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Anonymous wrote:As if she doesn’t know this about herself.

You think she doesn't know OP??
You think she doesn't own a mirror??
You don't think that SHE doesn't want to lose that weight??
You don't think she hates herself for gaining it??
You don't think the extra weight is killing her self esteem??

God, you are a total moron.

Nothing you say to her will come as a shock... the only shock I hope that occurs, is the look on your face when she tells you she's leaving you for being such a self-centered, vapid, shallow, egotistical moron.

Or ... she may prefer he body as it is and/or love it just the same as before, and is learning not to give a sh&t about her DH thinks ...

I still don’t know a woman that loves being fat. They may not be willing to make changes but still don’t not like how they look.

Someone with a 26 BMI is not fat.

I feel fat when my bmi is 23+

That’s because you have disordered thoughts around food and weight.

No, it's because I don't like how I look and feel at that weight. It affects how I move, my mood and my libido. Bmi of 22 is right for me. I look and feel great at that weight. Weight is a number and I have a range I'm comfortable at. I love food and eat well. Thanks for your concern.

I don’t care about you at all. I am more concerned for people who are your orbit hearing you call yourself fat when you are clearly nowhere near anyone’s definition, medical or otherwise. You are screwing up your daughters, if you have any. You can tell yourself whatever you want but you are.

I never called myself fat, I said I *feel* fat at 23+ bmi. Feeling fat, to me, means, I move slower, I don't sleep well, my body aches, I get tired from minimal exertion, I snore, I have zero sex drive and look doughy. A bmi of 22 is maybe 5-10 pounds and they make a world of difference to me.

Ok. So this is how I feel when I’m losing weight or maintaining at a lower than comfortable weight. I can’t sleep, I fatigue easily, I feel sad and depressed, and I have no sex drive. Plus, I am always always thinking about food. I start to buy cookbooks and read them for fun and watch the food network and have conversations that center around food.

I guess I look better, but it doesn’t seem worth it to me.

I don't have that problem. For me to lose weight, I cut out the junk foods, liquid calories and mindless snacking. Because I never get more than 10 pounds over, I can lose it in a couple of months without feeling deprived. I don't think about food outside of meal planning and cooking.

This is why thin people have no idea why it’s so hard for heavier people to lose. Heavier people think about food all day long. It’s a constant chatter in your mind. And being thinner for these people makes them feel terrible. Low energy, brain fog, headaches, irritability. For most, it’s just worth feeling terrible every day to be thin.

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Anonymous wrote:As a European fit woman I don’t see how it would devastate me if my partner told he wanted me to become my former self. American women are full of s..t and self-justifying their poor eating habits.

Cut the racist bullshite

DP

I have an Italian gf and she straight up tells me if I’m getting a bit puffy in my midsection

She’ll poke / pinch and say:

“La Pancia” and shake her head

I’m foreign born and always tell my American BF that he’s got lazy when I see his belly getting pregnant. I’m thin with 27 inches mid section in my 40s. No tolerance to extra fat there. It made him work out and eat less. He knows I won’t stay with him if he gets fat

So you do not love him, you only are his "girlfriend" because you want to have sex with him and only if he has a specific body you've deemed acceptable.

OK then. As long as he understands you don't see him as a complete person but only as a body, and that if he were to, say, change physically due to illness, injury, etc., you will vanish. But surely you've made that clear, right?

If he gets sick - no, I’ll support him and accept less sex. But getting fat (not working out, hermit lifestyle with beer by TV ) is simply disrespectful to yourself and y

Wow, did you miss the point. You'll "support him and accept less sex"? OK, for how long? How long would you condescendingly "accept" less sex? What about no sex, if he were injured in a way he couldn't have sex at all? You'd be out of there sooner rather than later. And you'd probably say on the way out the door that you know it's what he'd want for you....

And you totally missed the idea that some illnesses can make people gain weight, weight they may never lose. Some medications do this too. Some conditions and injuries cause weight gain and other issues of appearance that can't necessarily be changed. I wonder how long you'd nobly support him before you eased on out the door because he could no longer, say, work out enough to keep as trim as you want.

Let’s be honest here - most men will dump the wife if she gets sick. This thread is not about extreme situations- it’s about people who consider themselves healthy and justify their chosen lifestyle: be overweight .
Which, of course, if a health risk long term

Being overweight isn’t a health risk long term. I mean, maybe a minor one, but it isn’t the health risk that say, being a skier is. (It certainly doesn’t affect your life insurance premiums in the same way!!)

It’s a risk your partner won’t want you sexually anymore. Partner might be ok taking care of you, being moral etc - but you can’t force people be sexual around you if they want want you, based on your understanding of morality. It’s just there or not.
So if someone choses to be overweight they shouldn’t shift the blame for their choices on partner for him/her being “immoral” for not wanting them anymore.

Just live with consequences yourself - others don’t owe you feelings no matter married or not.

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Anonymous wrote:As a European fit woman I don’t see how it would devastate me if my partner told he wanted me to become my former self. American women are full of s..t and self-justifying their poor eating habits.

Cut the racist bullshite

DP

I have an Italian gf and she straight up tells me if I’m getting a bit puffy in my midsection

She’ll poke / pinch and say:

“La Pancia” and shake her head

I’m foreign born and always tell my American BF that he’s got lazy when I see his belly getting pregnant. I’m thin with 27 inches mid section in my 40s. No tolerance to extra fat there. It made him work out and eat less. He knows I won’t stay with him if he gets fat

So you do not love him, you only are his "girlfriend" because you want to have sex with him and only if he has a specific body you've deemed acceptable.

OK then. As long as he understands you don't see him as a complete person but only as a body, and that if he were to, say, change physically due to illness, injury, etc., you will vanish. But surely you've made that clear, right?

If he gets sick - no, I’ll support him and accept less sex. But getting fat (not working out, hermit lifestyle with beer by TV ) is simply disrespectful to yourself and y

Wow, did you miss the point. You'll "support him and accept less sex"? OK, for how long? How long would you condescendingly "accept" less sex? What about no sex, if he were injured in a way he couldn't have sex at all? You'd be out of there sooner rather than later. And you'd probably say on the way out the door that you know it's what he'd want for you....

And you totally missed the idea that some illnesses can make people gain weight, weight they may never lose. Some medications do this too. Some conditions and injuries cause weight gain and other issues of appearance that can't necessarily be changed. I wonder how long you'd nobly support him before you eased on out the door because he could no longer, say, work out enough to keep as trim as you want.

Let’s be honest here - most men will dump the wife if she gets sick. This thread is not about extreme situations- it’s about people who consider themselves healthy and justify their chosen lifestyle: be overweight .
Which, of course, if a health risk long term

Being overweight isn’t a health risk long term. I mean, maybe a minor one, but it isn’t the health risk that say, being a skier is. (It certainly doesn’t affect your life insurance premiums in the same way!!)

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Anonymous wrote:As a European fit woman I don’t see how it would devastate me if my partner told he wanted me to become my former self. American women are full of s..t and self-justifying their poor eating habits.

Cut the racist bullshite

DP

I have an Italian gf and she straight up tells me if I’m getting a bit puffy in my midsection

She’ll poke / pinch and say:

“La Pancia” and shake her head

I’m foreign born and always tell my American BF that he’s got lazy when I see his belly getting pregnant. I’m thin with 27 inches mid section in my 40s. No tolerance to extra fat there. It made him work out and eat less. He knows I won’t stay with him if he gets fat

So you do not love him, you only are his "girlfriend" because you want to have sex with him and only if he has a specific body you've deemed acceptable.

OK then. As long as he understands you don't see him as a complete person but only as a body, and that if he were to, say, change physically due to illness, injury, etc., you will vanish. But surely you've made that clear, right?

If he gets sick - no, I’ll support him and accept less sex. But getting fat (not working out, hermit lifestyle with beer by TV ) is simply disrespectful to yourself and y

Wow, did you miss the point. You'll "support him and accept less sex"? OK, for how long? How long would you condescendingly "accept" less sex? What about no sex, if he were injured in a way he couldn't have sex at all? You'd be out of there sooner rather than later. And you'd probably say on the way out the door that you know it's what he'd want for you....

And you totally missed the idea that some illnesses can make people gain weight, weight they may never lose. Some medications do this too. Some conditions and injuries cause weight gain and other issues of appearance that can't necessarily be changed. I wonder how long you'd nobly support him before you eased on out the door because he could no longer, say, work out enough to keep as trim as you want.

Let’s be honest here - most men will dump the wife if she gets sick. This thread is not about extreme situations- it’s about people who consider themselves healthy and justify their chosen lifestyle: be overweight .
Which, of course, if a health risk long term

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Anonymous wrote:As a European fit woman I don’t see how it would devastate me if my partner told he wanted me to become my former self. American women are full of s..t and self-justifying their poor eating habits.

Cut the racist bullshite

DP

I have an Italian gf and she straight up tells me if I’m getting a bit puffy in my midsection

She’ll poke / pinch and say:

“La Pancia” and shake her head

I’m foreign born and always tell my American BF that he’s got lazy when I see his belly getting pregnant. I’m thin with 27 inches mid section in my 40s. No tolerance to extra fat there. It made him work out and eat less. He knows I won’t stay with him if he gets fat

So you do not love him, you only are his "girlfriend" because you want to have sex with him and only if he has a specific body you've deemed acceptable.

OK then. As long as he understands you don't see him as a complete person but only as a body, and that if he were to, say, change physically due to illness, injury, etc., you will vanish. But surely you've made that clear, right?

If he gets sick - no, I’ll support him and accept less sex. But getting fat (not working out, hermit lifestyle with beer by TV ) is simply disrespectful to yourself and y

Wow, did you miss the point. You'll "support him and accept less sex"? OK, for how long? How long would you condescendingly "accept" less sex? What about no sex, if he were injured in a way he couldn't have sex at all? You'd be out of there sooner rather than later. And you'd probably say on the way out the door that you know it's what he'd want for you....

And you totally missed the idea that some illnesses can make people gain weight, weight they may never lose. Some medications do this too. Some conditions and injuries cause weight gain and other issues of appearance that can't necessarily be changed. I wonder how long you'd nobly support him before you eased on out the door because he could no longer, say, work out enough to keep as trim as you want.

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Anonymous wrote:As a European fit woman I don’t see how it would devastate me if my partner told he wanted me to become my former self. American women are full of s..t and self-justifying their poor eating habits.

Cut the racist bullshite

DP

I have an Italian gf and she straight up tells me if I’m getting a bit puffy in my midsection

She’ll poke / pinch and say:

“La Pancia” and shake her head

I’m foreign born and always tell my American BF that he’s got lazy when I see his belly getting pregnant. I’m thin with 27 inches mid section in my 40s. No tolerance to extra fat there. It made him work out and eat less. He knows I won’t stay with him if he gets fat

So you do not love him, you only are his "girlfriend" because you want to have sex with him and only if he has a specific body you've deemed acceptable.

OK then. As long as he understands you don't see him as a complete person but only as a body, and that if he were to, say, change physically due to illness, injury, etc., you will vanish. But surely you've made that clear, right?

If he gets sick - no, I’ll support him and accept less sex. But getting fat (not working out, hermit lifestyle with beer by TV ) is simply disrespectful to yourself and y

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Anonymous wrote:As a European fit woman I don’t see how it would devastate me if my partner told he wanted me to become my former self. American women are full of s..t and self-justifying their poor eating habits.

Cut the racist bullshite

DP

I have an Italian gf and she straight up tells me if I’m getting a bit puffy in my midsection

She’ll poke / pinch and say:

“La Pancia” and shake her head

I’m foreign born and always tell my American BF that he’s got lazy when I see his belly getting pregnant. I’m thin with 27 inches mid section in my 40s. No tolerance to extra fat there. It made him work out and eat less. He knows I won’t stay with him if he gets fat

So you do not love him, you only are his "girlfriend" because you want to have sex with him and only if he has a specific body you've deemed acceptable.

OK then. As long as he understands you don't see him as a complete person but only as a body, and that if he were to, say, change physically due to illness, injury, etc., you will vanish. But surely you've made that clear, right?

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Anonymous wrote:As a European fit woman I don’t see how it would devastate me if my partner told he wanted me to become my former self. American women are full of s..t and self-justifying their poor eating habits.

Cut the racist bullshite

DP

I have an Italian gf and she straight up tells me if I’m getting a bit puffy in my midsection

She’ll poke / pinch and say:

“La Pancia” and shake her head

I’m foreign born and always tell my American BF that he’s got lazy when I see his belly getting pregnant. I’m thin with 27 inches mid section in my 40s. No tolerance to extra fat there. It made him work out and eat less. He knows I won’t stay with him if he gets fat

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Anonymous wrote:As a European fit woman I don’t see how it would devastate me if my partner told he wanted me to become my former self. American women are full of s..t and self-justifying their poor eating habits.

Cut the racist bullshite

DP

I have an Italian gf and she straight up tells me if I’m getting a bit puffy in my midsection

She’ll poke / pinch and say:

“La Pancia” and shake her head

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Anonymous wrote:As if she doesn’t know this about herself.

You think she doesn't know OP??
You think she doesn't own a mirror??
You don't think that SHE doesn't want to lose that weight??
You don't think she hates herself for gaining it??
You don't think the extra weight is killing her self esteem??

God, you are a total moron.

Nothing you say to her will come as a shock... the only shock I hope that occurs, is the look on your face when she tells you she's leaving you for being such a self-centered, vapid, shallow, egotistical moron.

Or ... she may prefer he body as it is and/or love it just the same as before, and is learning not to give a sh&t about her DH thinks ...

I still don’t know a woman that loves being fat. They may not be willing to make changes but still don’t not like how they look.

Someone with a 26 BMI is not fat.

I feel fat when my bmi is 23+

That’s because you have disordered thoughts around food and weight.

No, it's because I don't like how I look and feel at that weight. It affects how I move, my mood and my libido. Bmi of 22 is right for me. I look and feel great at that weight. Weight is a number and I have a range I'm comfortable at. I love food and eat well. Thanks for your concern.

I don’t care about you at all. I am more concerned for people who are your orbit hearing you call yourself fat when you are clearly nowhere near anyone’s definition, medical or otherwise. You are screwing up your daughters, if you have any. You can tell yourself whatever you want but you are.

I never called myself fat, I said I *feel* fat at 23+ bmi. Feeling fat, to me, means, I move slower, I don't sleep well, my body aches, I get tired from minimal exertion, I snore, I have zero sex drive and look doughy. A bmi of 22 is maybe 5-10 pounds and they make a world of difference to me.

Ok. So this is how I feel when I’m losing weight or maintaining at a lower than comfortable weight. I can’t sleep, I fatigue easily, I feel sad and depressed, and I have no sex drive. Plus, I am always always thinking about food. I start to buy cookbooks and read them for fun and watch the food network and have conversations that center around food.

I guess I look better, but it doesn’t seem worth it to me.

I don't have that problem. For me to lose weight, I cut out the junk foods, liquid calories and mindless snacking. Because I never get more than 10 pounds over, I can lose it in a couple of months without feeling deprived. I don't think about food outside of meal planning and cooking.

Anonymous wrote:The last guy who told his wife “I’d like you to lose some weight” is still recovering at Georgetown Hospital. None of his guy friends have visited because they could become collateral damage.

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Anonymous wrote:As if she doesn’t know this about herself.

You think she doesn't know OP??
You think she doesn't own a mirror??
You don't think that SHE doesn't want to lose that weight??
You don't think she hates herself for gaining it??
You don't think the extra weight is killing her self esteem??

God, you are a total moron.

Nothing you say to her will come as a shock... the only shock I hope that occurs, is the look on your face when she tells you she's leaving you for being such a self-centered, vapid, shallow, egotistical moron.

Or ... she may prefer he body as it is and/or love it just the same as before, and is learning not to give a sh&t about her DH thinks ...

I still don’t know a woman that loves being fat. They may not be willing to make changes but still don’t not like how they look.

Someone with a 26 BMI is not fat.

I feel fat when my bmi is 23+

That’s because you have disordered thoughts around food and weight.

No, it's because I don't like how I look and feel at that weight. It affects how I move, my mood and my libido. Bmi of 22 is right for me. I look and feel great at that weight. Weight is a number and I have a range I'm comfortable at. I love food and eat well. Thanks for your concern.

I don’t care about you at all. I am more concerned for people who are your orbit hearing you call yourself fat when you are clearly nowhere near anyone’s definition, medical or otherwise. You are screwing up your daughters, if you have any. You can tell yourself whatever you want but you are.

I never called myself fat, I said I *feel* fat at 23+ bmi. Feeling fat, to me, means, I move slower, I don't sleep well, my body aches, I get tired from minimal exertion, I snore, I have zero sex drive and look doughy. A bmi of 22 is maybe 5-10 pounds and they make a world of difference to me.

Ok. So this is how I feel when I’m losing weight or maintaining at a lower than comfortable weight. I can’t sleep, I fatigue easily, I feel sad and depressed, and I have no sex drive. Plus, I am always always thinking about food. I start to buy cookbooks and read them for fun and watch the food network and have conversations that center around food.

I guess I look better, but it doesn’t seem worth it to me.

I don't have that problem. For me to lose weight, I cut out the junk foods, liquid calories and mindless snacking. Because I never get more than 10 pounds over, I can lose it in a couple of months without feeling deprived. I don't think about food outside of meal planning and cooking.

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Anonymous wrote:As if she doesn’t know this about herself.

You think she doesn't know OP??
You think she doesn't own a mirror??
You don't think that SHE doesn't want to lose that weight??
You don't think she hates herself for gaining it??
You don't think the extra weight is killing her self esteem??

God, you are a total moron.

Nothing you say to her will come as a shock... the only shock I hope that occurs, is the look on your face when she tells you she's leaving you for being such a self-centered, vapid, shallow, egotistical moron.

Or ... she may prefer he body as it is and/or love it just the same as before, and is learning not to give a sh&t about her DH thinks ...

I still don’t know a woman that loves being fat. They may not be willing to make changes but still don’t not like how they look.

Someone with a 26 BMI is not fat.

I feel fat when my bmi is 23+

That’s because you have disordered thoughts around food and weight.

No, it's because I don't like how I look and feel at that weight. It affects how I move, my mood and my libido. Bmi of 22 is right for me. I look and feel great at that weight. Weight is a number and I have a range I'm comfortable at. I love food and eat well. Thanks for your concern.

I don’t care about you at all. I am more concerned for people who are your orbit hearing you call yourself fat when you are clearly nowhere near anyone’s definition, medical or otherwise. You are screwing up your daughters, if you have any. You can tell yourself whatever you want but you are.

I never called myself fat, I said I *feel* fat at 23+ bmi. Feeling fat, to me, means, I move slower, I don't sleep well, my body aches, I get tired from minimal exertion, I snore, I have zero sex drive and look doughy. A bmi of 22 is maybe 5-10 pounds and they make a world of difference to me.

Ok. So this is how I feel when I’m losing weight or maintaining at a lower than comfortable weight. I can’t sleep, I fatigue easily, I feel sad and depressed, and I have no sex drive. Plus, I am always always thinking about food. I start to buy cookbooks and read them for fun and watch the food network and have conversations that center around food.

I guess I look better, but it doesn’t seem worth it to me.

I don't have that problem. For me to lose weight, I cut out the junk foods, liquid calories and mindless snacking. Because I never get more than 10 pounds over, I can lose it in a couple of months without feeling deprived. I don't think about food outside of meal planning and cooking.