Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I say this as someone who grew up with a single dad. Why is that an important part of your search? What difference does it make it you are a single dad, single mom, foster family ect?
You want a good school for your kid. Not sure why your gender/household status matters at all
OP here. Lots of reasons I included it.
Main reason: I'm new to this and have no idea what does or doesn't matter. So I just included as much info as possible because I'm nervous about the move and single parenting.
I want a good school yes, but I don't have the support of another parent or community to just go with the best. I work in a certain part of the city - if I get a call one day from school saying my kid is sick, what do I do? So people have pointed out that since it's just me, I should try aiming for a shorter commute, as an example of how including that info changed advice.
Including my gender and household status on another thread also showed that I probably am gonna need a full time nanny, something I didn't think or realize until others pointed it out.
So no I did not include it to find bored UM (urban moms??) as someone else suggested, just trying to get as much help/guidance/direction as possible. Another reason was in case there were other single parents who could give me their advice/input as well, which I did receive, as well as looking for other single dads to help start building my community.
And lastly I think it does also help with factoring in that I might not want to be in a part of the city that's comprised of mostly old retired folks and totally secluded from other young 30s crowd (not sure if such a neighborhood exists!) if I want to also be able to meet someone, though that's lower on the priority list, but certainly something to consider in my search for where to live.