Anonymous
Post 01/27/2024 00:23     Subject: Re:Do you think DINKs are the future?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I feel that this thread has brought out a group of very militant anti-parenting people that are obsessed with money. I get it- you’re on DCUM because it’s high income. But it sort of freaks me out that you’re trolling along here and responding in such force because it makes me wonder what crappy advice you’re giving parents on DCUM.

Having children is BOTH a blessing and a huge test. Yes, both things can be true at the same time. But choosing to have kids does not make you a patsy, nor does it mean you are guaranteed to be the victims of an evil system. We still live in the wealthiest country in the world, in the Capitol of it, with one of the highest educational levels. So it’s very very strange to me that folks are so vehement that society has it out for them. Damn, people, you won the fate lottery and you’re still so ungrateful! Definitely don’t have kids if you don’t want to do the work. But don’t assume that this is the future. The numbers do not show that, even if the system is imperfect.


Bingo

Usually the loudest people in the room are the most envious. Shockingly, people can do it all - have kids, build wealth, and travel!



Very few people can have kids and do it all. Posters in this place skew wealthier so many of them can afford do it all, but that's not the case of the average family. I would go as far as to say that even people without children don't travel often and don't build much wealth as the median salary in the country doesn't allow to do all of this.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2024 15:29     Subject: Do you think DINKs are the future?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:FYI, DINK = Dual-income, no kids.

With the cost of everything skyrocketing, do you see this as the future for Gen Z? Or maybe even SINKs (single-income…)?


No. There was just a thread on here --are three kid families now the norm?

The thread was called "are three kid families becoming more common"

Please dont make sh#t up to support your claims.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2024 14:31     Subject: Do you think DINKs are the future?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nah, I think childfree people tend to be vocal about it but in reality they are the minority. I'm 33 and most of my friends have or want kids.


This.

I personally don't know anyone who is married and childless.
If they're childless, they're also single.


All my best friends from high school are childless and a LOT more of my college friends than I expected are childless.


Where did you grow up? What was your socioeconomic background?

Curious as it seems the small percentage of my friends that don't have kids came from MC upbringings and work in sectors that are not lucrative. Is money the main driver??
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2024 14:24     Subject: Do you think DINKs are the future?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nah, I think childfree people tend to be vocal about it but in reality they are the minority. I'm 33 and most of my friends have or want kids.


This.

I personally don't know anyone who is married and childless.
If they're childless, they're also single.


All my best friends from high school are childless and a LOT more of my college friends than I expected are childless.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2024 14:22     Subject: Do you think DINKs are the future?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:FYI, DINK = Dual-income, no kids.

With the cost of everything skyrocketing, do you see this as the future for Gen Z? Or maybe even SINKs (single-income…)?


No. There was just a thread on here --are three kid families now the norm?


That’s the thing. Only families that REALLY love kids are having kids, so they end up being 3-4. The “checkbox” 2 kids set is over
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2024 14:10     Subject: Do you think DINKs are the future?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nah, I think childfree people tend to be vocal about it but in reality they are the minority. I'm 33 and most of my friends have or want kids.


This.

I personally don't know anyone who is married and childless.
If they're childless, they're also single.


Interesting. I am 62 and know many who married but never had kids.

But I am in journalism, a notoriously family-unfriendly career.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2024 12:59     Subject: Do you think DINKs are the future?
Anonymous wrote:It's just odd to be hanging out on a parenting forum like DCUM and be bragging about being childfree. Why not find your people on other sites?


DINK here that reads this site. I found DCUM through the real estate forum. I don't read a lot of parenting threads, but obviously a thread about DINKs in Recent Topics is going to catch my eye.

If you have another DC forum to recommend that isn't parenting-based, I'd love to hear about it. The Washington DC subreddit skews very young and so is less relateable for me than DCUM. DCUM *is* mostly my people: middle-aged women in the DC area. Who are mostly going to be parents.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2024 12:45     Subject: Do you think DINKs are the future?
Anonymous wrote:Nah, I think childfree people tend to be vocal about it but in reality they are the minority. I'm 33 and most of my friends have or want kids.


This.

I personally don't know anyone who is married and childless.
If they're childless, they're also single.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2024 09:29     Subject: Do you think DINKs are the future?
Anonymous wrote:I got married as a man to have kids.

Why would I be a DINK?


Because you're human and want stable long-term committed companionship/love? Because you want to share resources by living with another person and have some legal protection around that? Because you don't want to be lonely?
Men are more likely to want to remarry after divorce or widowhood long after they are still desiring kids--women are much more likely to not want to remarry. Women are more likely than men to have a group of friends for social support.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2024 22:52     Subject: Do you think DINKs are the future?
lol @ people stressing about population decline.
We need population decline! There are more than 8billion people on this earth. We can decline for a little bit and all be better off. "replacement value" of life is so creepy.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2024 22:47     Subject: Do you think DINKs are the future?
Anonymous wrote:FYI, DINK = Dual-income, no kids.

With the cost of everything skyrocketing, do you see this as the future for Gen Z? Or maybe even SINKs (single-income…)?


No. There was just a thread on here --are three kid families now the norm?
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2024 19:18     Subject: Do you think DINKs are the future?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have two kids with kids, one married kid who doesn’t want kids, and another kid who doesn’t want to either get married or have kids. None of it has anything to do with the economics, just personal choices. And they are all happy with their own decisions. It’s the 21st-century folks, women have choices.

And some people just cant stand it


+1. Contraceptives which are perceived by the GOP as interfering with the implantation of a fertilized egg in the uterus or causing the death of potential life will be banned. Unexplained bleeding or miscarriages will be investigated for maternal or medical negligence.


Please stop. It would create a huge underground business.


You need to stop it by voting.