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Imagine believing this. It's selfish, gross, and an extremely dangerous pregnancy. Why not fess up and admit you sacrificed your childbearing years for money and fame. Why not be transparent on how hard it's been to get pregnant naturally after you turn 30 let alone 35. Why not be open about anything past age 35 is a geriatric pregnancy. Playing pretend does nothing but promote a lie to harm other younger women who think they can wait.

Say what?

The vast majority of women under the age of 40 (yes, that is 4-0, forty, 40) who try to get pregnant will be pregnant within a year.

Of course, if you're one of the exceptions, it can be tremendously painful. I get that.

+1. Fertility isn’t even declining in most folks at 30… Who gave you these numbers?

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Anonymous wrote:I watched her interview on Good Morning America, and she never said it was a miracle or that twins run in her family.

I have had 3 pregnancies (two healthy kids and one termination), all over the age of 39. All conceived pretty quickly and naturally. So yes, some women are fertile well into their 40s and no, I am not a unicorn. I know lots of oops babies born to friends over 40, incl. one friend who just delivered her unplanned healthy 3rd child at age 46.

Huh i guess all those doctors don’t know what they are talking about.

Which doctors? The ones who want you to jump straight to IVF and pay them thousands of dollars? They probably know, but they likely are not always telling you the truth. I was told at age 38 by an ART specialist that I need to get straight to IVF because my eggs are almost all gone. I proceeded to get pregnant not once, but 4 times, all on the first try (ok, one on the second try). Two healthy babies at age 38 and 41.

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Anonymous wrote:I watched her interview on Good Morning America, and she never said it was a miracle or that twins run in her family.

I have had 3 pregnancies (two healthy kids and one termination), all over the age of 39. All conceived pretty quickly and naturally. So yes, some women are fertile well into their 40s and no, I am not a unicorn. I know lots of oops babies born to friends over 40, incl. one friend who just delivered her unplanned healthy 3rd child at age 46.

She didn’t say it in that interview, she said it in another interview - that it’s a “total miracle” and that twins run in her husband’s family. https://www.huffpost.com/entry/hilary-swank-pregnant_n_633dfb6be4b04cf8f369cd9b/amp

She said it on Live with Ryan and Kelly - that twins run in both her and her husband’s family. 🙄

“Hilary later went on Live with Kelly and Ryan and said that she’s feeling “great” right now. "But my clothes started not to fit so I had to, the other day ... cut [my jeans] open." Hilary also shared that twins run in her family and her husband’s family. "It's such a blessing. It's a total miracle. It's unbelievable," she said.”

Imagine believing this. It's selfish, gross, and an extremely dangerous pregnancy. Why not fess up and admit you sacrificed your childbearing years for money and fame. Why not be transparent on how hard it's been to get pregnant naturally after you turn 30 let alone 35. Why not be open about anything past age 35 is a geriatric pregnancy. Playing pretend does nothing but promote a lie to harm other younger women who think they can wait.

What an ignorant comment. I have been pregnant 4 times after the age 37: two healthy babies, one miscarriage and one termination at age 44 no less. Just because it is hard for some, it doesn’t mean it is hard for all women to easily get pregnant after 35 or even after 40.
You know what is hard? Being young, penniless, immature and having to raise a child.

I saw the Live with Kelly and Ryan clip. I didn’t get the sense she was ever claiming she got pregnant with twins because it runs in her family. I think she was merely making fun conversation about twins. Ryan had asked what twins meant and everyone laughed and she said “two.” Then she said she had some family members who were twins. She said her grandmother was a twin. I think you all are blowing it out of proportion. I think it’s still a miracle to get pregnant at 48 with twins even with IVF and that’s probably how she feels. She’s most likely been trying for years. Leave her alone!

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Anonymous wrote:Well it is somewhat problematic. She's a public figure. I have a decidedly ignorant friend who is in her 40s and thinks she is in no rush to conceive. And she actually cites all the celebrities you see having babies in their late forties as proof that it won't be tough for her.

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It might not be. Why add that mindset? Your friend is an adult and can make her own choices/analysis.

Ummm because she could miss out on her chance to be a mother? Which it looks like she has.

Her magical thinking is entirely her own. Also not everyone does have fertility struggles even late in life. And saying as much is not giving false hope, it’s a different experience. Some women will never get pregnant even if they try at 21, others will conceive if someone smiles at them. It’s not up to you to call out every person who doesn’t align with your expectations.

Hilary isn’t reading this so nobody is calling her out. Just discussing the remote possibility this is as natural as she is making it out. The odds are truly against her.

Anonymous wrote:I have donor egg twins and I told everyone that twins run in the family when I was asked.

I was in a bunch of donor egg online support groups and I'd say that 99% of people don't tell a soul about using donor eggs: not their sister, mother, best friend, etc.
We will talk about IVF but not the donor part. It's way too controversial. Who wants to set their kid up for criticism from conservatives, etc? Much easier not to say a thing to ANYONE.

Me too! I got pregnant at 43 DE and some friends just demanded to know … my business is my business not yours. Besides I have twin sisters IRL. So I just referred to that and keep my business to myself. It’s hard when you are celebrity at 48 to really get anyone to believe it was just a miracle!

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Anonymous wrote:Well it is somewhat problematic. She's a public figure. I have a decidedly ignorant friend who is in her 40s and thinks she is in no rush to conceive. And she actually cites all the celebrities you see having babies in their late forties as proof that it won't be tough for her.

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It might not be. Why add that mindset? Your friend is an adult and can make her own choices/analysis.

Ummm because she could miss out on her chance to be a mother? Which it looks like she has.

Her magical thinking is entirely her own. Also not everyone does have fertility struggles even late in life. And saying as much is not giving false hope, it’s a different experience. Some women will never get pregnant even if they try at 21, others will conceive if someone smiles at them. It’s not up to you to call out every person who doesn’t align with your expectations.

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Anonymous wrote:Who cares? As long as they're happy, I'm happy for them. I don't care what story they want to put out there about conception. It's their business.

+1 Why would this drive you crazy, OP?

Because it gives young woman false hopes. And the wrong medical information.

+1. It’s literally disinformation, with truly devastating consequences.

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I guess one of you planted a nanny cam in Hilary’s bedroom. Wire tapped her bras.

I’m the PP who mentioned Marcia Cross - I dug up her statement and I really appreciated her honesty. I remember being in my late 20s at the time and realizing I didn’t even know that there was such a thing as donor eggs. And no, of course no one should rely on celebrities for medical information. But that doesn’t mean they get a pass for propping up fertility myths, either.

The actress underwent in-vitro fertilization to achieve the pregnancy, and has spoken in the past about the need for older women to be aware of challenges to their fertility, saying, "I don’t like the average woman being misled into thinking that fertility is something that goes on forever. When a woman gets older, they get a donor egg, which doesn’t make the baby any less beautiful or perfect. One’s own eggs only last so long, and sometimes at 43 or 44 you can have your own baby, but statistically it’s very difficult and expensive. You don’t want to wait that long.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not reading anything that says she is saying it is natural. Using the word "miracle" doesn't imply that. They probably have been trying a long time with a combo of her eggs, donor eggs, maybe they've explored adoption, who knows and the fact that they are now on the road to two babies is a miracle, even if was achieved using other eggs.

What do you think she means when she says "twins run in the family"?

+1. Twins run in the family (not just one side, either!) is a clear statement suggesting that this was a "natural" event.

np who cares if it is natural or not? You seem very judgy

Uh, we’re on an entertainment and pop culture board. Being judgy is to be expected. That said, I’m not judging her for how she chose to get pregnant or getting pregnant at 48. I’m judging her for perpetuating the notion that this is a natural occurrence in any way. As others have said, she’s a public figure and statements like this lead younger women (and the general public) to think that this is typical or even possible. Instead of blathering on about it being a miracle or pointing to twins in their families, it would have been a lot better if she just announced she was pregnant with twins, and over the moon about it.

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Anonymous wrote:Who cares? As long as they're happy, I'm happy for them. I don't care what story they want to put out there about conception. It's their business.

+1 Why would this drive you crazy, OP?

Because it gives young woman false hopes. And the wrong medical information.

+1. It’s literally disinformation, with truly devastating consequences.

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Imagine believing this. It's selfish, gross, and an extremely dangerous pregnancy. Why not fess up and admit you sacrificed your childbearing years for money and fame. Why not be transparent on how hard it's been to get pregnant naturally after you turn 30 let alone 35. Why not be open about anything past age 35 is a geriatric pregnancy. Playing pretend does nothing but promote a lie to harm other younger women who think they can wait.

Say what?

The vast majority of women under the age of 40 (yes, that is 4-0, forty, 40) who try to get pregnant will be pregnant within a year.

Of course, if you're one of the exceptions, it can be tremendously painful. I get that.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not reading anything that says she is saying it is natural. Using the word "miracle" doesn't imply that. They probably have been trying a long time with a combo of her eggs, donor eggs, maybe they've explored adoption, who knows and the fact that they are now on the road to two babies is a miracle, even if was achieved using other eggs.

What do you think she means when she says "twins run in the family"?

Why do you care? She can say what she wants. If you don’t believe it, fine.

Why do you care if other people care?

Because nosy and controlling people who care about other people’s personal decisions are dangerous.

So MYOB and stop telling other people what to think?

MYOB and stop telling other people how to act.

Ok Grandma. Can we get back to the conversation now?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not reading anything that says she is saying it is natural. Using the word "miracle" doesn't imply that. They probably have been trying a long time with a combo of her eggs, donor eggs, maybe they've explored adoption, who knows and the fact that they are now on the road to two babies is a miracle, even if was achieved using other eggs.

What do you think she means when she says "twins run in the family"?

+1. Twins run in the family (not just one side, either!) is a clear statement suggesting that this was a "natural" event.

np who cares if it is natural or not? You seem very judgy