Anonymous
08/19/2023 20:12
Subject: Son is too embarrassed to return to campus to finish BA as a 5th year
OP has your kid read this thread? Has he gotten the point yet?
Anonymous
08/19/2023 14:20
Subject: Son is too embarrassed to return to campus to finish BA as a 5th year
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How many 5th and 6th year students are walking around Georgetown and Penn any given semester? Can't be more than a couple hundred.
A couple hundred isn’t nothing.
Well, it makes it abnormal and if you had/have a social life and friends, it's obviously not going to go unnoticed. These are elite schools full of aggressive strivers. Your classmates are off to medical school, law school, and in six-figure careers, while you're still chipping away at the bachelor's like a kid.
Eh, you'll have a wider social life with friends from multiple years. Most students have friends who are in year above and below them.
Anonymous
08/19/2023 06:41
Subject: Son is too embarrassed to return to campus to finish BA as a 5th year
Thankful to have met my love when he was finishing up as a 5th year student.
Many take more than 4 years for several reasons. Maybe he could add a minor or find a great internship. He just needs to finish and it will soon be a distant memory.
Many take more than 4 years for several reasons. Maybe he could add a minor or find a great internship. He just needs to finish and it will soon be a distant memory.
Anonymous
08/19/2023 05:16
Subject: Son is too embarrassed to return to campus to finish BA as a 5th year
Anonymous wrote:Shaky grades delayed his graduation. He was already deeply embarrassed when he couldn’t walk with all of his friends last spring. Now embarrassment has returned as he fears returning to campus. He feels old and thinks classmates will mock him behind his back and ask a million questions. This is a private university with an excellent graduation rate, so I empathize with him and know it is not possible to slide under the radar.
Trying to encourage him this will fade and the year will go by fast. But now he mentions wanting to transfer and graduate from somewhere else, anywhere else, to avoid this. Is that something we should entertain? Of course we worry about his mental health and success, but I don’t know if we should allow him to use our money to run away from a briefly embarrassing situation he created.
I would support him and not use money against him. You are already planning to spend money at original school. My brother did this and went on to receive a graduate degree. He needed a fresh start and was totally focused on school and not distractions. If you do convince him to go then visit frequently and also see if some potion of year could be abroad. Ignore all the mean posts. Boys are so much more vulnerable than girls and his mental health is what I would focus on.
Anonymous
08/18/2023 15:36
Subject: Son is too embarrassed to return to campus to finish BA as a 5th year
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How many 5th and 6th year students are walking around Georgetown and Penn any given semester? Can't be more than a couple hundred.
A couple hundred isn’t nothing.
Well, it makes it abnormal and if you had/have a social life and friends, it's obviously not going to go unnoticed. These are elite schools full of aggressive strivers. Your classmates are off to medical school, law school, and in six-figure careers, while you're still chipping away at the bachelor's like a kid.
He might not be moving at the same pace as those kids he will probably never see again? Oh darn.
Five years from now, who will even know, let alone care, who graduated on time and who didn't? Nobody.
Please don't twist what I wrote. I didn't say this is a reason not to finish or this would be long-lasting. I just understand the dread and embarrassing feelings. If the degree could be finished in remote online classes, far less dread and embarrassment.
Anonymous
08/18/2023 15:32
Subject: Son is too embarrassed to return to campus to finish BA as a 5th year
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How many 5th and 6th year students are walking around Georgetown and Penn any given semester? Can't be more than a couple hundred.
A couple hundred isn’t nothing.
Well, it makes it abnormal and if you had/have a social life and friends, it's obviously not going to go unnoticed. These are elite schools full of aggressive strivers. Your classmates are off to medical school, law school, and in six-figure careers, while you're still chipping away at the bachelor's like a kid.
He might not be moving at the same pace as those kids he will probably never see again? Oh darn.
Five years from now, who will even know, let alone care, who graduated on time and who didn't? Nobody.
Anonymous
08/18/2023 14:20
Subject: Son is too embarrassed to return to campus to finish BA as a 5th year
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How many 5th and 6th year students are walking around Georgetown and Penn any given semester? Can't be more than a couple hundred.
A couple hundred isn’t nothing.
Well, it makes it abnormal and if you had/have a social life and friends, it's obviously not going to go unnoticed. These are elite schools full of aggressive strivers. Your classmates are off to medical school, law school, and in six-figure careers, while you're still chipping away at the bachelor's like a kid.