Quit when you get the first feeling that you’d rather be free / don’t wait, just quit

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marry. Money.

Easier said than done. I am not pretty 🤩

You don't need to be conventionally pretty, but you need to be thin/fit, stylish, put together and interesting. I have one friend who married into big money (one of the wealthiest families in the US) and she is all of those things but not conventionally pretty. She did have to sign a prenup and would not be in a good position if they ever divorce.

Anonymous wrote:Have the kids younger. You'll have more energy for FT work/commuting/activities. Your career won't actually suffer.

Do we go to state school in the south to find a man who wants to commit in his 20s?

When I was 25 I struggled with meeting a lot of men who just don’t see themselves getting married within 10 years.

Anonymous wrote:Marry. Money.

Easier said than done. I am not pretty 🤩

In addition to maxing out your 401k (which I've always done), you need to save the same amount or more in your brokerage account in 100% equities.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have the kids younger. You'll have more energy for FT work/commuting/activities. Your career won't actually suffer.

Agree.

You can have a successful career starting a little later.

Ovaries have a much shorter shelf life than a career.

+1 Definitely.

Marry. Money.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t say sorry

Don’t plan holiday parties

Don’t take notes during meetings

Don’t worry about being called bossy, etc when you’re just standing up for yourself.

Don’t let men talk over you. If they start to say e”excuse me, you’ll have an opportunity to talk when I’m done”

Ask for a mentor in a position of power

Protect your staff

Build relationships, up/down/sideways

Hard work and getting it done makes you indispensable meaning they won’t promote you for fear of losing you.

Meh, I don't agree with this. Be a do-er. If you're great at planning parties and you can help your firm in that way, do it. Have fun. Take pride. And don't have yourself labeled as a B by saying "Excuse me, you'll have an opportunity to talk when I'm done." Don't have a chip on your shoulder. Being a woman is an asset. It's an advantage in business. I never felt that I had to overcome being a woman. I use it to my advantage.
-Woman executive earning 7 figures - started in a support role and did have a hand in party planning

+100 - Also, don't kid yourself. Whoever takes the notes and assigns the next steps runs the show, and they all know it. You also know more than anybody else at the table exactly what is going on because you paid the most attention. Being a good note taker is valuable in many ways.

Stay thin
Keep up with botox
workout

Marry for money

Anonymous wrote:Have the kids younger. You'll have more energy for FT work/commuting/activities. Your career won't actually suffer.

Agree.

You can have a successful career starting a little later.

Ovaries have a much shorter shelf life than a career.

Don't push off having babies too far into your 30s.

25, 30 years from now, you won't be happy you traded work for the opportunity to have children.

Have the kids younger. You'll have more energy for FT work/commuting/activities. Your career won't actually suffer.

Anonymous wrote:Don’t say sorry

Don’t plan holiday parties

Don’t take notes during meetings

Don’t worry about being called bossy, etc when you’re just standing up for yourself.

Don’t let men talk over you. If they start to say e”excuse me, you’ll have an opportunity to talk when I’m done”

Ask for a mentor in a position of power

Protect your staff

Build relationships, up/down/sideways

Hard work and getting it done makes you indispensable meaning they won’t promote you for fear of losing you.

GOOD list. I would add:
-Be polite and professional. But don’t be TOO helpful, or SO nice that it harms you in the end. People will suck your time from you and walk all over you if you let them
-Dress professionally. Stop trying to be “cute.” Look neat and nice, wear simple clothing, but nothing to grab attention (tight, low cut, short, etc)
-be strong and independent. Don’t be afraid to say, no or that’s not possible. Ex: a manager hugged me at the end of the day one time for no reason. It made me uncomfortable but I never stopped him because I was afraid. I should’ve gently pushed him away. Ex: someone I know was asked to have dinner and go to a show with someone superior to her. We were VERY new in the job so she didn’t know how to say no so she went. When he asked me, I politely declined without giving a reason.

Prioritize taking care of yourself - exercise, eat well - make time for your health.