Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nobody owes your children anything! Nobody. They are YOUR children!
? it's not about "owing" but about being thoughtful. When you go to a child's birthday party, you bring something, even if it's just a card.
Oh, so now cards are totally fine? Doesnt have to be filled with a supes thoughtful gas station gift card? So you won't call someone a cheapskate if they bring your kid a card but not a gift? Make up your mind![]()
there are multiple people posting that the BIL should have brought something.![]()
Yeah, just clarifying if this card (aka no gift) is fine, because it seems many parents abide by the pay to play policy.
sad that's how you read it. It's about thoughtfulness, not "pay to play". I'm sure if no one brought a present for your kid at their party your kid would feel bummed.
Thoughtfulness like showing up, taking time out of your day, to attend the party? Why don't you give a shit about that?
No, I would not care if someone didnt bring a gift to my childs birthday party. I'd much rather my kids spend time and build memories with their family. I dont give a crap if they dont bring gifts (I probably prefer it honestly). I'd rather teach my children that quality time means more than materialistic landfill plastic.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nobody owes your children anything! Nobody. They are YOUR children!
? it's not about "owing" but about being thoughtful. When you go to a child's birthday party, you bring something, even if it's just a card.
Oh, so now cards are totally fine? Doesnt have to be filled with a supes thoughtful gas station gift card? So you won't call someone a cheapskate if they bring your kid a card but not a gift? Make up your mind![]()
there are multiple people posting that the BIL should have brought something.![]()
Yeah, just clarifying if this card (aka no gift) is fine, because it seems many parents abide by the pay to play policy.
sad that's how you read it. It's about thoughtfulness, not "pay to play". I'm sure if no one brought a present for your kid at their party your kid would feel bummed.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This reminds me of my brother. He showed up to my son’s first birthday without a gift. We didn’t care one way or the other but my mom would not let it go LOL. He loves our kids, he was just clueless about social expectations.
? Does he not realize that children want birthday presents? You don't have to be a kid person to know that. I have a friend who is not a kid person, but she would bring something, even if it's a gift card. sheesh.
If it was an adult child, then I sure, no presents necessary. But c'mon, children want presents, and if the adult has a lot of money but doesn't buy their niece/nephew a present when attending that child's birthday party, it shows the person is clueless and self absorbed, and the he came not because of the child, but for another reason.
You think a one-year old wants a birthday present? You think they'll notice if they don't get one from uncle Joe?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nobody owes your children anything! Nobody. They are YOUR children!
? it's not about "owing" but about being thoughtful. When you go to a child's birthday party, you bring something, even if it's just a card.
Oh, so now cards are totally fine? Doesnt have to be filled with a supes thoughtful gas station gift card? So you won't call someone a cheapskate if they bring your kid a card but not a gift? Make up your mind![]()
there are multiple people posting that the BIL should have brought something.![]()
Yeah, just clarifying if this card (aka no gift) is fine, because it seems many parents abide by the pay to play policy.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This reminds me of my brother. He showed up to my son’s first birthday without a gift. We didn’t care one way or the other but my mom would not let it go LOL. He loves our kids, he was just clueless about social expectations.
? Does he not realize that children want birthday presents? You don't have to be a kid person to know that. I have a friend who is not a kid person, but she would bring something, even if it's a gift card. sheesh.
If it was an adult child, then I sure, no presents necessary. But c'mon, children want presents, and if the adult has a lot of money but doesn't buy their niece/nephew a present when attending that child's birthday party, it shows the person is clueless and self absorbed, and the he came not because of the child, but for another reason.
You think a one-year old wants a birthday present? You think they'll notice if they don't get one from uncle Joe?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nobody owes your children anything! Nobody. They are YOUR children!
? it's not about "owing" but about being thoughtful. When you go to a child's birthday party, you bring something, even if it's just a card.
Oh, so now cards are totally fine? Doesnt have to be filled with a supes thoughtful gas station gift card? So you won't call someone a cheapskate if they bring your kid a card but not a gift? Make up your mind![]()
there are multiple people posting that the BIL should have brought something.![]()
Anonymous wrote:OMG is this the BIL who you use for childcare but then don't otherwise do things with?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This reminds me of my brother. He showed up to my son’s first birthday without a gift. We didn’t care one way or the other but my mom would not let it go LOL. He loves our kids, he was just clueless about social expectations.
? Does he not realize that children want birthday presents? You don't have to be a kid person to know that. I have a friend who is not a kid person, but she would bring something, even if it's a gift card. sheesh.
If it was an adult child, then I sure, no presents necessary. But c'mon, children want presents, and if the adult has a lot of money but doesn't buy their niece/nephew a present when attending that child's birthday party, it shows the person is clueless and self absorbed, and the he came not because of the child, but for another reason.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nobody owes your children anything! Nobody. They are YOUR children!
? it's not about "owing" but about being thoughtful. When you go to a child's birthday party, you bring something, even if it's just a card.
Oh, so now cards are totally fine? Doesnt have to be filled with a supes thoughtful gas station gift card? So you won't call someone a cheapskate if they bring your kid a card but not a gift? Make up your mind![]()
Anonymous wrote:Why would he bring them gifts? He made it there. They would appreciate that if you didn’t make it about your expectations. But I guess if you want to pass down your judgment and anger when people are offering love, you do that. I would personally view it as a huge parenting fail. But hey, the kids didn’t get an extra piece of plastic, so you should make sure to ruin their familial relationships.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nobody owes your children anything! Nobody. They are YOUR children!
? it's not about "owing" but about being thoughtful. When you go to a child's birthday party, you bring something, even if it's just a card.
Anonymous wrote:Nobody owes your children anything! Nobody. They are YOUR children!