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Anonymous wrote:One imagines that SIL attended a bunch of these events and declined wine or beer, mentioning that she prefers to drink gin. When everyone ignored her for long enough, she brought a thermos. It’s funny, it solves the problem - I’m team SIL.

+1. If I had to spend any appreciable time with OP, I might bring heroin.

LOL. I wouldn't bring that but I get your point. I'm completely on the SILs side on this one.

DP. Agreed. And I can't imagine how fun it would be to whip out my bottle of gin and get snubbed even more to my face, knowing I added more fuel to the fire of this fandango.

No, I'll be as unobtrusive as possible with my little thermos, and just mark the hours until we leave. Sometimes you have to do hard things.

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Anonymous wrote:One imagines that SIL attended a bunch of these events and declined wine or beer, mentioning that she prefers to drink gin. When everyone ignored her for long enough, she brought a thermos. It’s funny, it solves the problem - I’m team SIL.

+1. If I had to spend any appreciable time with OP, I might bring heroin.

LOL. I wouldn't bring that but I get your point. I'm completely on the SILs side on this one.

Anonymous wrote:What’s weird is that you ignore her preferences when you host her.

This. Not weird at all if she’s going to a party to enjoy herself, hang out all afternoon, and knows the hosts aren’t going to bother to have something on hand that she can drink. Good for her for taking matters into her own hands and bring something she can enjoy with the rest of the group.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone else been craving a gin and tonic with lots of lime since reading this discussion? My mouth is literally watering lol. Need to pick up some Hendrick’s.

I made one for myself last night after reading this thread. It was delicious. Better than wine or beer.

And no headache!

I agree if she brings it to soccer games and PTA meetings, I’d be worried.
In her place, I would probably just bring a small bottle of gin and tonic water and lime and say “I brought stuff for G&t if anyone wants!” That seems slightly more normal even if no one else will drink. I do that with desserts with relatives that make gross desserts.

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else been craving a gin and tonic with lots of lime since reading this discussion? My mouth is literally watering lol. Need to pick up some Hendrick’s.

I made one for myself last night after reading this thread. It was delicious. Better than wine or beer.

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else been craving a gin and tonic with lots of lime since reading this discussion? My mouth is literally watering lol. Need to pick up some Hendrick’s.

Yes!!

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Anonymous wrote:One imagines that SIL attended a bunch of these events and declined wine or beer, mentioning that she prefers to drink gin. When everyone ignored her for long enough, she brought a thermos. It’s funny, it solves the problem - I’m team SIL.

+1. If I had to spend any appreciable time with OP, I might bring heroin.

Lmao!

Anyone else been craving a gin and tonic with lots of lime since reading this discussion? My mouth is literally watering lol. Need to pick up some Hendrick’s.

Of course I would BYO where the hosts know full well I don't drink what they serve and refuse to be hospitable and serve what they know I prefer. I can't imagine my in-laws treating me so rudely nor would I snub a guest in my home that way. The SIL is just doing what she needs to survive a BBQ with what sound like awful in-laws who don't care about making her comfortable or welcome and want to control what she drinks. They are lucky she's a good sport and comes at all, even with a thermos in tow.

You've given your SIL no choice but to drink water, whatever the kids are drinking, or bring her own alcoholic beverage.

It sounds like my family, ha. I'm surprised she didn't bring to thermoses OP.

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Anonymous wrote:High maintenance? For taking care of her own wishes without bothering anybody or making a big deal out of it?

That's a bold strategy, Cotton.

She is being quite passive aggressive too. She is not a toddler who doesn’t eat what’s served. She can have a soda or some juice if she doesn’t like beer or wine. What is she brought her own food too? I am not taking about allergies.

Soda and juice? Yuck

She could mix them together and make herself a Shirley Temple! And she could sit in the corner and sip it like a good girl, nice and polite.

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Anonymous wrote:High maintenance? For taking care of her own wishes without bothering anybody or making a big deal out of it?

That's a bold strategy, Cotton.

She is being quite passive aggressive too. She is not a toddler who doesn’t eat what’s served. She can have a soda or some juice if she doesn’t like beer or wine. What is she brought her own food too? I am not taking about allergies.

Soda and juice? Yuck

Anonymous wrote:One imagines that SIL attended a bunch of these events and declined wine or beer, mentioning that she prefers to drink gin. When everyone ignored her for long enough, she brought a thermos. It’s funny, it solves the problem - I’m team SIL.

+1. If I had to spend any appreciable time with OP, I might bring heroin.

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There is also the concern about driving with an open container…

JFC. What, precisely, do you think "open container" means?