free of cars is not equal to an entire road shut down for 45minutes every day so Larla doesn't have to sit on the icky public bus.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2024 16:24     Subject: Re:Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
9 pages of dcum mom’s judging how other parents pick their kids up from school. Classic.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2024 16:22     Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
I often end up waiting at my kid's school. My kid attends a school that's far from my home, but a few minutes from my work. He doesn't qualify for a bus because he's not at his zoned school. He could take public transportation, but it's expensive!

So, in the morning he rides in with me and walks from my work to school, but in the afternoon, I finish the in office portion of my day about an hour before he's out. I don't have an office where I can close the door, and if I stay past my end time, I end up fielding questions, or dealing with people who want to socialize, plus if I want to do something like call in a prescription, there's no privacy. So, I head to my car, where I can do those things in peace. It doesn't make sense to drive to a third destination, so often I'll just go ahead and drive to school, and sit there waiting with my engine off, and my laptop fired up.

I'm not wasting time, I've found an efficient way to deal with the situation.