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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When your pediatrician, urologist, etc. eventually does become “concerned” because your child reaches some age on a chart that magically declares them “late” on night training, the steps to remedy the situation will be no different than they are now, your child will just be older, and will have peed the bed longer. He/she is not going to just magically stop one day. Most of us whose kids no longer pee the bed DID train them. It didn’t “just happen.”

Judgy mcJudgerson, you know nothing. I have 4 kids. 3 had zero issues staying dry at night with zero interventions from me by age 2.5-3. The fourth was a very deep sleeper who didn’t wake at night if he needed to pee until he was 9. We tried limiting liquids several hours before bed and waking him up to pee at midnight and he just wouldn’t wake. We tried at age 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 and finally around his 9th birthday he started waking up on his own. So yes, they do usually “magically” wake up at a certain point and become able to do this. Very few kids are graduating from high school still wetting the bed.

You’d be surprised actually how many 13-17 year olds I’ve met that have this problem because their parents never did their job when the kid was younger.

in your medical practice i assume?

Snort. No, in her boutique survey research practice. She even wrote the survey response, "Larlo still pees the bed because I didn't do my job when he was younger."

Glassbowl.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When your pediatrician, urologist, etc. eventually does become “concerned” because your child reaches some age on a chart that magically declares them “late” on night training, the steps to remedy the situation will be no different than they are now, your child will just be older, and will have peed the bed longer. He/she is not going to just magically stop one day. Most of us whose kids no longer pee the bed DID train them. It didn’t “just happen.”

Are you a pediatrician or a urologist? If you were, or if you were a parent of a child who urinates in their sleep at an “older” age then you would know that yes, physiologically there are things that develop as children get older that make them more able to either hold their bladder through the night or wake up and get to the bathroom. But you are just judge and think you know everything because it wasn’t the case for your child.

It’s not an either or. I’m a PP who posted about night training. It’s true that they make the hormone that helps them get through the whole night later. But at 3/4, with some limiting fluids in the hours before bed, most kids can make it through the night if you take them for a night pee around 11.

Never heard of this at that age. I think a shrinks visit is in order.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When your pediatrician, urologist, etc. eventually does become “concerned” because your child reaches some age on a chart that magically declares them “late” on night training, the steps to remedy the situation will be no different than they are now, your child will just be older, and will have peed the bed longer. He/she is not going to just magically stop one day. Most of us whose kids no longer pee the bed DID train them. It didn’t “just happen.”

Judgy mcJudgerson, you know nothing. I have 4 kids. 3 had zero issues staying dry at night with zero interventions from me by age 2.5-3. The fourth was a very deep sleeper who didn’t wake at night if he needed to pee until he was 9. We tried limiting liquids several hours before bed and waking him up to pee at midnight and he just wouldn’t wake. We tried at age 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 and finally around his 9th birthday he started waking up on his own. So yes, they do usually “magically” wake up at a certain point and become able to do this. Very few kids are graduating from high school still wetting the bed.

You’d be surprised actually how many 13-17 year olds I’ve met that have this problem because their parents never did their job when the kid was younger.

in your medical practice i assume?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When your pediatrician, urologist, etc. eventually does become “concerned” because your child reaches some age on a chart that magically declares them “late” on night training, the steps to remedy the situation will be no different than they are now, your child will just be older, and will have peed the bed longer. He/she is not going to just magically stop one day. Most of us whose kids no longer pee the bed DID train them. It didn’t “just happen.”

Judgy mcJudgerson, you know nothing. I have 4 kids. 3 had zero issues staying dry at night with zero interventions from me by age 2.5-3. The fourth was a very deep sleeper who didn’t wake at night if he needed to pee until he was 9. We tried limiting liquids several hours before bed and waking him up to pee at midnight and he just wouldn’t wake. We tried at age 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 and finally around his 9th birthday he started waking up on his own. So yes, they do usually “magically” wake up at a certain point and become able to do this. Very few kids are graduating from high school still wetting the bed.

You’d be surprised actually how many 13-17 year olds I’ve met that have this problem because their parents never did their job when the kid was younger.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When your pediatrician, urologist, etc. eventually does become “concerned” because your child reaches some age on a chart that magically declares them “late” on night training, the steps to remedy the situation will be no different than they are now, your child will just be older, and will have peed the bed longer. He/she is not going to just magically stop one day. Most of us whose kids no longer pee the bed DID train them. It didn’t “just happen.”

Judgy mcJudgerson, you know nothing. I have 4 kids. 3 had zero issues staying dry at night with zero interventions from me by age 2.5-3. The fourth was a very deep sleeper who didn’t wake at night if he needed to pee until he was 9. We tried limiting liquids several hours before bed and waking him up to pee at midnight and he just wouldn’t wake. We tried at age 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 and finally around his 9th birthday he started waking up on his own. So yes, they do usually “magically” wake up at a certain point and become able to do this. Very few kids are graduating from high school still wetting the bed.

Without knowing what you “tried” at those ages, this doesn’t really mean anything.

Anonymous wrote:When your pediatrician, urologist, etc. eventually does become “concerned” because your child reaches some age on a chart that magically declares them “late” on night training, the steps to remedy the situation will be no different than they are now, your child will just be older, and will have peed the bed longer. He/she is not going to just magically stop one day. Most of us whose kids no longer pee the bed DID train them. It didn’t “just happen.”

Judgy mcJudgerson, you know nothing. I have 4 kids. 3 had zero issues staying dry at night with zero interventions from me by age 2.5-3. The fourth was a very deep sleeper who didn’t wake at night if he needed to pee until he was 9. We tried limiting liquids several hours before bed and waking him up to pee at midnight and he just wouldn’t wake. We tried at age 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 and finally around his 9th birthday he started waking up on his own. So yes, they do usually “magically” wake up at a certain point and become able to do this. Very few kids are graduating from high school still wetting the bed.

Anonymous wrote:When your pediatrician, urologist, etc. eventually does become “concerned” because your child reaches some age on a chart that magically declares them “late” on night training, the steps to remedy the situation will be no different than they are now, your child will just be older, and will have peed the bed longer. He/she is not going to just magically stop one day. Most of us whose kids no longer pee the bed DID train them. It didn’t “just happen.”

+100

Anonymous wrote:When your pediatrician, urologist, etc. eventually does become “concerned” because your child reaches some age on a chart that magically declares them “late” on night training, the steps to remedy the situation will be no different than they are now, your child will just be older, and will have peed the bed longer. He/she is not going to just magically stop one day. Most of us whose kids no longer pee the bed DID train them. It didn’t “just happen.”

Are you a pediatrician or a urologist? If you were, or if you were a parent of a child who urinates in their sleep at an “older” age then you would know that yes, physiologically there are things that develop as children get older that make them more able to either hold their bladder through the night or wake up and get to the bathroom. But you are just judge and think you know everything because it wasn’t the case for your child.

When your pediatrician, urologist, etc. eventually does become “concerned” because your child reaches some age on a chart that magically declares them “late” on night training, the steps to remedy the situation will be no different than they are now, your child will just be older, and will have peed the bed longer. He/she is not going to just magically stop one day. Most of us whose kids no longer pee the bed DID train them. It didn’t “just happen.”

You’re not alone. I have an almost 8yo who still wets and basically soaks his overnight pull-up every single night.
He does have a congenital kidney issue (nothing to treat it just is), and he had penile stenosis which was corrected with surgery 2 years ago and has helped with daytime urgency to pee. But he’s also a super deep sleeper and there’s no way he will wake up to go pee just yet. Our pediatrician (and urologist) have said not to worry. Physiologically a lot of kids (especially boys) just aren’t ready to be dry overnight.

We got period underwear. They work great for tiny accidents when your child is almost fully trained.

I haven't read all the responses but I wet the bed until I was around 10 years old every night. My mother never shamed or punished me for it. She never used any sort of protection until we went to visit my aunt at the time and she didn't want to deal with me wetting someone else's bed. She basically said "I would like you to wear a diaper while we are there". I was 7 or 8 at the time. I didn't like the idea and I remember asking her to not wear one. I will say I didn't like having to wear a diaper but I remember how wonderful it was waking up in a dry bed.
If pull ups aren't cutting it, I would just talk to him and say that you would like him to start wearing a diaper to bed to make things easier for the BOTH of you in the morning.
Is he bothered or embarrassed by the fact that he still wets the bed or like you mentioned peeing in his pull up and not changing in the morning?
My son is 6 and he still wears a diaper at night and I don't see a light at the end of the tunnel. He can still wear a size 4 with room to grow so I don't think you will have an issue finding his size unless he is a big child. I can count on one hand how many times he has woke up dry. I don't see an issue with an older child wearing a diaper to bed if pull ups aren't working. I hope I am not the only one that doesn't see a problem with an older child wearing a diaper to bed.

Anonymous wrote:My kids are 4, 7, and 10, all boys.

The youngest stayed dry day and night in the same weekend a month after he turned 3, absolutly an easy process that he basically did on his own without any prodding from us.

The oldest potty trained quite a bit later, but was also done with nighttime training less than a few months after he trained in the daytime.

My middle son though, at age 7, has NEVER, not once had a dry night in his entire life. He wears Goodnites to bed every night and often pees through them. Before he fit in those, we used size 6 diapers.

My point? What works well for one kid simply doesn't work the same for another, just because some person on an internet board says X thing worked for their kid, it doesn't make it gospel.

Do what works for your kids, and don't let anyone shame you about it.

My kids had never not once ever had a dry night either…until I trained them. Parents waiting for their kid to magic stop peeing will wait a really really long time, especially if wearing a diaper.

Had two that had issues until age 9 (for DD) and 11 (for DS). If you ever look at a chart of when kids stop bedwetting, there is a subset of kids for whom it takes a long time. Different strategies: (1) limit liquids before bed; (2) wake the child up at midnight to go---this was what finally was most effective; (3) make sure that the child isn't constipated, because constipation can reduce bladder capacity. But it is mostly hormonal, once puberty starts it will likely resolve. Good luck. I know it is frustrating and exhausting.