Anonymous wrote:Im a professionally successful woman, I was married for a decade to a “beta male”. I was in charge and he followed along. Clearly that didn’t work as we are no longer married. The professional environment in which I thrive is not the same in which I thrive personally.

I am now dating a man who you probably consider “alpha”. He just makes sure stuff gets done. He is as liberal politically as I am, and doesnt see me as a second class citizen at all. But he views it as his job to make sure Im good. Im safe. Im taken care of. Same with my kids, his kids, his parents and younger siblings, etc. He does things for me that I could do myself. He makes my life easier. To use the tik tok parlance that “alpha male” comes from, I am a passenger princess. He holds doors and carries heavy things and pushes the cart in the grocery store. I can go out with him without a purse and be fine (lack of makeup for a touchup aside) because he can take care of whatever I need. He is the head of the household and takes that responsibility very seriously. And he absolutely dominates me in bed, in a very consensual, safe manner.

10/10, highly recommend men who are “men”.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know what is going on with men. When I see the way my 22 years old son behave wow. I mean I get it gender equality great. But boy these kids are just different

What does this even mean?
And who talks about their own sins this way?
Does your spouse feel the same way? Did they help raise said sons?

He is too emotional for a man. He cried when his gf broke up with him. I will admit I am probably considered a toxic man by todays standards though. I feel like a man should be stoic. If a woman breaks up with you, move on, put her in her rearview mirror.

There are only three emotional outlets allowable for macho men: anger, sports, and sex. But guess what, men are complete humans with the entire range of emotions, so when they feel them, and if they’ve been socialized by people like you, those emotions WILL still come out but through one of the three allowable channels. Don’t kid yourself that just because you didn’t cry, a woman leaving didn’t affect you. You just “put her in the rearview mirror” and that emotion came out somewhere else. Hopefully not through your smashing something or god forbid someone. Next time you feel sadness and disappointment, sit with it. No one needs to witness your tears but humans are able to cry for a reason, and that is to help you emotionally process what happened so you can truly move on.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know what is going on with men. When I see the way my 22 years old son behave wow. I mean I get it gender equality great. But boy these kids are just different

What does this even mean?
And who talks about their own sins this way?
Does your spouse feel the same way? Did they help raise said sons?

He is too emotional for a man. He cried when his gf broke up with him. I will admit I am probably considered a toxic man by todays standards though. I feel like a man should be stoic. If a woman breaks up with you, move on, put her in her rearview mirror.

There are only three emotional outlets allowable for macho men: anger, sports, and sex. But guess what, men are complete humans with the entire range of emotions, so when they feel them, and if they’ve been socialized by people like you, those emotions WILL still come out but through one of the three allowable channels. Don’t kid yourself that just because you didn’t cry, a woman leaving didn’t affect you. You just “put her in the rearview mirror” and that emotion came out somewhere else. Hopefully not through your smashing something or god forbid someone. Next time you feel sadness and disappointment, sit with it. No one needs to witness your tears but humans are able to cry for a reason, and that is to help you emotionally process what happened so you can truly move on.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know what is going on with men. When I see the way my 22 years old son behave wow. I mean I get it gender equality great. But boy these kids are just different

What does this even mean?
And who talks about their own sins this way?
Does your spouse feel the same way? Did they help raise said sons?

He is too emotional for a man. He cried when his gf broke up with him. I will admit I am probably considered a toxic man by todays standards though. I feel like a man should be stoic. If a woman breaks up with you, move on, put her in her rearview mirror.

There are only three emotional outlets allowable for macho men: anger, sports, and sex. But guess what, men are complete humans with the entire range of emotions, so when they feel them, and if they’ve been socialized by people like you, those emotions WILL still come out but through one of the three allowable channels. Don’t kid yourself that just because you didn’t cry, a woman leaving didn’t affect you. You just “put her in the rearview mirror” and that emotion came out somewhere else. Hopefully not through your smashing something or god forbid someone. Next time you feel sadness and disappointment, sit with it. No one needs to witness your tears but humans are able to cry for a reason, and that is to help you emotionally process what happened so you can truly move on.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know what is going on with men. When I see the way my 22 years old son behave wow. I mean I get it gender equality great. But boy these kids are just different

What does this even mean?
And who talks about their own sins this way?
Does your spouse feel the same way? Did they help raise said sons?

He is too emotional for a man. He cried when his gf broke up with him. I will admit I am probably considered a toxic man by todays standards though. I feel like a man should be stoic. If a woman breaks up with you, move on, put her in her rearview mirror.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know what is going on with men. When I see the way my 22 years old son behave wow. I mean I get it gender equality great. But boy these kids are just different

What does this even mean?
And who talks about their own sins this way?
Does your spouse feel the same way? Did they help raise said sons?

He is too emotional for a man. He cried when his gf broke up with him. I will admit I am probably considered a toxic man by todays standards though. I feel like a man should be stoic. If a woman breaks up with you, move on, put her in her rearview mirror.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know what is going on with men. When I see the way my 22 years old son behave wow. I mean I get it gender equality great. But boy these kids are just different

What does this even mean?
And who talks about their own sins this way?
Does your spouse feel the same way? Did they help raise said sons?

Anonymous wrote:I don't know what is going on with men. When I see the way my 22 years old son behave wow. I mean I get it gender equality great. But boy these kids are just different

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Anonymous wrote:I’m noticing that the women who are happy with “alpha” men had their kids with “beta” men. So, they get/got to pick where their kids go to school and summer camp and have probably already established their careers and living situations. Their “alpha” boyfriend gets to dominate restaurant choices when they go out and “dominates” in bed (although you can bet that he knows where the line is and never asks to cross it). Basically, women want someone who will make all of the choices they don’t want to make and don’t care about.

Alternatively what you’re saying is one set of men get so maxed from marriage with kids that they revert back into pretending to be single workaholics and force Wifey do everything. They divorce because Wifey got dumped on for years.

Then Beta Boy goes out dating and some foolish woman thinks he’s an alpha because he can handle the simple life of work and choosing restaurants!?!

Good luck with the going gets tough. Cuz Beta Boy gets going. Away. Into his isolation shutdown cave…

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Anonymous wrote:I need someone who is more alpha than me. I am pretty ambitious myself, but also want to feel like the woman.

Can you talk a little more about what this looks like in your relationships? What makes you feel like a woman?

Someone who is as successful professionally as I am (both money and prestige-wise). Someone who stands up for himself and doesn’t let others walk all over him in general. Someone not afraid to go after what he wants in life, and exhibits confidence.

However, I also want to feel like the woman dating and sexually. I love chivalry… things like the guy holding the door or carrying my luggage. I like the guy perusing me… him being the one asking for my number and asking me out, picking the restaurant, etc. Once in a relationship, I don’t mind taking the traditional female tasks and him the male (me taking the lead in the kitchen, him helping me get my car fixed if it breaks down, etc…). I realize everyone won’t agree with this, but it works for me.

You are the dream woman.
Most men like women like you.

No, most men like women like that but don’t put an effort sufficient to be dominant enough in a true masculine way.
Just like a PP I LOVE when my man makes decisions for me like a restaurant we go to, the dress I wear to a party etc. By far not all men “get” how sexy it is. How it shows me that he cares and wants me!

This has to be sarcasm right?

Absolutely not - “honey, wear whatever you want “ sounds like a total turn off to me.

Aka I don’t care. I don’t even care to take a look. I also don’t care to think about an outfit I liked before. I. Don’t. Care. About. You.

Picking out the outfit is not about you. It’s about their control, their desire. You are just a prop.

No. Grow up.

That’s only if they are demanding you wear their selected outfit all the time.

Thinking of you in the sexy orange dress for your last Hawaii trip and saying Wear That!, is thoughtful.

Orange dress? ORANGE DRESS? Now I know you’re a man. Whoever said orange is the new pink was seriously disturbed.

Go tell Trina Turk

Anonymous wrote:I’m noticing that the women who are happy with “alpha” men had their kids with “beta” men. So, they get/got to pick where their kids go to school and summer camp and have probably already established their careers and living situations. Their “alpha” boyfriend gets to dominate restaurant choices when they go out and “dominates” in bed (although you can bet that he knows where the line is and never asks to cross it). Basically, women want someone who will make all of the choices they don’t want to make and don’t care about.

Anonymous wrote:I need someone who is more alpha than me. I am pretty ambitious myself, but also want to feel like the woman.