He got coffee and is sitting reading DCUM to decompress before heading home. Oh, wait, that’s me. 🤪

Op I see people "hiding" in parking lots everyday, on there phone. Twice I've seen two people actually having sex in a car as well, right there for anyone to see. So it could be innocent or it might not be. I would be concerned.

You should have went and checked yourself before giving that information up to him. SMH.

I sometimes sit in the car at home or at work to just chill. I also go to random niceish grocery stores to chill.

Masturbating? Do you have regular intimacy, OP?

He was probably making a TikTok.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I and the kids all track each other all the time. No one thinks anything of it. I know lots of friends like this. It takes two seconds to check if someone arrived safely or has left yet.

This. I don’t get it either. There are literal apps people pay money for to do this. This thread is weird.

I guess I’m a shit wife because I’ve checked to see many a time how long I have/how far away DH is until he gets home for many a benign and sundry reason. One instance that comes to mind is the time I looked to see if he had already passed the grocery store on his way home from work, because I would have had him stop if he hadn’t, but didn’t want to bother his commute with a needless call. I guess I’m up his ass!

Very much so! Give him some space.

Got it. He has no clue (nor do I have any clue when people check my location) but by all means, I’ll surely “give him some space” next time by bugging him with a call. Lmao make it make sense!

The location arrow will flash on your phone if someone or an ap accesses your location

On iPhone? Not on Android

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I and the kids all track each other all the time. No one thinks anything of it. I know lots of friends like this. It takes two seconds to check if someone arrived safely or has left yet.

This. I don’t get it either. There are literal apps people pay money for to do this. This thread is weird.

I guess I’m a shit wife because I’ve checked to see many a time how long I have/how far away DH is until he gets home for many a benign and sundry reason. One instance that comes to mind is the time I looked to see if he had already passed the grocery store on his way home from work, because I would have had him stop if he hadn’t, but didn’t want to bother his commute with a needless call. I guess I’m up his ass!

Very much so! Give him some space.

Got it. He has no clue (nor do I have any clue when people check my location) but by all means, I’ll surely “give him some space” next time by bugging him with a call. Lmao make it make sense!

The location arrow will flash on your phone if someone or an ap accesses your location

This is absolutely not true, at least with FindMy.

Yeah….. sounds like a hookup.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I and the kids all track each other all the time. No one thinks anything of it. I know lots of friends like this. It takes two seconds to check if someone arrived safely or has left yet.

This. I don’t get it either. There are literal apps people pay money for to do this. This thread is weird.

I guess I’m a shit wife because I’ve checked to see many a time how long I have/how far away DH is until he gets home for many a benign and sundry reason. One instance that comes to mind is the time I looked to see if he had already passed the grocery store on his way home from work, because I would have had him stop if he hadn’t, but didn’t want to bother his commute with a needless call. I guess I’m up his ass!

It’s a 2 second phone call…and maybe your spouse is exhausted and doesn’t want to go to the store, or has takeout in the car for dinner and doesn’t want it getting cold, etc. Just call them instead of tracking them like a creep.

Other PP here. Our spouses know we do this and are fine with it. They do it to us too. Its quick and practical if you have nothing to hide.

My husband and I also do this. I can’t call him, he’s on the Metro. But I can see where he is and make a decision to either put dinner on the table and eat with the kids because he’s 30 min away or ask the kids to wait 5 min so we can all eat together.

We also have one day a week where I have to leave a sports practice to take our other child to his sport practice. I need to know he will arrive before I depart the field. When we’re both juggling kids, the last thing we need to do is pick up a phone. My hands are full or I am driving.

Anonymous wrote:I will literally drive in circles around the house for 45 minutes sometimes so I am ready to check into family life when I walk through the door.

The problem with a WFH spouse is that they are deprived of social interaction and look to their spouse to fill that void. If he can’t come in the door and spend 30 minutes alone in the bedroom decompressing, he’s going to find other places to do it.

so true

I’m a woman. I understand the need to decompress- dh and I both wfh and I often sit in my car alone to do this- usually after dropping the kids off at school, or getting there a few minutes early to pick them up. But I will do it in the driveway, or in the parking lot of my kids school. Or a parking lot where I ran an errand. I don’t go to a bunch of random parking lots on the way home to my house. My husband even knows that I take calls with my therapist from my car in our driveway just to get some personal time outside of our walls.

Personally I think what her husband is doing is a little weird. That said, they have location sharing on, and he’d be pretty stupid to do something damaging knowing that.

Anonymous wrote:You really should have not said a thing and drove down to see for yourself what he was up to. You gave it away!

Yeah, this was the thing to do if she was truly suspicious, not confronting him.

Sometimes at the end of the day I realize I need to call my mom and do that from the car. I also sometimes call my boss from my car if I need to tie up some last minute things.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I and the kids all track each other all the time. No one thinks anything of it. I know lots of friends like this. It takes two seconds to check if someone arrived safely or has left yet.

This. I don’t get it either. There are literal apps people pay money for to do this. This thread is weird.

I guess I’m a shit wife because I’ve checked to see many a time how long I have/how far away DH is until he gets home for many a benign and sundry reason. One instance that comes to mind is the time I looked to see if he had already passed the grocery store on his way home from work, because I would have had him stop if he hadn’t, but didn’t want to bother his commute with a needless call. I guess I’m up his ass!

Very much so! Give him some space.

Got it. He has no clue (nor do I have any clue when people check my location) but by all means, I’ll surely “give him some space” next time by bugging him with a call. Lmao make it make sense!

The location arrow will flash on your phone if someone or an ap accesses your location

Anonymous wrote:If he wanted alone time, why would he drive from where he works to random parking lots? Why not just sit in his car where he works?

Because coworkers will knock on his window to ask what he's doing, or want to chat.

I sit in my car for about 30 minutes in between the end of my work day and picking up my son from after care. I could run errands but I don't. I choose to sit alone. But people think it's weird that I stay at work at the end of the day and bug me about it. So, I park at the school or elsewhere.