Anonymous wrote:OP hasn’t said what her one drink is.

I am very petite and I have a few drinks a week. For me, a drink is 4 oz. That’s it. I can feel a buzz with that amount. If I was drinking daily over that amount, I would consider myself an alcoholic and frankly, it would be noticeable.

Without knowing what her tolerance levels are, I would hear her husband out on why he’s concerned. Alcoholism runs in both my and my husbands families and it’s understood that we’d monitor each other.

Yes she did. She said one glass of wine or one hard cider.

If she had posted this in the Food, Cooking and Restaurants Forum, people would be giving her advice on what food to pair with that one glass of red wine.

If she had posted in the Relationships Forum, people would be telling her to dump the controlling a-whole.

But she had to post in the Health Forum, where a bunch of 2024 mask wearing freaks of nature are going to tell her that she's a one drink a day alcoholic because her dumb husband said so, and she's now going to surely get cancer because she's 7% more at risk (taking her from an overall breast cancer risk of 13% to 14%).

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If OP in fact is alcohol-dependent and/or has an alcohol use disorder, she needs more than just cessation for 30 days to prove to her husband (who might be a rational concerned spouse or might be a controlling whack job or anywhere in between--we haven't heard from her again) that she can. She needs treatment.

Oh--she has been back! And she says she loves and respects him, and she is prepared to accept his concerns regarding the 7% increased risk of breast cancer. So: it's all good. Cool your jets, DCUM.

Was the 7% increase equal to one drink a day?

That small of an increase wouldn't stop me from drinking exactly one drink a day. Neither does my 28 BMI.

Each daily drink is a 7% increase. So two drinks a day would be a 14% increase.

OP hasn’t said what her one drink is.

I am very petite and I have a few drinks a week. For me, a drink is 4 oz. That’s it. I can feel a buzz with that amount. If I was drinking daily over that amount, I would consider myself an alcoholic and frankly, it would be noticeable.

Without knowing what her tolerance levels are, I would hear her husband out on why he’s concerned. Alcoholism runs in both my and my husbands families and it’s understood that we’d monitor each other.

I don’t drink (it gives me headaches), and my husband does. He will have one or two drinks a few nights a week, and I don’t think he has a “problem.”

But I sometimes do feel frustrated by his drinking habits. The issue is that I’m always dead sober, and when he’s drinking we’re just not mentally in the same space. He’s laughing more easily and is more relaxed, but I’m still just me. If he drank only occasionally (special occasions, occasional dinners out), who cares? But when it’s several times a week, it can feel a little like—I don’t know—we’re not occupying the same space.

So maybe that’s why it bothers your husband. Every single night adds up to kind of a lot.

If you have to ask then at a minimum you have a problematic relationship with alcohol.

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If OP in fact is alcohol-dependent and/or has an alcohol use disorder, she needs more than just cessation for 30 days to prove to her husband (who might be a rational concerned spouse or might be a controlling whack job or anywhere in between--we haven't heard from her again) that she can. She needs treatment.

Oh--she has been back! And she says she loves and respects him, and she is prepared to accept his concerns regarding the 7% increased risk of breast cancer. So: it's all good. Cool your jets, DCUM.

Was the 7% increase equal to one drink a day?

That small of an increase wouldn't stop me from drinking exactly one drink a day. Neither does my 28 BMI.

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Anonymous wrote:I would suggest reading “quit like a woman” and see what you think after that. Fascinating book and it’s also funny. while on paper, one drink a day may not seem like an issue, I would take a look at your relationship with alcohol, how it feels if you can’t have it one day, are you thinking about what time you’re going to have it each day, and even how you’re feeling meeting with a friend and feeling like you want or need (don’t want put words in your mouth) to have one. Our culture thinks going out to dinner or meeting up with a friend means drinks but it really doesn’t have to. I drink but I have significantly reduced and changed my relationship with alcohol.

Based on an inexpert book that you read and fell for hook, line and sinker.

No, based on being the adult child of an alcoholic who wanted to examine my own relationship with alcohol. I've read 10+ books on an alcohol dependency/ACOA/sober living and Quit Like a Woman was my favorite. I'm not sure what you think I fell for, lol? A healthier lifestyle?

I think you’ve fallen for the idea that moderate alcohol consumption can’t be part of a healthy lifestyle. Not everyone is your wino parent.

I *think* that you cannot read. I specifically said that I do drink.

Why are you so defensive of alcohol use?

They are probably an employee of an alcohol company or very insecure.

DP. You know how crazy you sound here? Like seriously weird paranoia on display here.

Alcohol is toxic and terrible for sleep. I’d switch to drinking once a month, not daily.

Posted a couple of links. There is not much evidence supporting the benefits of alcohol- really the opposite.

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Anonymous wrote:I would suggest reading “quit like a woman” and see what you think after that. Fascinating book and it’s also funny. while on paper, one drink a day may not seem like an issue, I would take a look at your relationship with alcohol, how it feels if you can’t have it one day, are you thinking about what time you’re going to have it each day, and even how you’re feeling meeting with a friend and feeling like you want or need (don’t want put words in your mouth) to have one. Our culture thinks going out to dinner or meeting up with a friend means drinks but it really doesn’t have to. I drink but I have significantly reduced and changed my relationship with alcohol.

Based on an inexpert book that you read and fell for hook, line and sinker.

No, based on being the adult child of an alcoholic who wanted to examine my own relationship with alcohol. I've read 10+ books on an alcohol dependency/ACOA/sober living and Quit Like a Woman was my favorite. I'm not sure what you think I fell for, lol? A healthier lifestyle?

I think you’ve fallen for the idea that moderate alcohol consumption can’t be part of a healthy lifestyle. Not everyone is your wino parent.

I *think* that you cannot read. I specifically said that I do drink.

Why are you so defensive of alcohol use?

They are probably an employee of an alcohol company or very insecure.

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Anonymous wrote:This post really brought out the defensive alcoholics and folx with an alcohol use disorder!

As well as the paranoid children of alcoholics and the people who are deeply unhappy with the idea that someone, somewhere, is having fun.

Yes, because nothing is fun without alcohol!

What a pathetic way to live life.

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Anonymous wrote:This post really brought out the defensive alcoholics and folx with an alcohol use disorder!

As well as the paranoid children of alcoholics and the people who are deeply unhappy with the idea that someone, somewhere, is having fun.

Paranoid isn't the general condition/emotion of adult children of alcoholics. Look up cptsd, then you'll be on the right track and, perhaps, gain understanding of why some acoc don't drink at all.

It’s fine that they don’t drink. But some of the ones posting in this thread aren’t satisfied with that, they want everyone not to drink, ever, or consider them alcoholic. That’s deeply disordered.

They have been traumatized due to alcoholism. I imagine for some the smell of alcohol is triggering. I'm an acoa who doesn't drink or care if others do, but I am aware when someone (in a non drinking setting) has been drinking. The alcohol comes out of your pores, it's on your breath and it makes you look bloated next day. For everyone claiming daily drinking isn't harmful, I counter that it harms your appearance.

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Anonymous wrote:I would suggest reading “quit like a woman” and see what you think after that. Fascinating book and it’s also funny. while on paper, one drink a day may not seem like an issue, I would take a look at your relationship with alcohol, how it feels if you can’t have it one day, are you thinking about what time you’re going to have it each day, and even how you’re feeling meeting with a friend and feeling like you want or need (don’t want put words in your mouth) to have one. Our culture thinks going out to dinner or meeting up with a friend means drinks but it really doesn’t have to. I drink but I have significantly reduced and changed my relationship with alcohol.

Based on an inexpert book that you read and fell for hook, line and sinker.

No, based on being the adult child of an alcoholic who wanted to examine my own relationship with alcohol. I've read 10+ books on an alcohol dependency/ACOA/sober living and Quit Like a Woman was my favorite. I'm not sure what you think I fell for, lol? A healthier lifestyle?

I think you’ve fallen for the idea that moderate alcohol consumption can’t be part of a healthy lifestyle. Not everyone is your wino parent.

I *think* that you cannot read. I specifically said that I do drink.

Why are you so defensive of alcohol use?

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Anonymous wrote:I would suggest reading “quit like a woman” and see what you think after that. Fascinating book and it’s also funny. while on paper, one drink a day may not seem like an issue, I would take a look at your relationship with alcohol, how it feels if you can’t have it one day, are you thinking about what time you’re going to have it each day, and even how you’re feeling meeting with a friend and feeling like you want or need (don’t want put words in your mouth) to have one. Our culture thinks going out to dinner or meeting up with a friend means drinks but it really doesn’t have to. I drink but I have significantly reduced and changed my relationship with alcohol.

Based on an inexpert book that you read and fell for hook, line and sinker.

No, based on being the adult child of an alcoholic who wanted to examine my own relationship with alcohol. I've read 10+ books on an alcohol dependency/ACOA/sober living and Quit Like a Woman was my favorite. I'm not sure what you think I fell for, lol? A healthier lifestyle?

I think you’ve fallen for the idea that moderate alcohol consumption can’t be part of a healthy lifestyle. Not everyone is your wino parent.

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Anonymous wrote:I would suggest reading “quit like a woman” and see what you think after that. Fascinating book and it’s also funny. while on paper, one drink a day may not seem like an issue, I would take a look at your relationship with alcohol, how it feels if you can’t have it one day, are you thinking about what time you’re going to have it each day, and even how you’re feeling meeting with a friend and feeling like you want or need (don’t want put words in your mouth) to have one. Our culture thinks going out to dinner or meeting up with a friend means drinks but it really doesn’t have to. I drink but I have significantly reduced and changed my relationship with alcohol.

Based on an inexpert book that you read and fell for hook, line and sinker.

No, based on being the adult child of an alcoholic who wanted to examine my own relationship with alcohol. I've read 10+ books on a alcohol dependency/ACOA/sober living and Quit Like a Woman was my favorite. I'm not sure what you think I fell for, lol? A healthier lifestyle?