Anonymous
Post 03/15/2023 13:32     Subject: Social media bragging
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The people I know who are the most obsessed with their kids sports like this all seem to think their kids are future Olympians or professionals.

I have 2 "sort of" friends like this with college aged kids now. One of them posted ALL THE TIME about her daughter's college choice to play soccer and how it was so perfect and wonderful. And then, all of a sudden daughter is quietly moving into a new college dorm the next year with no soccer is sight. I am sure it's better for the college student, but from her mother's incessant posting about soccer you would have thought she was going to be an All American.

Many others also slam into the wall when it comes time for college and huh, no one is recruiting you because you were fed a line by the travel coaches so you'd fork out $5k for them to play. If you'd just tucked that $5k into a 529 you'd be in a much better spot...


This is it


+100. I was just coming to post this. The D1 top 10 swimmer a few posts back? Yeah, I’d love those posts. The moms who think their kids are gonna be the next star when they’re really not even close? They’re the ones who need to can it.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2023 13:25     Subject: Social media bragging
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I've screenshot meet mobile results. Why not. My kid dropped over 2.5 secs in 2 events at his last meet. I'm super proud of their accomplishment. if you don't like, either unfriend me or scroll on.


We’ve explained why not. You don’t get it. Does posting your screenshot make you more super proud of your child’s accomplishment? No.


I do get it. What I don't get is, why do you care? If I want to post it and it does no harm (meaning I'm not bashing some other child and their time), I'm going to do it.

And for all those that are complaining - nice that you are all willing to do it anonymously here, but won't come straight out and tell your "friend" that they are being obnoxious. Stop being a coward and stop looking for validation. Why do you need someone to tell you that you are right?


You do get it? Doesn’t seem so. I actually don’t care, not about you and your obnoxious meet mobile posts specifically. Because I don’t know you. But this is just a friendly wake-up call, since you’re severely lacking in the self-awareness department, that your posts are obnoxious and you’re embarrassing yourself. Many, many people on your friends list agree, trust me.


True. Very, very true. Every single reason you come up with can be refuted by: share the same stuff in a family only account. What doesn’t need to be refuted: ridiculous arguments such as we are just jealous, we don’t support other kids, we don’t treasure positive things, etc. all of those things are false. If you do this in person, you’re obnoxious and insecure. If you don’t, why are you doing it online (and you’re obnoxious and insecure). I do like my friend’s posts who do this but it’s stupid.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2023 12:56     Subject: Social media bragging
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We have an older swimmer on our team (recruited D1 swimmer, ranked in top ten in the country in their stroke) who posts her times and about the college she’s headed to. My daughter follows her as inspiration.

The swimmer’s mother posts about her daughter’s Olympic trials cuts, so I suppose it’s bragging but….it doesn’t feel obnoxious to me it just feels proud, and I don’t mind at all.

I think OPs reaction is probably a result of their “friend’s” post being too over-the-top but also because of their own insecurities.


This. Comparison is the thief of joy.

Be proud of your kid for competing and getting out there, even if they came in dead last or struck out 4 times, or whatever.



This is such a predictable and inaccurate response - “oh you don’t like these posts because you’re just jealous!!” Well, no. Actually my kid very talented and often their accomplishments far surpass those of the kids who are the subjects of these posts. But I would never be so trashy as to post time standards and meet mobile results. I teach my children to be humble in victory, and what kind of message would I send if I did that?

As a swim parent, we all know the ones who do this and even if people respond to the posts, we know what they really think of these types of parents, and often the kids as well because the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. Very sad.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2023 12:48     Subject: Social media bragging
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I've screenshot meet mobile results. Why not. My kid dropped over 2.5 secs in 2 events at his last meet. I'm super proud of their accomplishment. if you don't like, either unfriend me or scroll on.


We’ve explained why not. You don’t get it. Does posting your screenshot make you more super proud of your child’s accomplishment? No.


I do get it. What I don't get is, why do you care? If I want to post it and it does no harm (meaning I'm not bashing some other child and their time), I'm going to do it.

And for all those that are complaining - nice that you are all willing to do it anonymously here, but won't come straight out and tell your "friend" that they are being obnoxious. Stop being a coward and stop looking for validation. Why do you need someone to tell you that you are right?


You do get it? Doesn’t seem so. I actually don’t care, not about you and your obnoxious meet mobile posts specifically. Because I don’t know you. But this is just a friendly wake-up call, since you’re severely lacking in the self-awareness department, that your posts are obnoxious and you’re embarrassing yourself. Many, many people on your friends list agree, trust me.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2023 11:01     Subject: Social media bragging
Anonymous wrote:The people I know who are the most obsessed with their kids sports like this all seem to think their kids are future Olympians or professionals.

I have 2 "sort of" friends like this with college aged kids now. One of them posted ALL THE TIME about her daughter's college choice to play soccer and how it was so perfect and wonderful. And then, all of a sudden daughter is quietly moving into a new college dorm the next year with no soccer is sight. I am sure it's better for the college student, but from her mother's incessant posting about soccer you would have thought she was going to be an All American.

Many others also slam into the wall when it comes time for college and huh, no one is recruiting you because you were fed a line by the travel coaches so you'd fork out $5k for them to play. If you'd just tucked that $5k into a 529 you'd be in a much better spot...


This is it
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2023 09:52     Subject: Social media bragging
The people I know who are the most obsessed with their kids sports like this all seem to think their kids are future Olympians or professionals.

I have 2 "sort of" friends like this with college aged kids now. One of them posted ALL THE TIME about her daughter's college choice to play soccer and how it was so perfect and wonderful. And then, all of a sudden daughter is quietly moving into a new college dorm the next year with no soccer is sight. I am sure it's better for the college student, but from her mother's incessant posting about soccer you would have thought she was going to be an All American.

Many others also slam into the wall when it comes time for college and huh, no one is recruiting you because you were fed a line by the travel coaches so you'd fork out $5k for them to play. If you'd just tucked that $5k into a 529 you'd be in a much better spot...
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2023 09:48     Subject: Social media bragging
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I've screenshot meet mobile results. Why not. My kid dropped over 2.5 secs in 2 events at his last meet. I'm super proud of their accomplishment. if you don't like, either unfriend me or scroll on.


We’ve explained why not. You don’t get it. Does posting your screenshot make you more super proud of your child’s accomplishment? No.


I do get it. What I don't get is, why do you care? If I want to post it and it does no harm (meaning I'm not bashing some other child and their time), I'm going to do it.

And for all those that are complaining - nice that you are all willing to do it anonymously here, but won't come straight out and tell your "friend" that they are being obnoxious. Stop being a coward and stop looking for validation. Why do you need someone to tell you that you are right?


I would tell you to your face you’re lame
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2023 09:16     Subject: Social media bragging
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I've screenshot meet mobile results. Why not. My kid dropped over 2.5 secs in 2 events at his last meet. I'm super proud of their accomplishment. if you don't like, either unfriend me or scroll on.


We’ve explained why not. You don’t get it. Does posting your screenshot make you more super proud of your child’s accomplishment? No.


I do get it. What I don't get is, why do you care? If I want to post it and it does no harm (meaning I'm not bashing some other child and their time), I'm going to do it.

And for all those that are complaining - nice that you are all willing to do it anonymously here, but won't come straight out and tell your "friend" that they are being obnoxious. Stop being a coward and stop looking for validation. Why do you need someone to tell you that you are right?


Are you serious? YOU are the one who won’t brag in person!!! (Aka pot calling the kettle black!!) Who tells their friends you’re being obnoxious?! That’s what we advise our kids not to do (poo it out the flaws in others).
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2023 09:01     Subject: Social media bragging
Anonymous wrote:We have an older swimmer on our team (recruited D1 swimmer, ranked in top ten in the country in their stroke) who posts her times and about the college she’s headed to. My daughter follows her as inspiration.

The swimmer’s mother posts about her daughter’s Olympic trials cuts, so I suppose it’s bragging but….it doesn’t feel obnoxious to me it just feels proud, and I don’t mind at all.

I think OPs reaction is probably a result of their “friend’s” post being too over-the-top but also because of their own insecurities.


This. Comparison is the thief of joy.

Be proud of your kid for competing and getting out there, even if they came in dead last or struck out 4 times, or whatever.

Anonymous
Post 03/15/2023 08:46     Subject: Re:Social media bragging
You’re either a person who lives assuming everyone is interested in your stuff and you talk about all of it or you don’t assume this. Social media is just a new venue for the sharers.

Get off social media is always the answer if the sharing is not your thing.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2023 08:25     Subject: Social media bragging
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I've screenshot meet mobile results. Why not. My kid dropped over 2.5 secs in 2 events at his last meet. I'm super proud of their accomplishment. if you don't like, either unfriend me or scroll on.


We’ve explained why not. You don’t get it. Does posting your screenshot make you more super proud of your child’s accomplishment? No.


I do get it. What I don't get is, why do you care? If I want to post it and it does no harm (meaning I'm not bashing some other child and their time), I'm going to do it.

And for all those that are complaining - nice that you are all willing to do it anonymously here, but won't come straight out and tell your "friend" that they are being obnoxious. Stop being a coward and stop looking for validation. Why do you need someone to tell you that you are right?
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2023 08:05     Subject: Re:Social media bragging
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What I think is notable about this is most of the kid bragging is sports. (Note I did not say all.) But vast majority is sports. Which to me says something about why parents are posting it in the first place. Sports has perceived social cache for kids and a lot of adults.

What is the frequency you are seeing any of the following:

So proud Ava made all-honors chorus. Video of kid singing.
Jack has been struggling in math and we got a tutor. Got 100 on math test! With photo of test.
Harper is in Marching Band and made a big trip to Busch Gardens with the band! Video of performance.
Owen's had trouble connecting at school and joined the chess club and is now killing it at chess. Photo of Own over the chess board.


I actually find it odd that you don’t see those kinds of posts. Cause I have a lot of them in my feed. Are most of your friends only sports parents?


NP

You know people posting math tests and chess club? No, I don’t see those.

Occasional theater parents and that’s it. And no I don’t have all sport friends.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2023 06:50     Subject: Social media bragging
We have an older swimmer on our team (recruited D1 swimmer, ranked in top ten in the country in their stroke) who posts her times and about the college she’s headed to. My daughter follows her as inspiration.

The swimmer’s mother posts about her daughter’s Olympic trials cuts, so I suppose it’s bragging but….it doesn’t feel obnoxious to me it just feels proud, and I don’t mind at all.

I think OPs reaction is probably a result of their “friend’s” post being too over-the-top but also because of their own insecurities.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2023 18:50     Subject: Social media bragging
Anonymous wrote:I’d rather hear about a kid’s accomplishments (both in and out of school) than see pics of food they ate for dinner, political ramblings, selling crap noone needs, or staged pictures to get a social media worthy picture. You know those that are posed to say “hey, look at me and where I’m at/who I’m with…”


That's why I said I question anyone who posts on social media these days LOL
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2023 18:47     Subject: Social media bragging
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’d rather hear about a kid’s accomplishments (both in and out of school) than see pics of food they ate for dinner, political ramblings, selling crap noone needs, or staged pictures to get a social media worthy picture. You know those that are posed to say “hey, look at me and where I’m at/who I’m with…”


I wouldn’t because the kids accomplishments are minuscule 99.99 percent of the time

Some of the social media bragging is completely absurd, but the perspective that parents shouldn’t be proud of their kids’ accomplishments because they are always minuscule is also unnecessarily harsh. I would rather the parent that is over proud than the one that is constantly denigrating their kids’ achievements. Whenever I hear parents like that it makes me think how crappy it must be to be that kid.