Anonymous
02/24/2024 08:51
Subject: All Girls Schools with strong commitment to DEI?
Anonymous wrote:There should be a ban on DEI posts. Parents aren't ready to have a conversation about White privilege. And given the people here are the most privileged of them all, nothing good is coming from these. It's just a bunch of rich White folks complaining about integration.
White folk? Nice labeling. Not it’s not just white folks complaining. All sorts of races don’t appreciate the labels….but that is DEIs end game. Divide. Divide . Divide
Anonymous
02/24/2024 08:11
Subject: All Girls Schools with strong commitment to DEI?
There should be a ban on DEI posts. Parents aren't ready to have a conversation about White privilege. And given the people here are the most privileged of them all, nothing good is coming from these. It's just a bunch of rich White folks complaining about integration.
Anonymous
02/24/2024 07:45
Subject: All Girls Schools with strong commitment to DEI?
People are just obsessed with vilifying DEI. The work done by authentic DEI programs is incredibly important, even if they make you uncomfortable.
Anonymous
02/24/2024 07:33
Subject: All Girls Schools with strong commitment to DEI?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Any feedback about Stone Ridge?
DEI is also coming to an end at Stone Ridge, thank goodness. The school had gone too far with their virtue signaling and upset many full-paying parents. Their fundraising to support financial aid had extremely low participation this year. Very very few registered and showed up for DEI meetings (DEI staff outnumbered the parents that showed up 😆). It’s obvious that everyone is tired of DEI. So the administration is backing off.
Sorry just to go back to this - is fundraising to support financial aid now considered “woke” DEI or am I misunderstanding? How can that possibly be a bad thing?
And I feel like there can be threads and threads of people criticizing DEI but no one ever gives specific examples of what exactly this school or others have done that are so bad. Just a general commitment to DEI is bad, or it infuses everything etc etc….
And I’m sorry OP got flamed for describing why they cared. I have had a similar background and totally understand.
Anonymous
02/23/2024 12:10
Subject: Re:All Girls Schools with strong commitment to DEI?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The OP seems to have a dogged agenda determined to critique, undermine and sour the reputation of the new HoS at Holton. I find it strange that one thread that has gone on for weeks wasn't enough. Instead, to now start a new one with a thinly veiled subtext appears more like a personal vendetta than a legitimate attempt at information gathering. As a new family at Holton - with perhaps no institutional knowledge of how things "used to be" - we've seen our daughter integrate seamlessly, be challenged academically and enjoy all of the fantastic school traditions. But perhaps more important is that she has befriended girls of every color, religion, culture and background. It's clear that the school fosters, on the daily, an environment of inclusion, mutual respect and openness. Why can't we adults simply respect the organic nature of diversity. And understand that sometimes change at the top isn't a bad thing.
There is no "organic nature of diversity" in a country where we have systemized race into our law and social structures.
Says you. If you want to live in the past so be it. I’m moving forward and not carrying baggage. I guess I’m privileged…but don’t minimize my minority experience…I don’t prescribe to your beliefs and I am free to not choose them. You will be happier if you look for unity and progress.
Anonymous
02/23/2024 11:57
Subject: Re:All Girls Schools with strong commitment to DEI?
Anonymous wrote:The OP seems to have a dogged agenda determined to critique, undermine and sour the reputation of the new HoS at Holton. I find it strange that one thread that has gone on for weeks wasn't enough. Instead, to now start a new one with a thinly veiled subtext appears more like a personal vendetta than a legitimate attempt at information gathering. As a new family at Holton - with perhaps no institutional knowledge of how things "used to be" - we've seen our daughter integrate seamlessly, be challenged academically and enjoy all of the fantastic school traditions. But perhaps more important is that she has befriended girls of every color, religion, culture and background. It's clear that the school fosters, on the daily, an environment of inclusion, mutual respect and openness. Why can't we adults simply respect the organic nature of diversity. And understand that sometimes change at the top isn't a bad thing.
There is no "organic nature of diversity" in a country where we have systemized race into our law and social structures.
Anonymous
02/23/2024 11:52
Subject: Re:All Girls Schools with strong commitment to DEI?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are a white family and I’m from the Deep South. I am only a couple of generations removed from some pretty heinous stuff that people I know and love did to stop racial progress — both explicitly and implicitly—in the 60s. And though I certainly fall short, I am keenly aware that I can’t be anti-racist if I don’t act anti-racist. And so it’s important to me and my family’s core values that if we are spending upwards of 50k, and there are other schools with strong academic programs (that’s practically a given in this area) that prioritize DEIB, then we are going to take that into consideration if our current school is faltering. That’s all. You don’t have to be satisfied with my reasoning or agree with it. I simply came here to hear about other options since it’s been a few years since we looked around.
Current Holton parent here, also from the Deep South but not white. I hope your family chooses to stay at Holton. We are staying and trying to work with the administration to make sure that our concerns are heard and that our girls feel that there is a space for them at the school.
Anonymous
02/22/2024 18:02
Subject: All Girls Schools with strong commitment to DEI?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you really cared about DEI, you'd be going to public school. Ideally a magnet in a low income neighborhood.
Focusing on DEI at a rich private school only shows you DEI is and always has just been a vanity project for the wealthy progressives. Which is why the beneficiaries of DEI are already affluent blacks. Not poor or middle class blacks (and probably explaining why Biden's polling is falling among this demographic).
+100 Absolutely true. I see this white virtual signally at our private school. Some of the black students on full FA are clad in designer clothes, dropped off from Range Rovers and even a freaking Ferrari, live in +2m homes.
How do you know they're on full FA?
Directly from the parents.
Wow! All my parent friends (black) are barely getting any and are definitely not in the cars/homes you mention. I wonder how they do that?
Well, one of them bragged calling their FA a “full sports scholarship”. We all know better, an all-girls middle school does not give out any sports scholarship. I’ve even asked the admissions director if they give sports scholarships, and was confirmed that there is no such thing at the school in any of the divisions.
Anonymous
02/22/2024 17:55
Subject: All Girls Schools with strong commitment to DEI?
Anonymous wrote:You are assuming socioeconomic diversity matters to schools and families. It doesn’t.
If you were correct, no schools would ever give financial aid.
Anonymous
02/22/2024 16:41
Subject: All Girls Schools with strong commitment to DEI?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you really cared about DEI, you'd be going to public school. Ideally a magnet in a low income neighborhood.
Focusing on DEI at a rich private school only shows you DEI is and always has just been a vanity project for the wealthy progressives. Which is why the beneficiaries of DEI are already affluent blacks. Not poor or middle class blacks (and probably explaining why Biden's polling is falling among this demographic).
+100 Absolutely true. I see this white virtual signally at our private school. Some of the black students on full FA are clad in designer clothes, dropped off from Range Rovers and even a freaking Ferrari, live in +2m homes.
How do you know they're on full FA?
Directly from the parents.
Wow! All my parent friends (black) are barely getting any and are definitely not in the cars/homes you mention. I wonder how they do that?
Anonymous
02/22/2024 16:40
Subject: All Girls Schools with strong commitment to DEI?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you really cared about DEI, you'd be going to public school. Ideally a magnet in a low income neighborhood.
Focusing on DEI at a rich private school only shows you DEI is and always has just been a vanity project for the wealthy progressives. Which is why the beneficiaries of DEI are already affluent blacks. Not poor or middle class blacks (and probably explaining why Biden's polling is falling among this demographic).
+100 Absolutely true. I see this white virtual signally at our private school. Some of the black students on full FA are clad in designer clothes, dropped off from Range Rovers and even a freaking Ferrari, live in +2m homes.
How do you know they're on full FA?
Directly from the parents.
Anonymous
02/22/2024 16:37
Subject: All Girls Schools with strong commitment to DEI?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you really cared about DEI, you'd be going to public school. Ideally a magnet in a low income neighborhood.
Focusing on DEI at a rich private school only shows you DEI is and always has just been a vanity project for the wealthy progressives. Which is why the beneficiaries of DEI are already affluent blacks. Not poor or middle class blacks (and probably explaining why Biden's polling is falling among this demographic).
+100 Absolutely true. I see this white virtual signally at our private school. Some of the black students on full FA are clad in designer clothes, dropped off from Range Rovers and even a freaking Ferrari, live in +2m homes.
How do you know they're on full FA?
Anonymous
02/22/2024 16:36
Subject: All Girls Schools with strong commitment to DEI?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you really cared about DEI, you'd be going to public school. Ideally a magnet in a low income neighborhood.
Focusing on DEI at a rich private school only shows you DEI is and always has just been a vanity project for the wealthy progressives. Which is why the beneficiaries of DEI are already affluent blacks. Not poor or middle class blacks (and probably explaining why Biden's polling is falling among this demographic).
+100 Absolutely true. I see this white virtual signally at our private school. Some of the black students on full FA are clad in designer clothes, dropped off from Range Rovers and even a freaking Ferrari, live in +2m homes.
I call BS on this.
I personally know two families in this situation. The school is happy that they're fulfilling their DEI quotas, and the families are satisfied they've gamed the system. I used to donate to the school's fundraisers, I don't anymore. The fundraisers this year have had very low participation. I'm sure other families are seeing this and refuse to contribute.
I wonder if we are at the same school. I know of families that don’t get necessarily a full ride but do get “discounts” even though their housing, vacations, cars and overall disposable income are far greater than mine. I know one family who was able to negotiate with our and others schools for the best deal.
Anonymous
02/22/2024 16:30
Subject: All Girls Schools with strong commitment to DEI?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you really cared about DEI, you'd be going to public school. Ideally a magnet in a low income neighborhood.
Focusing on DEI at a rich private school only shows you DEI is and always has just been a vanity project for the wealthy progressives. Which is why the beneficiaries of DEI are already affluent blacks. Not poor or middle class blacks (and probably explaining why Biden's polling is falling among this demographic).
+100 Absolutely true. I see this white virtual signally at our private school. Some of the black students on full FA are clad in designer clothes, dropped off from Range Rovers and even a freaking Ferrari, live in +2m homes.
I call BS on this.
I personally know two families in this situation. The school is happy that they're fulfilling their DEI quotas, and the families are satisfied they've gamed the system. I used to donate to the school's fundraisers, I don't anymore. The fundraisers this year have had very low participation. I'm sure other families are seeing this and refuse to contribute.
Anonymous
02/22/2024 14:59
Subject: All Girls Schools with strong commitment to DEI?
Anonymous wrote:This assumes that the onus of bringing socioeconomic diversity falls upon minorities.
No, it means that a poor Black student checks two boxes and one is most important because it’s visible. A poor White student only checks one box and that one isn’t all that important because it doesn’t show as well in the viewbook.
You are assuming socioeconomic diversity matters to schools and families. It doesn’t.