Anonymous wrote:I have no tattoos, don't like tattoos, would never get one, but one of my two adult children has several. It has never occurred to me to use that issue or any other adult decision they make to control my adult kids. That's not the kind of relationship I want with them or they want with me. We get along great.

Anonymous wrote:I have no tattoos, don't like tattoos, would never get one, but one of my two adult children has several. It has never occurred to me to use that issue or any other adult decision they make to control my adult kids. That's not the kind of relationship I want with them or they want with me. We get along great.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, the best thing you can do is offer to help.

Discuss the tattoo style. And subject matter & placement.

Scroll through the artists portfolio together

And then ultimately, offer to help with money, bc the good artists can be much more expansive than the walk-in/street shops

No, she should not discuss style and placement. Why would she do that if she doesn’t want it?
Would you help your child select type of cigarettes even if you are against smoking?

DP here, but pps point is that if mom LIKES it and wants to help, it can discourage kid from liking it. It’s no longer rebelling to get one. Takes away some of the appeal.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, the best thing you can do is offer to help.

Discuss the tattoo style. And subject matter & placement.

Scroll through the artists portfolio together

And then ultimately, offer to help with money, bc the good artists can be much more expansive than the walk-in/street shops

No, she should not discuss style and placement. Why would she do that if she doesn’t want it?
Would you help your child select type of cigarettes even if you are against smoking?

DP here, but pps point is that if mom LIKES it and wants to help, it can discourage kid from liking it. Its no longer rebelling to get one. Takes away some of the appeal.

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Anonymous wrote:"Once he has graduated and is older, he can make his own decision on that."

Unfortunately (for you) he's old enough now to make his own decision on that.

He can and she can discourage it.

I'm quite sure she already HAS discouraged it. She can't "keep" him from getting one though, and she can't force him to wait X more years before he gets one if so he chooses.

She did not say anything about him getting one after college.
She can discourage him while in college. It’s not some if he wants one, he will automatically wait. He may still want one but may wait.

She said, and I literally quoted it, once he graduates he can make his own decision on that. That insinuates he is too young to make the decision now. But thats not what the law says, and its not what any tattoo artist will say when he walks in the door.

She didn’t say he was too young, idiot. That’s why she is asking how to stop him from doing it. She know he can walk into a tattoo shop. That’s the point of her post. How dense are you?

I'm not sure we're arguing different points, but you seem really emotional about this. She mentions his age multiple times in the OP, did you only read the headline and then start rabidly responding to posts or something? Is this really something you missed?

-Best way to keep kid from getting a tattoo while in college
-keep my kid from getting one while in college
-keep him from getting sucked into it while he's still relatively young
-Once he has graduated and is older, he can make his own decision on that

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, the best thing you can do is offer to help.

Discuss the tattoo style. And subject matter & placement.

Scroll through the artists portfolio together

And then ultimately, offer to help with money, bc the good artists can be much more expansive than the walk-in/street shops

No, she should not discuss style and placement. Why would she do that if she doesn’t want it?
Would you help your child select type of cigarettes even if you are against smoking?

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Anonymous wrote:"Once he has graduated and is older, he can make his own decision on that."

Unfortunately (for you) he's old enough now to make his own decision on that.

He can and she can discourage it.

I'm quite sure she already HAS discouraged it. She can't "keep" him from getting one though, and she can't force him to wait X more years before he gets one if so he chooses.

She did not say anything about him getting one after college.
She can discourage him while in college. It’s not some if he wants one, he will automatically wait. He may still want one but may wait.

She said, and I literally quoted it, once he graduates he can make his own decision on that. That insinuates he is too young to make the decision now. But thats not what the law says, and its not what any tattoo artist will say when he walks in the door.

She didn’t say he was too young, idiot. That’s why she is asking how to stop him from doing it. She know he can walk into a tattoo shop. That’s the point of her post. How dense are you?

I'm not sure we're arguing different points, but you seem really emotional about this. She mentions his age multiple times in the OP, did you only read the headline and then start rabidly responding to posts or something? Is this really something you missed?

-Best way to keep kid from getting a tattoo while in college
-keep my kid from getting one while in college
-keep him from getting sucked into it while he's still relatively young
-Once he has graduated and is older, he can make his own decision on that

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The use of young and old clearly illustrates OP’s opinion is based on his current age. It’s fine to do it when he’s older, he’s too young now.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, the best thing you can do is offer to help.

Discuss the tattoo style. And subject matter & placement.

Scroll through the artists portfolio together

And then ultimately, offer to help with money, bc the good artists can be much more expansive than the walk-in/street shops

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Anonymous wrote:You should definitely threaten to not pay for college. Then when he gets the tattoo, you will have a college drop out with a tattoo. You can be so proud.

This advice is always so short sighted lol. Plus, punishing an adult for what they do with their OWN body is so icky.

Yes. Icky. I was being sarcastic. I agree with you. Control is icky.

Then why are you trying to control others if you find it icky?

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Anonymous wrote:"Once he has graduated and is older, he can make his own decision on that."

Unfortunately (for you) he's old enough now to make his own decision on that.

He can and she can discourage it.

I'm quite sure she already HAS discouraged it. She can't "keep" him from getting one though, and she can't force him to wait X more years before he gets one if so he chooses.

She did not say anything about him getting one after college.
She can discourage him while in college. It’s not some if he wants one, he will automatically wait. He may still want one but may wait.

She said, and I literally quoted it, once he graduates he can make his own decision on that. That insinuates he is too young to make the decision now. But thats not what the law says, and its not what any tattoo artist will say when he walks in the door.

She didn’t say he was too young, idiot. That’s why she is asking how to stop him from doing it. She know he can walk into a tattoo shop. That’s the point of her post. How dense are you?

I'm not sure we're arguing different points, but you seem really emotional about this. She mentions his age multiple times in the OP, did you only read the headline and then start rabidly responding to posts or something? Is this really something you missed?

-Best way to keep kid from getting a tattoo while in college
-keep my kid from getting one while in college
-keep him from getting sucked into it while he's still relatively young
-Once he has graduated and is older, he can make his own decision on that

+1
The use of young and old clearly illustrates OP’s opinion is based on his current age. It’s fine to do it when he’s older, he’s too young now.

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Anonymous wrote:I kinda half love the loon that is parking herself on this post. It's like a toddler got a hold of a tablet. Can't wait to see what insult I get.

Yes! It’s gotta be the same anti-tattoo loon. The one that doesn’t know what controlling means. And will never cut the apron strings. And thinks all tattoos are trashy.
She’s definitely spicing up my Friday morning!

DP.
Hon, you need to understand the nuance of the different types of control. You are hell bent on some narrow view of it as if it’s some dystopian type. Parents have some control of their children until they are fully fledged. You either had no good parental upbringing or are incredibly naive.

Ooh the “Hon” is a nice touch!
Loon PP take note - you’ve got some competition here.
May I suggest just a touch more self righteousness next time?
And your insults need a little work. Not enough flair. “Naive” is somewhat weak.

No, I call like it is. One thing you’re right about is the weak part. Naive people are weak.

Better! You get a point for the deliberate misunderstanding of the weak thing. I’ll give you another chance. I have faith in you! Make me cry!

No, like I said, you’re naive and are pissed about getting called out on your “control” word rant.

You’ve passed your prime. Clearly. I thought there was potential here but boy was I wrong. You peaked early and it’s been all downhill from there. Boring.

Cementing you have no argument and are bitter about being called out.

Ok now you’re not even trying

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Anonymous wrote:"Once he has graduated and is older, he can make his own decision on that."

Unfortunately (for you) he's old enough now to make his own decision on that.

He can and she can discourage it.

I'm quite sure she already HAS discouraged it. She can't "keep" him from getting one though, and she can't force him to wait X more years before he gets one if so he chooses.

She did not say anything about him getting one after college.
She can discourage him while in college. It’s not some if he wants one, he will automatically wait. He may still want one but may wait.

She said, and I literally quoted it, once he graduates he can make his own decision on that. That insinuates he is too young to make the decision now. But thats not what the law says, and its not what any tattoo artist will say when he walks in the door.

She didn’t say he was too young, idiot. That’s why she is asking how to stop him from doing it. She know he can walk into a tattoo shop. That’s the point of her post. How dense are you?

I'm not sure we're arguing different points, but you seem really emotional about this. She mentions his age multiple times in the OP, did you only read the headline and then start rabidly responding to posts or something? Is this really something you missed?

-Best way to keep kid from getting a tattoo while in college
-keep my kid from getting one while in college
-keep him from getting sucked into it while he's still relatively young
-Once he has graduated and is older, he can make his own decision on that