Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You need to work on your kids self esteem so he doesn’t easily become a target.
1. Homeschool him for the rest of the year.
2. Put him in a karate class asap especially one that has a bully curriculum.
3. Does he have a dad or male involved in his life? His dad needs to spend one on one time with him. Get him involved in Boy Scouts.
4. Practice the cogat tests with him over the summer and request that he is retested in the fall. Make sure he’s not in the bully kids class.
Homeschooling will NOT reduce school refusal or increase his confidence. Pleasr y’all just educate yourselves a tiny bit on the basic principles of handling anxiety and school refusal.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What I left out was that we had a neuropsych eval done in 3rd, thinking maybe he had ASD. He doesn't - but he did test gifted. Smart, nerdy, shy, and unathletic was a nightmare in this particular cohort, so we felt justified in putting him in public. We were told this was the best choice for him academically.
Unfortunately, his public wouldn't accept his wisc results and required the cogat for placement, which he bombed, so he's not receiving any kind of academic enrichment here. Long story short, he resents us for promising a challenge and wants to go back to his private (where the bullying was BAD but never "loose a tooth bad). He never had behavioral issues there minus crying over the bullying.
Lots of kids are bright in public without enrichment. Why is this kid being bullied at multiple schools and why is he so violent.
I don't know. He hadn't shown any signs of violence when we had the neuropsych eval done, so we weren't able to raise that concern then. He doesn't play video games, period (something he's teased about), so it's not something he picked up there. I don't know where he got the idea that shoving someone was ok - I would have rather he'd let himself be tripped again and lost another tooth, as horrible as that sounds.
Well, no mystery where the weanie behavior comes from. This comment along with the "he took the dentist like a champ" and the "I don't want to talk about bullying, just give me a magical fix so I won't feel bad about driving my crying son to school" is probably the saddest thing I've read on DCUM. This boy is doing everything he can to please his mother, but he just can't stomach being assaulted and bullied anymore. OP, why do you hate your son? Let me guess, gender disappointment?
I don't want him to end up in jail. Just look at the posters here calling him violent and saying he should loose more teeth rather than stick up for himself. Like it or not, that's how society thinks, and it doesn't bode well for his future.
The only person who said he should lose more teeth in preference to employing violence is his horrible mother.
There is one dissenting troll in here who is probably a school administrator or a mom of a bully who can't give a logical or moral explanation why I should go to jail if I punched her tooth out in her workplace but kiddo just needs to suck it up in school.
I would be more worried about him being psychologically broken and wearing his mom's face than ending up in jail. If OP wants to never see her son again the day after he turns 18, she should keep this up. If he goes through the rest of his childhood like this, there is no way he's going to come out of it well adjusted and not hating women. All of the people telling him to suck it up and be a meat bag for a bully to physically assault are women. The people he is begging for help from are women. All these MGTOW men had crappy moms. That level of anger did not come from being ghosted a couple times by a romantic interest. If OP is afraid her son is going to jail, maybe she should pull him out of jail prep-school, which is this violent public school. What kind of lessons is he learning there? Unbelievably she asks where he learned to shove. Of course he learned it from being physically assaulted in school!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This kid is in survival mode, OF COURSE he will act this way!
Unpopular opinion: there is nothing inherently wrong with violence. If I walked into a grocery store and starting punching people, what would happen to me? Violence is a tool, it is not inherently bad.
Look, everyone told us public was a better option for him, including his old private. No, he didn't have teeth knocked out there, but he DID come home crying at least one day a week, and it only escalated the older his cohort got. And I really resent you blaming all his on me when he has TWO parents and DH was the one who really pushed for public for academic reasons.
Anonymous wrote:You need to work on your kids self esteem so he doesn’t easily become a target.
1. Homeschool him for the rest of the year.
2. Put him in a karate class asap especially one that has a bully curriculum.
3. Does he have a dad or male involved in his life? His dad needs to spend one on one time with him. Get him involved in Boy Scouts.
4. Practice the cogat tests with him over the summer and request that he is retested in the fall. Make sure he’s not in the bully kids class.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What I left out was that we had a neuropsych eval done in 3rd, thinking maybe he had ASD. He doesn't - but he did test gifted. Smart, nerdy, shy, and unathletic was a nightmare in this particular cohort, so we felt justified in putting him in public. We were told this was the best choice for him academically.
Unfortunately, his public wouldn't accept his wisc results and required the cogat for placement, which he bombed, so he's not receiving any kind of academic enrichment here. Long story short, he resents us for promising a challenge and wants to go back to his private (where the bullying was BAD but never "loose a tooth bad). He never had behavioral issues there minus crying over the bullying.
Lots of kids are bright in public without enrichment. Why is this kid being bullied at multiple schools and why is he so violent.
I don't know. He hadn't shown any signs of violence when we had the neuropsych eval done, so we weren't able to raise that concern then. He doesn't play video games, period (something he's teased about), so it's not something he picked up there. I don't know where he got the idea that shoving someone was ok - I would have rather he'd let himself be tripped again and lost another tooth, as horrible as that sounds.
Well, no mystery where the weanie behavior comes from. This comment along with the "he took the dentist like a champ" and the "I don't want to talk about bullying, just give me a magical fix so I won't feel bad about driving my crying son to school" is probably the saddest thing I've read on DCUM. This boy is doing everything he can to please his mother, but he just can't stomach being assaulted and bullied anymore. OP, why do you hate your son? Let me guess, gender disappointment?
I don't want him to end up in jail. Just look at the posters here calling him violent and saying he should loose more teeth rather than stick up for himself. Like it or not, that's how society thinks, and it doesn't bode well for his future.
The only person who said he should lose more teeth in preference to employing violence is his horrible mother.
There is one dissenting troll in here who is probably a school administrator or a mom of a bully who can't give a logical or moral explanation why I should go to jail if I punched her tooth out in her workplace but kiddo just needs to suck it up in school.
I would be more worried about him being psychologically broken and wearing his mom's face than ending up in jail. If OP wants to never see her son again the day after he turns 18, she should keep this up. If he goes through the rest of his childhood like this, there is no way he's going to come out of it well adjusted and not hating women. All of the people telling him to suck it up and be a meat bag for a bully to physically assault are women. The people he is begging for help from are women. All these MGTOW men had crappy moms. That level of anger did not come from being ghosted a couple times by a romantic interest. If OP is afraid her son is going to jail, maybe she should pull him out of jail prep-school, which is this violent public school. What kind of lessons is he learning there? Unbelievably she asks where he learned to shove. Of course he learned it from being physically assaulted in school!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This kid is in survival mode, OF COURSE he will act this way!
Unpopular opinion: there is nothing inherently wrong with violence. If I walked into a grocery store and starting punching people, what would happen to me? Violence is a tool, it is not inherently bad.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What I left out was that we had a neuropsych eval done in 3rd, thinking maybe he had ASD. He doesn't - but he did test gifted. Smart, nerdy, shy, and unathletic was a nightmare in this particular cohort, so we felt justified in putting him in public. We were told this was the best choice for him academically.
Unfortunately, his public wouldn't accept his wisc results and required the cogat for placement, which he bombed, so he's not receiving any kind of academic enrichment here. Long story short, he resents us for promising a challenge and wants to go back to his private (where the bullying was BAD but never "loose a tooth bad). He never had behavioral issues there minus crying over the bullying.
Lots of kids are bright in public without enrichment. Why is this kid being bullied at multiple schools and why is he so violent.
I don't know. He hadn't shown any signs of violence when we had the neuropsych eval done, so we weren't able to raise that concern then. He doesn't play video games, period (something he's teased about), so it's not something he picked up there. I don't know where he got the idea that shoving someone was ok - I would have rather he'd let himself be tripped again and lost another tooth, as horrible as that sounds.
Well, no mystery where the weanie behavior comes from. This comment along with the "he took the dentist like a champ" and the "I don't want to talk about bullying, just give me a magical fix so I won't feel bad about driving my crying son to school" is probably the saddest thing I've read on DCUM. This boy is doing everything he can to please his mother, but he just can't stomach being assaulted and bullied anymore. OP, why do you hate your son? Let me guess, gender disappointment?
+1
I can't fathom feeling the bolded. Your son did the right thing. The bully deserved a shove.
I agree that the bully deserved a shove (probably more), but now DS has a suspension on his record, which destroyed his chances at another private school, leaving him stuck in our local public. So, do I wish he hadn't done it? OF COURSE. It's accomplished nothing but limit his options and make the school believe he's a troublemaker.
The private school never has to see that record, and if you’re so concerned about it, you should have pushed back against the suspension. FWIW the school doesn’t believe he’s a troublemaker in some kind of eternally stigmatizing way. Schools don’t work that way.
She is desperate to shove him in school, the prospective new school is going to wonder why he's changing schools with only 5 weeks left over.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What I left out was that we had a neuropsych eval done in 3rd, thinking maybe he had ASD. He doesn't - but he did test gifted. Smart, nerdy, shy, and unathletic was a nightmare in this particular cohort, so we felt justified in putting him in public. We were told this was the best choice for him academically.
Unfortunately, his public wouldn't accept his wisc results and required the cogat for placement, which he bombed, so he's not receiving any kind of academic enrichment here. Long story short, he resents us for promising a challenge and wants to go back to his private (where the bullying was BAD but never "loose a tooth bad). He never had behavioral issues there minus crying over the bullying.
Lots of kids are bright in public without enrichment. Why is this kid being bullied at multiple schools and why is he so violent.
I don't know. He hadn't shown any signs of violence when we had the neuropsych eval done, so we weren't able to raise that concern then. He doesn't play video games, period (something he's teased about), so it's not something he picked up there. I don't know where he got the idea that shoving someone was ok - I would have rather he'd let himself be tripped again and lost another tooth, as horrible as that sounds.
Well, no mystery where the weanie behavior comes from. This comment along with the "he took the dentist like a champ" and the "I don't want to talk about bullying, just give me a magical fix so I won't feel bad about driving my crying son to school" is probably the saddest thing I've read on DCUM. This boy is doing everything he can to please his mother, but he just can't stomach being assaulted and bullied anymore. OP, why do you hate your son? Let me guess, gender disappointment?
+1
I can't fathom feeling the bolded. Your son did the right thing. The bully deserved a shove.
I agree that the bully deserved a shove (probably more), but now DS has a suspension on his record, which destroyed his chances at another private school, leaving him stuck in our local public. So, do I wish he hadn't done it? OF COURSE. It's accomplished nothing but limit his options and make the school believe he's a troublemaker.
The private school never has to see that record, and if you’re so concerned about it, you should have pushed back against the suspension. FWIW the school doesn’t believe he’s a troublemaker in some kind of eternally stigmatizing way. Schools don’t work that way.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What I left out was that we had a neuropsych eval done in 3rd, thinking maybe he had ASD. He doesn't - but he did test gifted. Smart, nerdy, shy, and unathletic was a nightmare in this particular cohort, so we felt justified in putting him in public. We were told this was the best choice for him academically.
Unfortunately, his public wouldn't accept his wisc results and required the cogat for placement, which he bombed, so he's not receiving any kind of academic enrichment here. Long story short, he resents us for promising a challenge and wants to go back to his private (where the bullying was BAD but never "loose a tooth bad). He never had behavioral issues there minus crying over the bullying.
Lots of kids are bright in public without enrichment. Why is this kid being bullied at multiple schools and why is he so violent.
I don't know. He hadn't shown any signs of violence when we had the neuropsych eval done, so we weren't able to raise that concern then. He doesn't play video games, period (something he's teased about), so it's not something he picked up there. I don't know where he got the idea that shoving someone was ok - I would have rather he'd let himself be tripped again and lost another tooth, as horrible as that sounds.
Well, no mystery where the weanie behavior comes from. This comment along with the "he took the dentist like a champ" and the "I don't want to talk about bullying, just give me a magical fix so I won't feel bad about driving my crying son to school" is probably the saddest thing I've read on DCUM. This boy is doing everything he can to please his mother, but he just can't stomach being assaulted and bullied anymore. OP, why do you hate your son? Let me guess, gender disappointment?
I don't want him to end up in jail. Just look at the posters here calling him violent and saying he should loose more teeth rather than stick up for himself. Like it or not, that's how society thinks, and it doesn't bode well for his future.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What I left out was that we had a neuropsych eval done in 3rd, thinking maybe he had ASD. He doesn't - but he did test gifted. Smart, nerdy, shy, and unathletic was a nightmare in this particular cohort, so we felt justified in putting him in public. We were told this was the best choice for him academically.
Unfortunately, his public wouldn't accept his wisc results and required the cogat for placement, which he bombed, so he's not receiving any kind of academic enrichment here. Long story short, he resents us for promising a challenge and wants to go back to his private (where the bullying was BAD but never "loose a tooth bad). He never had behavioral issues there minus crying over the bullying.
Lots of kids are bright in public without enrichment. Why is this kid being bullied at multiple schools and why is he so violent.
I don't know. He hadn't shown any signs of violence when we had the neuropsych eval done, so we weren't able to raise that concern then. He doesn't play video games, period (something he's teased about), so it's not something he picked up there. I don't know where he got the idea that shoving someone was ok - I would have rather he'd let himself be tripped again and lost another tooth, as horrible as that sounds.
Well, no mystery where the weanie behavior comes from. This comment along with the "he took the dentist like a champ" and the "I don't want to talk about bullying, just give me a magical fix so I won't feel bad about driving my crying son to school" is probably the saddest thing I've read on DCUM. This boy is doing everything he can to please his mother, but he just can't stomach being assaulted and bullied anymore. OP, why do you hate your son? Let me guess, gender disappointment?
I don't want him to end up in jail. Just look at the posters here calling him violent and saying he should loose more teeth rather than stick up for himself. Like it or not, that's how society thinks, and it doesn't bode well for his future.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What I left out was that we had a neuropsych eval done in 3rd, thinking maybe he had ASD. He doesn't - but he did test gifted. Smart, nerdy, shy, and unathletic was a nightmare in this particular cohort, so we felt justified in putting him in public. We were told this was the best choice for him academically.
Unfortunately, his public wouldn't accept his wisc results and required the cogat for placement, which he bombed, so he's not receiving any kind of academic enrichment here. Long story short, he resents us for promising a challenge and wants to go back to his private (where the bullying was BAD but never "loose a tooth bad). He never had behavioral issues there minus crying over the bullying.
Lots of kids are bright in public without enrichment. Why is this kid being bullied at multiple schools and why is he so violent.
I don't know. He hadn't shown any signs of violence when we had the neuropsych eval done, so we weren't able to raise that concern then. He doesn't play video games, period (something he's teased about), so it's not something he picked up there. I don't know where he got the idea that shoving someone was ok - I would have rather he'd let himself be tripped again and lost another tooth, as horrible as that sounds.
Well, no mystery where the weanie behavior comes from. This comment along with the "he took the dentist like a champ" and the "I don't want to talk about bullying, just give me a magical fix so I won't feel bad about driving my crying son to school" is probably the saddest thing I've read on DCUM. This boy is doing everything he can to please his mother, but he just can't stomach being assaulted and bullied anymore. OP, why do you hate your son? Let me guess, gender disappointment?
+1
I can't fathom feeling the bolded. Your son did the right thing. The bully deserved a shove.
I agree that the bully deserved a shove (probably more), but now DS has a suspension on his record, which destroyed his chances at another private school, leaving him stuck in our local public. So, do I wish he hadn't done it? OF COURSE. It's accomplished nothing but limit his options and make the school believe he's a troublemaker.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What I left out was that we had a neuropsych eval done in 3rd, thinking maybe he had ASD. He doesn't - but he did test gifted. Smart, nerdy, shy, and unathletic was a nightmare in this particular cohort, so we felt justified in putting him in public. We were told this was the best choice for him academically.
Unfortunately, his public wouldn't accept his wisc results and required the cogat for placement, which he bombed, so he's not receiving any kind of academic enrichment here. Long story short, he resents us for promising a challenge and wants to go back to his private (where the bullying was BAD but never "loose a tooth bad). He never had behavioral issues there minus crying over the bullying.
Lots of kids are bright in public without enrichment. Why is this kid being bullied at multiple schools and why is he so violent.
I don't know. He hadn't shown any signs of violence when we had the neuropsych eval done, so we weren't able to raise that concern then. He doesn't play video games, period (something he's teased about), so it's not something he picked up there. I don't know where he got the idea that shoving someone was ok - I would have rather he'd let himself be tripped again and lost another tooth, as horrible as that sounds.
Well, no mystery where the weanie behavior comes from. This comment along with the "he took the dentist like a champ" and the "I don't want to talk about bullying, just give me a magical fix so I won't feel bad about driving my crying son to school" is probably the saddest thing I've read on DCUM. This boy is doing everything he can to please his mother, but he just can't stomach being assaulted and bullied anymore. OP, why do you hate your son? Let me guess, gender disappointment?
I don't want him to end up in jail. Just look at the posters here calling him violent and saying he should loose more teeth rather than stick up for himself. Like it or not, that's how society thinks, and it doesn't bode well for his future.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What I left out was that we had a neuropsych eval done in 3rd, thinking maybe he had ASD. He doesn't - but he did test gifted. Smart, nerdy, shy, and unathletic was a nightmare in this particular cohort, so we felt justified in putting him in public. We were told this was the best choice for him academically.
Unfortunately, his public wouldn't accept his wisc results and required the cogat for placement, which he bombed, so he's not receiving any kind of academic enrichment here. Long story short, he resents us for promising a challenge and wants to go back to his private (where the bullying was BAD but never "loose a tooth bad). He never had behavioral issues there minus crying over the bullying.
Lots of kids are bright in public without enrichment. Why is this kid being bullied at multiple schools and why is he so violent.
I don't know. He hadn't shown any signs of violence when we had the neuropsych eval done, so we weren't able to raise that concern then. He doesn't play video games, period (something he's teased about), so it's not something he picked up there. I don't know where he got the idea that shoving someone was ok - I would have rather he'd let himself be tripped again and lost another tooth, as horrible as that sounds.
Well, no mystery where the weanie behavior comes from. This comment along with the "he took the dentist like a champ" and the "I don't want to talk about bullying, just give me a magical fix so I won't feel bad about driving my crying son to school" is probably the saddest thing I've read on DCUM. This boy is doing everything he can to please his mother, but he just can't stomach being assaulted and bullied anymore. OP, why do you hate your son? Let me guess, gender disappointment?
+1
I can't fathom feeling the bolded. Your son did the right thing. The bully deserved a shove.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What I left out was that we had a neuropsych eval done in 3rd, thinking maybe he had ASD. He doesn't - but he did test gifted. Smart, nerdy, shy, and unathletic was a nightmare in this particular cohort, so we felt justified in putting him in public. We were told this was the best choice for him academically.
Unfortunately, his public wouldn't accept his wisc results and required the cogat for placement, which he bombed, so he's not receiving any kind of academic enrichment here. Long story short, he resents us for promising a challenge and wants to go back to his private (where the bullying was BAD but never "loose a tooth bad). He never had behavioral issues there minus crying over the bullying.
Lots of kids are bright in public without enrichment. Why is this kid being bullied at multiple schools and why is he so violent.
I don't know. He hadn't shown any signs of violence when we had the neuropsych eval done, so we weren't able to raise that concern then. He doesn't play video games, period (something he's teased about), so it's not something he picked up there. I don't know where he got the idea that shoving someone was ok - I would have rather he'd let himself be tripped again and lost another tooth, as horrible as that sounds.
Well, no mystery where the weanie behavior comes from. This comment along with the "he took the dentist like a champ" and the "I don't want to talk about bullying, just give me a magical fix so I won't feel bad about driving my crying son to school" is probably the saddest thing I've read on DCUM. This boy is doing everything he can to please his mother, but he just can't stomach being assaulted and bullied anymore. OP, why do you hate your son? Let me guess, gender disappointment?