Some restaurants have a policy to ID absolutely everyone they serve liquor to. When I worked as a cocktail waitress (at 19!) I remember being sympathetic to the obviously old (70s) man who I couldn’t serve. But I wasn’t going to get in trouble!

Technically you should always have your ID anyway. Don’t be offended. She was just doing her job.

I was carded in DC the other weekend (but had my ID on me) and I was THRILLED even though as a 44 year old I look nothing close to under 21, but still! I never get carded in MoCo. lol. I'd be happy ID or no ID. Why couldn't you just go back, grab your idea and run back over to get the drink? I don't see what the big deal is.

I'd be annoyed at myself for forgetting my ID, but I would not be annoyed at restaurant staff who were following the rules and the law.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 41 and look about 26, objectively speaking. Not in a like OMG you're so hot kind of way. My whole life I've had that younger than I am look about me. I get carded all the time and it's fine. No this would not make me mad, at all.

I'm 38, look younger than my age due to my face shape (and until I started getting grey flyaways, looked much younger), and get carded all the time.

In my state you have to card if the person looks like they might be under 40 or so (I can't remember the specific age). When I worked as a cashier, I carded lots of people and they typically were fine with it, understanding that I, the 21 year old clerk, was only doing what I was supposed to do. If an undercover cop had come in and I hadn't carded them (which never happened to me but certainly did to other staff at my workplace) I would have gotten fired and my employer would have been fined.

You forget your id, you don't order alcohol. It's really not that hard. I forgot my ID at the grocery store and didn't "try" to grab a few wine bottles, I just figured I'd get them on my next run.

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Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself and the “rules don’t apply to me” mentality.

This!!! Who cares how much you spent due takeout.

As someone whose family is in the hospitality business, I assure you the owner group cares and would like spendthrift boomers to keep returning and ordering high margin cocktails. $100 carry out tab should have been $140. And women usually make family dining decisions, so does OP ever return or does she now sway her family to competitors because of the rude old dame bartender? That's how easy it is to lose customers.

Oh please. These days a standard dinner for 4 runs $100, easily. Next, please.

Also, who was driving the car OP? Didn't that person have an ID > 21 year of age?

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Anonymous wrote:Had you already paid for the food since you were getting take-out? Did you include a tip? Maybe the server saw you didn’t tip for the take out food so she decided to be difficult. Were you then going to start eating your food with the margarita?

Went to bar to pick up to-go food and asked her to add two classic margaritas to the order while we wait. When she declined to give me one, we just tipped her a few bucks. Should have stiffed her but we didn’t.

Why would you stiff her? You sound like an entitled, not-nice person

Because licenses are for the little people, didn't ya know?

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Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself and the “rules don’t apply to me” mentality.

This!!! Who cares how much you spent due takeout.

OP is the same person who said her husband recommended a “Classic Margarita.” Who the eff says that? You just say we decided to grab a couple of margaritas while waiting for our takeout.

"Classic margarita with GOOD tequila is just divine" lol

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Anonymous wrote:Had you already paid for the food since you were getting take-out? Did you include a tip? Maybe the server saw you didn’t tip for the take out food so she decided to be difficult. Were you then going to start eating your food with the margarita?

Went to bar to pick up to-go food and asked her to add two classic margaritas to the order while we wait. When she declined to give me one, we just tipped her a few bucks. Should have stiffed her but we didn’t.

Why would you stiff her? You sound like an entitled, not-nice person

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Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself and the “rules don’t apply to me” mentality.

+1

Such entitlement!!!

Anonymous wrote:Happened to my husband and I last night. No kids. Beachfront restaurant. I didn’t want to carry my purse and we were getting to-go food. While on the way, husband recommends a classic margarita. Great idea and I actually look forward to it. Female bartender who was probably just as old as us cards me! Implying we just graduated from high school two years ago? Our own kids are in middle and high school. She refuses to serve me, then when she goes to the back to get our food loudly tells the other bartender I don’t have ID and to not serve me alcohol.

No, that is the law.

Anonymous wrote:The Karen was out-Karened.

Haha yes that bartender fought fire with fire.

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Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself and the “rules don’t apply to me” mentality.

This!!! Who cares how much you spent due takeout.

OP is the same person who said her husband recommended a “Classic Margarita.” Who the eff says that? You just say we decided to grab a couple of margaritas while waiting for our takeout.

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Anonymous wrote:They could lose their liquor license. Take it as a compliment.

That is not true. There are no such thing as stings with 40-something people, who ordered $100 in takeout no less. Stings are teenagers.

To be more specific, it’s a solo teen and the teen comes to the bar and tries to order a single drink. It’s not covert Langley assets with a big production.

That is not true at all. I worked at place where it was table of 4. Three were old.

Also I remember in late 90, early 20's, the bartender at a very popular DC restaurant (want to say Red Sage, not 100%) was put in handcuffs mid shift on Saturday night. Two people acting like the parents and someone who was supposed to be mid 20's.

The Karen was out-Karened.

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Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself and the “rules don’t apply to me” mentality.

This!!! Who cares how much you spent due takeout.

As someone whose family is in the hospitality business, I assure you the owner group cares and would like spendthrift boomers to keep returning and ordering high margin cocktails. $100 carry out tab should have been $140. And women usually make family dining decisions, so does OP ever return or does she now sway her family to competitors because of the rude old dame bartender? That's how easy it is to lose customers.