Anonymous
Post 08/22/2023 00:07     Subject: Re:What is the defining trauma of your life?
1. Jan 6 insurrection.

2. The patriarchy.

3. white people.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2023 23:23     Subject: What is the defining trauma of your life?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have been thinking about this topic lately. Honestly, public shaming for having oral herpes (cold sores) has been the ongoing trauma in my life. I have been kicked out of friend groups, scolded by family members at holidays, rejected by people I cared about, shunned at jobs, lost out on opportunities and even shunned by my former faith community.

I have had recurring cold sores most of my life and was not able to take medication due to kidney issues. Recently the frequency and severity has subsided and reflecting back I now see how much this issue has impacted my life. For so long I stuffed away the hurt of each event and I didn't make the connection.
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A girl I went to high school with experienced this and people probably don’t understand how horrible people are about it. She was attractive and had a well to do family but was treated like a leper whether she had the sores or not.



I believe a herpes vaccine is on the horizon. But even after a vaccine, I doubt I will ever feel comfortable around the people who said and did unkind things to me because of oral herpes. The virus gave people justification to shame me and they seized every opportunity with delight.


That is horrible. Almost everybody has it. My 3 month old nephew had a huge outbreak.


This. Even many people who never get cold sores have it. My husband has it but has never gotten a cold sore in his life. Who knows why.

I've gotten cold sores since I was a child and they are basically just a sign of high stress for me. So being treated badly for having one is usually just adding insult to injury because I'm likely already going through something very hard. Like I'll get one when a family member dies, and then I have to deal with being treated like a leper by parents at my kids school if they see me with it. Just freaking fantastic.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2023 23:01     Subject: What is the defining trauma of your life?
I lost a child. But these stories are far worse. I’m sorry to everyone here who has suffered so much in life.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2023 21:43     Subject: What is the defining trauma of your life?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have been thinking about this topic lately. Honestly, public shaming for having oral herpes (cold sores) has been the ongoing trauma in my life. I have been kicked out of friend groups, scolded by family members at holidays, rejected by people I cared about, shunned at jobs, lost out on opportunities and even shunned by my former faith community.

I have had recurring cold sores most of my life and was not able to take medication due to kidney issues. Recently the frequency and severity has subsided and reflecting back I now see how much this issue has impacted my life. For so long I stuffed away the hurt of each event and I didn't make the connection.
.

A girl I went to high school with experienced this and people probably don’t understand how horrible people are about it. She was attractive and had a well to do family but was treated like a leper whether she had the sores or not.



I believe a herpes vaccine is on the horizon. But even after a vaccine, I doubt I will ever feel comfortable around the people who said and did unkind things to me because of oral herpes. The virus gave people justification to shame me and they seized every opportunity with delight.


That is horrible. Almost everybody has it. My 3 month old nephew had a huge outbreak.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2023 21:40     Subject: What is the defining trauma of your life?
Anonymous wrote:There's a lot of far fetched nonsense on this thread and then a ton of gullible soap-opera watchers eating it all up.

You're pathetic.


Just F off already. You are a psycho.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2023 21:39     Subject: Re:What is the defining trauma of your life?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Childhood sexual abuse

Childhood illness where I nearly died

Murder

Another murder

TBI

Married a narcissist that eventually raped me

Kids with special needs

IEP meetings

Autoimmune disease that took nearly 20 years to diagnose while doctors told me it was all in my head. I’ve been sick for so long.





It's "who" not "that" when you refer to a person. "That" is for objects, "who" is for people.


The pp said she was raped, and the most you can do is point out a grammatical mistake?? You. Are. A. Complete. Asshat.


Sure, she wrote that she was, but absolutely nothing on this thread written by anyone is necessarily true, you do realize that?


Just F off.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2023 21:36     Subject: Re:What is the defining trauma of your life?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Childhood sexual abuse

Childhood illness where I nearly died

Murder

Another murder

TBI

Married a narcissist that eventually raped me

Kids with special needs

IEP meetings

Autoimmune disease that took nearly 20 years to diagnose while doctors told me it was all in my head. I’ve been sick for so long.




It's "who" not "that" when you refer to a person. "That" is for objects, "who" is for people.


Wow, you sound like one of the abusers. What is wrong with you? He was a POS so definitely a "that".
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2023 20:37     Subject: What is the defining trauma of your life?
Anonymous wrote:Being a 22 year old cop and responding to a horrific car crash and holding a teenage girl's hand as she slipped into unconsciousness and passed. It was absolutely awful. I could have been that carefree girl out for a night with my friends just a few years prior. It's been almost a decade and I still think about her from time to time.


My friend's dad had a similar experience only the victim turned out to be s a relative. He quit the force not long afterwards.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2023 18:42     Subject: What is the defining trauma of your life?
Being a 22 year old cop and responding to a horrific car crash and holding a teenage girl's hand as she slipped into unconsciousness and passed. It was absolutely awful. I could have been that carefree girl out for a night with my friends just a few years prior. It's been almost a decade and I still think about her from time to time.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2023 13:43     Subject: What is the defining trauma of your life?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:1. September 11. I was a new airline pilot. It sent me into a spiral and I was ultimately diagnosed with a serious mental illness exacerbated by stress.

2. My mental illness flaring from the isolation of covid lockdowns and friends telling me if I killed myself because of it, so be it.


Does your airline employer know you have experienced suicidal ideation?


Hi, sh!tty friend! Good to know you still care about everyone but me! You know I moved to a non-pilot posting in 2003, by the way, and as I have no medical certificate, my health is none of their business.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2023 13:37     Subject: What is the defining trauma of your life?
Anonymous wrote:1. September 11. I was a new airline pilot. It sent me into a spiral and I was ultimately diagnosed with a serious mental illness exacerbated by stress.

2. My mental illness flaring from the isolation of covid lockdowns and friends telling me if I killed myself because of it, so be it.


Does your airline employer know you have experienced suicidal ideation?
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2023 13:07     Subject: What is the defining trauma of your life?
1. September 11. I was a new airline pilot. It sent me into a spiral and I was ultimately diagnosed with a serious mental illness exacerbated by stress.

2. My mental illness flaring from the isolation of covid lockdowns and friends telling me if I killed myself because of it, so be it.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2023 13:03     Subject: Re:What is the defining trauma of your life?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Childhood sexual abuse

Childhood illness where I nearly died

Murder

Another murder

TBI

Married a narcissist that eventually raped me

Kids with special needs

IEP meetings

Autoimmune disease that took nearly 20 years to diagnose while doctors told me it was all in my head. I’ve been sick for so long.




It's "who" not "that" when you refer to a person. "That" is for objects, "who" is for people.


this really isn't the pace for this a-hole!


congratulations on not reading the thread
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2023 08:13     Subject: Re:What is the defining trauma of your life?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Childhood sexual abuse

Childhood illness where I nearly died

Murder

Another murder

TBI

Married a narcissist that eventually raped me

Kids with special needs

IEP meetings

Autoimmune disease that took nearly 20 years to diagnose while doctors told me it was all in my head. I’ve been sick for so long.




It's "who" not "that" when you refer to a person. "That" is for objects, "who" is for people.


this really isn't the pace for this a-hole!
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2023 04:34     Subject: What is the defining trauma of your life?
Growing up in an evangelical, homophobic, transphobic, racist family as a closeted trans kid. This isn’t exactly a novel experience but it’s mine.