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Anonymous wrote:I think it trickled down from online dating to adults to kids. Height is one of the things people can filter dating profiles by, so it has taken on an outsize importance. It baffles and annoys me as well.

this! I’m single and somehow tall men are in HIGH demand no matter how awful they are. i have friends that straight up won’t go in a date right a man under 6’

i also don’t think any of this is new. taller men have always been more desirable.

How are your friends being asked on so many dates that they can be that choosey? All the young 20 and 30 something women i know (lovely, smart, accomplished) have a really hard time getting dates with ANY decent guys. Where are eligible men falling out of the sky to a degree that a woman can turn them down over an inch of height?

I used to only date tall guys. It isn’t that hard if that is what you are attracted to. I used to go clubbing and I only noticed guys who were 6’+.

I ended up marrying a guy of average height.

I’m not sure if it is the same thing but it is like a guy settling down with a nice girl.

A short guy can be insecure or confident. If he has a good looking face, funny, smart, good personality, he should have no problems with women. If he is just short and insecure and brings nothing to the table, women won’t like him.

My friend is married to a guy who is 5’6” and he is one of the best dads and highly competent men I know. He lacks for nothing.

Anonymous wrote:Average height male. 5’8. Graduated high school in 89. Late bloomer. Hit puberty at 16. I went through a city public and never received a quarter of the flat out abuse - from both males and even worse females (and even parents) my 15 year old late blooming son receives at UMC suburban high school. What gives?

Part of it is the imperial measurement system. It sounds impressive to be six foot tall. Being 182.333 centimeters doesn't sound the same, even though it is.

There are studies, however, that good looking people and taller men have unfair advantages in work and play.

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Anonymous wrote:It's been going on forever, at least with white people. I was a "tall" kid who tapped out at 5'5ish in middle school. I married 6'5 so kids wouldn't be short with my genetics.

A 5’5” women isn’t short. Man people are messed up.

It’s her daily perspective.

I’m 5’6, my husband is 6’5 and my young teen boys are 6’4 and 6’2. While I know I’m not short (generally taller than most other women on hang out with), I constantly feel very small bc I’m living with Sasquatches. They even call me “Elf-y.”

That isn’t what she said. She said she specifically married a man that was 6’5” so her kids wouldn’t get her “short” genes..bc she is 5’5”??

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Anonymous wrote:I think it trickled down from online dating to adults to kids. Height is one of the things people can filter dating profiles by, so it has taken on an outsize importance. It baffles and annoys me as well.

this! I’m single and somehow tall men are in HIGH demand no matter how awful they are. i have friends that straight up won’t go in a date right a man under 6’

i also don’t think any of this is new. taller men have always been more desirable.

Maybe for a first date. But they are just as likely (if not more) to be a-holes than any other guy you go on a date with

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it trickled down from online dating to adults to kids. Height is one of the things people can filter dating profiles by, so it has taken on an outsize importance. It baffles and annoys me as well.

this! I’m single and somehow tall men are in HIGH demand no matter how awful they are. i have friends that straight up won’t go in a date right a man under 6’

i also don’t think any of this is new. taller men have always been more desirable.

How are your friends being asked on so many dates that they can be that choosey? All the young 20 and 30 something women i know (lovely, smart, accomplished) have a really hard time getting dates with ANY decent guys. Where are eligible men falling out of the sky to a degree that a woman can turn them down over an inch of height?

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Anonymous wrote:It's been going on forever, at least with white people. I was a "tall" kid who tapped out at 5'5ish in middle school. I married 6'5 so kids wouldn't be short with my genetics.

A 5’5” women isn’t short. Man people are messed up.

It’s her daily perspective.

I’m 5’6, my husband is 6’5 and my young teen boys are 6’4 and 6’2. While I know I’m not short (generally taller than most other women on hang out with), I constantly feel very small bc I’m living with Sasquatches. They even call me “Elf-y.”

Anonymous wrote:I think it trickled down from online dating to adults to kids. Height is one of the things people can filter dating profiles by, so it has taken on an outsize importance. It baffles and annoys me as well.

this! I’m single and somehow tall men are in HIGH demand no matter how awful they are. i have friends that straight up won’t go in a date right a man under 6’

i also don’t think any of this is new. taller men have always been more desirable.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, as the mother of a 5'6" 17yo boy, I think girls are really mean about this and way more than boys.

It is verboten for boys to say a thing about a girls weight but social media is full of girls making fun of short guys, demeaning them, and basically being hypocrites.

Moms of girls, teach them better.

+1 This has been DD's and DS's experience. The boys tease boys but it's mostly part of the larger context of boy bashing humor, like the way they may make fun of another boy's hair or clothes or athletic ability. The girls comments I've heard are more cruel. Overheard DD's friends talking about a crush one of them had but others put down the boy for being small. WTF right?

If you really think boys aren't making comments about girls' body types, you have your head in the sand. I have a DD who is tall and very thin (athlete) and she's had boys make comments about her being too skinny, having no butt, etc. right to her face. And, FWIW, she has a major crush on a boy who is the same height as she is (maybe an inch shorter). So, please stop the generalizations. There are mean girls and mean boys out there.

I am taller it, 6’4”. I never cared about or commented on another person height. In my teens and 20s the number of random shorter guys that would try to instigate a fight for no reason at all was comical.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, as the mother of a 5'6" 17yo boy, I think girls are really mean about this and way more than boys.

It is verboten for boys to say a thing about a girls weight but social media is full of girls making fun of short guys, demeaning them, and basically being hypocrites.

Moms of girls, teach them better.

+1 This has been DD's and DS's experience. The boys tease boys but it's mostly part of the larger context of boy bashing humor, like the way they may make fun of another boy's hair or clothes or athletic ability. The girls comments I've heard are more cruel. Overheard DD's friends talking about a crush one of them had but others put down the boy for being small. WTF right?

Anonymous wrote:This is Op. Thanks for the input. Super interesting. I guess I just realize how primal we still all are.

But here is my PSA on the issue: please tell your kids that some folks are being taunted for really in many cases what is a TEMPORARY condition. I agree folks have their preferences for types they want to be in relationships with. Totally fine. What we are talking about is making someone’s life hell for a condition that’s relatively common (late bloomer). DCUM crowd leads the way!

This has to be the most tone deaf obnoxious comment I've read in weeks. For many kids this is not a "TEMPORARY" condition. They will just be small. So it's okay to make fun of them? You're probably the worst one on this whole thread.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s the only thing left that they are “allowed” to pick on other people about.

This.

But they shouldn't be.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, as the mother of a 5'6" 17yo boy, I think girls are really mean about this and way more than boys.

It is verboten for boys to say a thing about a girls weight but social media is full of girls making fun of short guys, demeaning them, and basically being hypocrites.

Moms of girls, teach them better.

Eh, I'm a tall girl, boys had no problem insulting me.

So do better.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, as the mother of a 5'6" 17yo boy, I think girls are really mean about this and way more than boys.

It is verboten for boys to say a thing about a girls weight but social media is full of girls making fun of short guys, demeaning them, and basically being hypocrites.

Moms of girls, teach them better.

Eh, I'm a tall girl, boys had no problem insulting me.

Anonymous wrote:It’s the only thing left that they are “allowed” to pick on other people about.

This.