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Anonymous wrote:Teacher here. This has to go to law enforcement. The grouper needs to know this won’t be tolerated, and the girl needs to know that sexual assault is always reported to law enforcement.

Law enforcement? You mean, like, police??!? NO!

Police should be defunded. Police should never be in schools. #BlackLivesMatter

This is a joke right?

Of course it is. Can't you recognize the troll?

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Anonymous wrote:Teacher here. This has to go to law enforcement. The grouper needs to know this won’t be tolerated, and the girl needs to know that sexual assault is always reported to law enforcement.

Law enforcement? You mean, like, police??!? NO!

Police should be defunded. Police should never be in schools. #BlackLivesMatter

This is a joke right?

Anonymous wrote:Teacher here. This has to go to law enforcement. The grouper needs to know this won’t be tolerated, and the girl needs to know that sexual assault is always reported to law enforcement.

Law enforcement? You mean, like, police??!? NO!

Police should be defunded. Police should never be in schools. #BlackLivesMatter

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Anonymous wrote:OP again. Thank you so much for everything. It pushed me to realize that regardless of anything else, I needed to go to the school. Met with the principal this morning, my daughter gave a statement. I think she was really upset, but overall she did great and I hope it helps her feel better.

Side note, the boy was also doing this to another girl, so I'm glad I brought it up for the boy's sake (so he can stop and not get worse, I hope).

I was very happy with how the principal handled everything with my daughter, so we'll see. Thank you again.

I think you did the right thing. Involving the police seems problematic- for all.

Whatever the police do or don't do is not the victim's fault. She can call the police if she wants.

DUDE How is calling the police for 2 assaults problematic???

+100

It's shocking that people are more worried about this boy. And sounds like he was doing this to another girl as well?

I would be tempted to unleash DD's older (varsity wrestler) brother on this kid and deal with those consequences.

Look, I don’t care about the boy. But what is going to be the result of involving the police? Nothing will come of it. He isn’t going to be charged with anything, especially if under 13

He may actually, finally, have the fear of God put into him.

I would bet this kid isn't afraid of his Dad, or the principal, or any adults in life. I bet this kid think he can do WHATEVER he wants.

And he needs a moment in his life where he feels like he's gonna crap his pants out of fear. And that will happen if he has to sit down with LEO

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Anonymous wrote:OP again. Thank you so much for everything. It pushed me to realize that regardless of anything else, I needed to go to the school. Met with the principal this morning, my daughter gave a statement. I think she was really upset, but overall she did great and I hope it helps her feel better.

Side note, the boy was also doing this to another girl, so I'm glad I brought it up for the boy's sake (so he can stop and not get worse, I hope).

I was very happy with how the principal handled everything with my daughter, so we'll see. Thank you again.

I think you did the right thing. Involving the police seems problematic- for all.

Whatever the police do or don't do is not the victim's fault. She can call the police if she wants.

DUDE How is calling the police for 2 assaults problematic???

+100

It's shocking that people are more worried about this boy. And sounds like he was doing this to another girl as well?

I would be tempted to unleash DD's older (varsity wrestler) brother on this kid and deal with those consequences.

Look, I don’t care about the boy. But what is going to be the result of involving the police? Nothing will come of it. He isn’t going to be charged with anything, especially if under 13

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Anonymous wrote:OP again. Thank you so much for everything. It pushed me to realize that regardless of anything else, I needed to go to the school. Met with the principal this morning, my daughter gave a statement. I think she was really upset, but overall she did great and I hope it helps her feel better.

Side note, the boy was also doing this to another girl, so I'm glad I brought it up for the boy's sake (so he can stop and not get worse, I hope).

I was very happy with how the principal handled everything with my daughter, so we'll see. Thank you again.

I think you did the right thing. Involving the police seems problematic- for all.

Whatever the police do or don't do is not the victim's fault. She can call the police if she wants.

DUDE How is calling the police for 2 assaults problematic???

+100

It's shocking that people are more worried about this boy. And sounds like he was doing this to another girl as well?

I would be tempted to unleash DD's older (varsity wrestler) brother on this kid and deal with those consequences.

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Anonymous wrote:OP again. Thank you so much for everything. It pushed me to realize that regardless of anything else, I needed to go to the school. Met with the principal this morning, my daughter gave a statement. I think she was really upset, but overall she did great and I hope it helps her feel better.

Side note, the boy was also doing this to another girl, so I'm glad I brought it up for the boy's sake (so he can stop and not get worse, I hope).

I was very happy with how the principal handled everything with my daughter, so we'll see. Thank you again.

I think you did the right thing. Involving the police seems problematic- for all.

Disagree.

That kid needs a knock on the door from a police officer.

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Anonymous wrote:The “devious licks” thing is old, I remember getting the same thing a few years ago and some idiot kid actually vandalized a schoo bathroom and “blamed it on TikTok”.
I don’t let my kids go in tiktok.
Op, please speak with the school immediately and advocate for your child. Simply because she is shy and doesn’t want a fuss made doesn’t mean she needs to sit back and take abuse and assault. And this is assault. Please get her help!

Just FYI - don't be naive. If your kids have access to YouTube, then they're seeing every single thing posted on TikTok.

Yup. YouTube, IG, and FB all have reels. And most kids create their own account and delete it nightly or use it on a friends phone. Forbidden fruit is so tempting

Yup, which is why MSers doesnt have any of those things.

I'm not pretending that they haven't seen lots of crap that I don't want them to (I mean, you only need one friend in the group where the parent don't care about controls for everyone in the group to see everything when they are hanging out together), but that doesn't mean I won't make every effort to keep it off their phones or make it as difficult as possible

Teacher here. This has to go to law enforcement. The grouper needs to know this won’t be tolerated, and the girl needs to know that sexual assault is always reported to law enforcement.

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Anonymous wrote:The “devious licks” thing is old, I remember getting the same thing a few years ago and some idiot kid actually vandalized a schoo bathroom and “blamed it on TikTok”.
I don’t let my kids go in tiktok.
Op, please speak with the school immediately and advocate for your child. Simply because she is shy and doesn’t want a fuss made doesn’t mean she needs to sit back and take abuse and assault. And this is assault. Please get her help!

Just FYI - don't be naive. If your kids have access to YouTube, then they're seeing every single thing posted on TikTok.

Yup. YouTube, IG, and FB all have reels. And most kids create their own account and delete it nightly or use it on a friends phone. Forbidden fruit is so tempting

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Anonymous wrote:Report this to the police today!
Once the report is done inform the school.
Empower your daughter to defend herself, hit, scream or kick him in the balls if he gropes her again.

No! The school cannot employ restorative justice if you involve the police.

Where is your concern for the boy who did this?

I'm guessing you're joking? Restorative justice is a joke.

Real Restorative Justice is amazingly effective at stopping offenders from re-offending. But it takes a lot of training, consistency, and monitoring to make sure it's done right. So a lot that's called "RJ" is not really RJ, and makes people think what you said. But make no mistake, there's abundant studies & evidence that done well, it's highly effective - including in some unbelievably complex, violent situations. And it is effective for both offender and victim, that's the whole point, to try to make the victim "whole" again as much as possible, while addressing a bunch of things with the offender that make them far far less likely to offend again.

That's wonderful. I've never actually seen or heard of it being effective in DCPS. I would be happy to be proven wrong!

It is not effective for the victim. At all.

I've worked in a court that practiced it. I've seen families of murder victims and actual rape victims themselves swear by it when it was all over. I understand that you don't believe in it, but don't for a moment try to speak for all the victims who said it actually was healing & effective when they thought nothing would ever heal them. If a family of someone murdered or someone raped by the defendant feel that way, and the defendant once they do their time doesn't re-offend anymore, that is effective more so than most of what happens every day in this country. Problem is it's very very hard to consistently do it right and you have to constantly be training staff and re-training staff.

There is a big difference between a convicted murderer doing it through a court and an accused grouper using it as a way to escape punishment

You're proving how little you know about this. Just about everyone caught doing something they weren't supposed to do and that they're getting in trouble for is looking for a way out. It would never be effective in schools (when done right) if "an accused groper wanted to use it to escape punishment" - Newsflash: EVERY kid accused of something they know they did wants to escape punishment. Maybe read up on Restorative Justice and how it is supposed to work before you try to dismiss it while showing you know almost nothing about it. When done right... it works very well. It is very hard to do it right, so it's hard to have as "The go-to consequence" in an overwhelmed school system that can't commit the staff & time to doing it well all the time.

So is restorative justice the new communism? That’s never been implemented correctly so we’ve never seen how good it could be?

+1 exactly, it's just a ridiculous talking point

Is selective reading the new trend? There seem to be 2 of us saying Restorative Justice works when done well, that it's hard to do well, but that we have SEEN IT DONE WELL and there is plenty of studies and findings about it that show it's effective. I've seen it work shockingly well in a court program and in schools.

But all of you intent on only taking away that it never works or it has never been done right so no one knows if it works, I seriously doubt you're out there finding better solutions for school discipline problems so not gonna worry that you choose ignorance about it.

What are the chances that RJ would be done well? Not very good.

A 12 year old girl deserves better, not to have a very likely crappy attempt at RJ that would leave her feeling like the kid who groped her is more important.

Stop pushing it, please.

- someone who was groped.

Good news: NO ONE in this entire conversation is pushing for Restorative Justice in OP's situation. I'm one of the people talking about it and my first post said zero about RJ and suggested she do exactly what OP did do: Go in person to the school and talk to the teacher and/or the Principal. NOTHING about RJ, because as has been said a zillion times in this convo, it's so rare that it's done with fidelity, it's not something to ever suggest unless you know those who will conduct it know what they're doing.

So let's call the RJ conversation in her done, because it has only turned into a side conversation because someone labeled it "only an excuse offenders use to escape accountability" (those weren't the words but that was the meaning) and apparently at least 2 posters here are just pointing out it's very valuable when done well, but rarely done well over a long period of time and too many people slap the label on and don't do it.

But, for you and everyone else concerned, NO ONE IS SUGGESTING IT / "PUSHING IT" FOR OP.

Good! Start your own post about the benefits of RJ, since apparently it was never meant to apply to op's daughter's situation. Kind of odd to bring it up in this post if it was never meant as a possible solution.

I didn't bring it up. It came up when someone else said maybe that's what the offender will try for to get away with it, someone else said it was awful, and me and someone else responded to those comments. As happens endlessly on DCUM. That's how it started, and I'm good with ending it. Just don't say yet another thing about me starting it or pushing it for OP so I don't have anything to correct, and we're done.

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Anonymous wrote:Report this to the police today!
Once the report is done inform the school.
Empower your daughter to defend herself, hit, scream or kick him in the balls if he gropes her again.

No! The school cannot employ restorative justice if you involve the police.

Where is your concern for the boy who did this?

I'm guessing you're joking? Restorative justice is a joke.

Real Restorative Justice is amazingly effective at stopping offenders from re-offending. But it takes a lot of training, consistency, and monitoring to make sure it's done right. So a lot that's called "RJ" is not really RJ, and makes people think what you said. But make no mistake, there's abundant studies & evidence that done well, it's highly effective - including in some unbelievably complex, violent situations. And it is effective for both offender and victim, that's the whole point, to try to make the victim "whole" again as much as possible, while addressing a bunch of things with the offender that make them far far less likely to offend again.

That's wonderful. I've never actually seen or heard of it being effective in DCPS. I would be happy to be proven wrong!

It is not effective for the victim. At all.

I've worked in a court that practiced it. I've seen families of murder victims and actual rape victims themselves swear by it when it was all over. I understand that you don't believe in it, but don't for a moment try to speak for all the victims who said it actually was healing & effective when they thought nothing would ever heal them. If a family of someone murdered or someone raped by the defendant feel that way, and the defendant once they do their time doesn't re-offend anymore, that is effective more so than most of what happens every day in this country. Problem is it's very very hard to consistently do it right and you have to constantly be training staff and re-training staff.

There is a big difference between a convicted murderer doing it through a court and an accused grouper using it as a way to escape punishment

You're proving how little you know about this. Just about everyone caught doing something they weren't supposed to do and that they're getting in trouble for is looking for a way out. It would never be effective in schools (when done right) if "an accused groper wanted to use it to escape punishment" - Newsflash: EVERY kid accused of something they know they did wants to escape punishment. Maybe read up on Restorative Justice and how it is supposed to work before you try to dismiss it while showing you know almost nothing about it. When done right... it works very well. It is very hard to do it right, so it's hard to have as "The go-to consequence" in an overwhelmed school system that can't commit the staff & time to doing it well all the time.

So is restorative justice the new communism? That’s never been implemented correctly so we’ve never seen how good it could be?

+1 exactly, it's just a ridiculous talking point

Is selective reading the new trend? There seem to be 2 of us saying Restorative Justice works when done well, that it's hard to do well, but that we have SEEN IT DONE WELL and there is plenty of studies and findings about it that show it's effective. I've seen it work shockingly well in a court program and in schools.

But all of you intent on only taking away that it never works or it has never been done right so no one knows if it works, I seriously doubt you're out there finding better solutions for school discipline problems so not gonna worry that you choose ignorance about it.

What are the chances that RJ would be done well? Not very good.

A 12 year old girl deserves better, not to have a very likely crappy attempt at RJ that would leave her feeling like the kid who groped her is more important.

Stop pushing it, please.

- someone who was groped.

Good news: NO ONE in this entire conversation is pushing for Restorative Justice in OP's situation. I'm one of the people talking about it and my first post said zero about RJ and suggested she do exactly what OP did do: Go in person to the school and talk to the teacher and/or the Principal. NOTHING about RJ, because as has been said a zillion times in this convo, it's so rare that it's done with fidelity, it's not something to ever suggest unless you know those who will conduct it know what they're doing.

So let's call the RJ conversation in her done, because it has only turned into a side conversation because someone labeled it "only an excuse offenders use to escape accountability" (those weren't the words but that was the meaning) and apparently at least 2 posters here are just pointing out it's very valuable when done well, but rarely done well over a long period of time and too many people slap the label on and don't do it.

But, for you and everyone else concerned, NO ONE IS SUGGESTING IT / "PUSHING IT" FOR OP.

Good! Start your own post about the benefits of RJ, since apparently it was never meant to apply to op's daughter's situation. Kind of odd to bring it up in this post if it was never meant as a possible solution.

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Anonymous wrote:Report this to the police today!
Once the report is done inform the school.
Empower your daughter to defend herself, hit, scream or kick him in the balls if he gropes her again.

No! The school cannot employ restorative justice if you involve the police.

Where is your concern for the boy who did this?

I'm guessing you're joking? Restorative justice is a joke.

Real Restorative Justice is amazingly effective at stopping offenders from re-offending. But it takes a lot of training, consistency, and monitoring to make sure it's done right. So a lot that's called "RJ" is not really RJ, and makes people think what you said. But make no mistake, there's abundant studies & evidence that done well, it's highly effective - including in some unbelievably complex, violent situations. And it is effective for both offender and victim, that's the whole point, to try to make the victim "whole" again as much as possible, while addressing a bunch of things with the offender that make them far far less likely to offend again.

That's wonderful. I've never actually seen or heard of it being effective in DCPS. I would be happy to be proven wrong!

It is not effective for the victim. At all.

I've worked in a court that practiced it. I've seen families of murder victims and actual rape victims themselves swear by it when it was all over. I understand that you don't believe in it, but don't for a moment try to speak for all the victims who said it actually was healing & effective when they thought nothing would ever heal them. If a family of someone murdered or someone raped by the defendant feel that way, and the defendant once they do their time doesn't re-offend anymore, that is effective more so than most of what happens every day in this country. Problem is it's very very hard to consistently do it right and you have to constantly be training staff and re-training staff.

There is a big difference between a convicted murderer doing it through a court and an accused grouper using it as a way to escape punishment

You're proving how little you know about this. Just about everyone caught doing something they weren't supposed to do and that they're getting in trouble for is looking for a way out. It would never be effective in schools (when done right) if "an accused groper wanted to use it to escape punishment" - Newsflash: EVERY kid accused of something they know they did wants to escape punishment. Maybe read up on Restorative Justice and how it is supposed to work before you try to dismiss it while showing you know almost nothing about it. When done right... it works very well. It is very hard to do it right, so it's hard to have as "The go-to consequence" in an overwhelmed school system that can't commit the staff & time to doing it well all the time.

So is restorative justice the new communism? That’s never been implemented correctly so we’ve never seen how good it could be?

+1 exactly, it's just a ridiculous talking point

Is selective reading the new trend? There seem to be 2 of us saying Restorative Justice works when done well, that it's hard to do well, but that we have SEEN IT DONE WELL and there is plenty of studies and findings about it that show it's effective. I've seen it work shockingly well in a court program and in schools.

But all of you intent on only taking away that it never works or it has never been done right so no one knows if it works, I seriously doubt you're out there finding better solutions for school discipline problems so not gonna worry that you choose ignorance about it.

What are the chances that RJ would be done well? Not very good.

A 12 year old girl deserves better, not to have a very likely crappy attempt at RJ that would leave her feeling like the kid who groped her is more important.

Stop pushing it, please.

- someone who was groped.

Good news: NO ONE in this entire conversation is pushing for Restorative Justice in OP's situation. I'm one of the people talking about it and my first post said zero about RJ and suggested she do exactly what OP did do: Go in person to the school and talk to the teacher and/or the Principal. NOTHING about RJ, because as has been said a zillion times in this convo, it's so rare that it's done with fidelity, it's not something to ever suggest unless you know those who will conduct it know what they're doing.

So let's call the RJ conversation in her done, because it has only turned into a side conversation because someone labeled it "only an excuse offenders use to escape accountability" (those weren't the words but that was the meaning) and apparently at least 2 posters here are just pointing out it's very valuable when done well, but rarely done well over a long period of time and too many people slap the label on and don't do it.

But, for you and everyone else concerned, NO ONE IS SUGGESTING IT / "PUSHING IT" FOR OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Report this to the police today!
Once the report is done inform the school.
Empower your daughter to defend herself, hit, scream or kick him in the balls if he gropes her again.

No! The school cannot employ restorative justice if you involve the police.

Where is your concern for the boy who did this?

I'm guessing you're joking? Restorative justice is a joke.

Real Restorative Justice is amazingly effective at stopping offenders from re-offending. But it takes a lot of training, consistency, and monitoring to make sure it's done right. So a lot that's called "RJ" is not really RJ, and makes people think what you said. But make no mistake, there's abundant studies & evidence that done well, it's highly effective - including in some unbelievably complex, violent situations. And it is effective for both offender and victim, that's the whole point, to try to make the victim "whole" again as much as possible, while addressing a bunch of things with the offender that make them far far less likely to offend again.

That's wonderful. I've never actually seen or heard of it being effective in DCPS. I would be happy to be proven wrong!

It is not effective for the victim. At all.

I've worked in a court that practiced it. I've seen families of murder victims and actual rape victims themselves swear by it when it was all over. I understand that you don't believe in it, but don't for a moment try to speak for all the victims who said it actually was healing & effective when they thought nothing would ever heal them. If a family of someone murdered or someone raped by the defendant feel that way, and the defendant once they do their time doesn't re-offend anymore, that is effective more so than most of what happens every day in this country. Problem is it's very very hard to consistently do it right and you have to constantly be training staff and re-training staff.

There is a big difference between a convicted murderer doing it through a court and an accused grouper using it as a way to escape punishment

You're proving how little you know about this. Just about everyone caught doing something they weren't supposed to do and that they're getting in trouble for is looking for a way out. It would never be effective in schools (when done right) if "an accused groper wanted to use it to escape punishment" - Newsflash: EVERY kid accused of something they know they did wants to escape punishment. Maybe read up on Restorative Justice and how it is supposed to work before you try to dismiss it while showing you know almost nothing about it. When done right... it works very well. It is very hard to do it right, so it's hard to have as "The go-to consequence" in an overwhelmed school system that can't commit the staff & time to doing it well all the time.

So is restorative justice the new communism? That’s never been implemented correctly so we’ve never seen how good it could be?

+1 exactly, it's just a ridiculous talking point

Is selective reading the new trend? There seem to be 2 of us saying Restorative Justice works when done well, that it's hard to do well, but that we have SEEN IT DONE WELL and there is plenty of studies and findings about it that show it's effective. I've seen it work shockingly well in a court program and in schools.

But all of you intent on only taking away that it never works or it has never been done right so no one knows if it works, I seriously doubt you're out there finding better solutions for school discipline problems so not gonna worry that you choose ignorance about it.

It often does more harm than good.

Can you link to examples of where it was done right and did harm? I'm very interested because I've truly not heard examples of that. Sadly, lots of examples of it being done badly or not even really being done, just named "Restorative Justice" but nothing about it was the real model, and definitely it didn't solve any problems.

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Anonymous wrote:Report this to the police today!
Once the report is done inform the school.
Empower your daughter to defend herself, hit, scream or kick him in the balls if he gropes her again.

No! The school cannot employ restorative justice if you involve the police.

Where is your concern for the boy who did this?

I'm guessing you're joking? Restorative justice is a joke.

Real Restorative Justice is amazingly effective at stopping offenders from re-offending. But it takes a lot of training, consistency, and monitoring to make sure it's done right. So a lot that's called "RJ" is not really RJ, and makes people think what you said. But make no mistake, there's abundant studies & evidence that done well, it's highly effective - including in some unbelievably complex, violent situations. And it is effective for both offender and victim, that's the whole point, to try to make the victim "whole" again as much as possible, while addressing a bunch of things with the offender that make them far far less likely to offend again.

That's wonderful. I've never actually seen or heard of it being effective in DCPS. I would be happy to be proven wrong!

It is not effective for the victim. At all.

I've worked in a court that practiced it. I've seen families of murder victims and actual rape victims themselves swear by it when it was all over. I understand that you don't believe in it, but don't for a moment try to speak for all the victims who said it actually was healing & effective when they thought nothing would ever heal them. If a family of someone murdered or someone raped by the defendant feel that way, and the defendant once they do their time doesn't re-offend anymore, that is effective more so than most of what happens every day in this country. Problem is it's very very hard to consistently do it right and you have to constantly be training staff and re-training staff.

There is a big difference between a convicted murderer doing it through a court and an accused grouper using it as a way to escape punishment

You're proving how little you know about this. Just about everyone caught doing something they weren't supposed to do and that they're getting in trouble for is looking for a way out. It would never be effective in schools (when done right) if "an accused groper wanted to use it to escape punishment" - Newsflash: EVERY kid accused of something they know they did wants to escape punishment. Maybe read up on Restorative Justice and how it is supposed to work before you try to dismiss it while showing you know almost nothing about it. When done right... it works very well. It is very hard to do it right, so it's hard to have as "The go-to consequence" in an overwhelmed school system that can't commit the staff & time to doing it well all the time.

So is restorative justice the new communism? That’s never been implemented correctly so we’ve never seen how good it could be?

+1 exactly, it's just a ridiculous talking point

Is selective reading the new trend? There seem to be 2 of us saying Restorative Justice works when done well, that it's hard to do well, but that we have SEEN IT DONE WELL and there is plenty of studies and findings about it that show it's effective. I've seen it work shockingly well in a court program and in schools.

But all of you intent on only taking away that it never works or it has never been done right so no one knows if it works, I seriously doubt you're out there finding better solutions for school discipline problems so not gonna worry that you choose ignorance about it.

What are the chances that RJ would be done well? Not very good.

A 12 year old girl deserves better, not to have a very likely crappy attempt at RJ that would leave her feeling like the kid who groped her is more important.

Stop pushing it, please.

- someone who was groped.