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Anonymous wrote:How sweet of the neighbor to host her DD's baby shower for 2nd baby! I love it when family hosts. Why should friends bear the cost and effort of hosting showers? That is such entitlement and imposition.

Her mother hosting for even a first baby is gauche but to have a shower for a 2nd baby is screaming "gift grab." No one can make you say "yes" to a shower. I don't care if it's it been 25 years between babies.

Can you stop posting now? You are embarrassing yourself.

I am in the right. So, no, I will not stop posting.

Right according to whom?

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve read all 6 pages and am 45, married and have two children. I never heard the “rule” that mother’s can’t host until this thread.

Too bad your mother did not think it necesy to teach you proper etiquette
Now you know so do not host a shower for your daughters or any female relative.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve read all 6 pages and am 45, married and have two children. I never heard the “rule” that mother’s can’t host until this thread.

Too bad your mother did not think it necesy to teach you proper etiquette
Now you know so do not host a shower for your daughters or any female relative.

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Anonymous wrote:How sweet of the neighbor to host her DD's baby shower for 2nd baby! I love it when family hosts. Why should friends bear the cost and effort of hosting showers? That is such entitlement and imposition.

Her mother hosting for even a first baby is gauche but to have a shower for a 2nd baby is screaming "gift grab." No one can make you say "yes" to a shower. I don't care if it's it been 25 years between babies.

Can you stop posting now? You are embarrassing yourself.

I am in the right. So, no, I will not stop posting.

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Anonymous wrote:How sweet of the neighbor to host her DD's baby shower for 2nd baby! I love it when family hosts. Why should friends bear the cost and effort of hosting showers? That is such entitlement and imposition.

Her mother hosting for even a first baby is gauche but to have a shower for a 2nd baby is screaming "gift grab." No one can make you say "yes" to a shower. I don't care if it's it been 25 years between babies.

Can you stop posting now? You are embarrassing yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:I see showers as parties and a way to hang out with family and friends. Also all that good food!!

Just with a gift as an entry fee.

Well, I am used to bringing hostess gifts, wine and food to most any party I attend. I also give generous amounts of cash gifts on weddings. I have been raised well and without the soul sucking poverty that people like OP has experienced, so bringing gifts to other actually brings me joy. And buying baby gifts? OMG! They are the best. So cute, so tiny, so much fun!!

Clearly you were not “raised well” if you are unfamiliar with shower etiquette. But nice try.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe so many posters don’t see anything wrong with this! Guys, it’s rude and you’re being taken advantage of!

You get one baby shower for your first baby - that’s it, And your mother should not be the one hosting.

Our generation is getting a really unpleasant reputation as the Me, Me, Me Generation with our ridiculous Sprinkles, Gender Reveal parties, etc. Obvious gift grabs.

Having multiple parties is not the same thing as having one party that your mom hosts. It’s not 1950. Your mom or your sister can host your party.

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A party - yes. But not a shower.

Yes, they can also host your shower. You also don’t need to wear pantyhose anymore, and gay people can get married now.

Anonymous wrote:I’ve read all 6 pages and am 45, married and have two children. I never heard the “rule” that mother’s can’t host until this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

Those aren't the rules anymore grandma. You probably also think people can't wear white before Memorial Day.

NP and no. I’m 27 and know it’s considered rude for mothers to host daughters baby and wedding showers. And absolutely no shower after first baby (or wedding).

It makes sense if you think about it. If your mother can afford to host a shower for you then she can also afford to get you what you need. After the first baby you should have the essentials.

Showers are celebrations. They don't always have to have a practical get you what you need thing. Anyone who has ever received a baby bathrobe as a shower gift will know that.

Sorry no one cared enough about you to celebrate life changing events for you.

Thanks, dear, but I’m loved but not greedy. One shower for the first baby was enough. I can afford to clothe my second baby.

And, news flash! - you can celebrate and be celebrated without begging for gifts!!

There was no begging for gifts. ,

With your nasty personality I understand why no one celebrated your second child. Probably not your first either.

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Anonymous wrote:How sweet of the neighbor to host her DD's baby shower for 2nd baby! I love it when family hosts. Why should friends bear the cost and effort of hosting showers? That is such entitlement and imposition.

Her mother hosting for even a first baby is gauche but to have a shower for a 2nd baby is screaming "gift grab." No one can make you say "yes" to a shower. I don't care if it's it been 25 years between babies.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

Those aren't the rules anymore grandma. You probably also think people can't wear white before Memorial Day.

NP and no. I’m 27 and know it’s considered rude for mothers to host daughters baby and wedding showers. And absolutely no shower after first baby (or wedding).

It makes sense if you think about it. If your mother can afford to host a shower for you then she can also afford to get you what you need. After the first baby you should have the essentials.

Showers are celebrations. They don't always have to have a practical get you what you need thing. Anyone who has ever received a baby bathrobe as a shower gift will know that.

Sorry no one cared enough about you to celebrate life changing events for you.

Thanks, dear, but I’m loved but not greedy. One shower for the first baby was enough. I can afford to clothe my second baby.

And, news flash! - you can celebrate and be celebrated without begging for gifts!!

Anonymous wrote:How sweet of the neighbor to host her DD's baby shower for 2nd baby! I love it when family hosts. Why should friends bear the cost and effort of hosting showers? That is such entitlement and imposition.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

I guess I’m just a lowly middle class person, because most people that I know had a shower for each baby (it’s fun, why not?) and who cares if a relative hosts the party? I never heard any of those rules until reading DCUM.

These are not uncommon “rules” just because you never heard of them.

NP. Regardless of whether PP has heard of them, they are outdated. These rules are for people who need to fetch their smelling salts when someone wears white after Labor Day.

You don’t get to decide if it’s outdated. It is tacky, very tacky and a grab. Everyone with any sense knows that.

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Explain how a shower thrown by family is a tacky gift grab, and one thrown by a friend is not. TIA.

Any showers after the first baby are tacky gift grabs. You’re welcome.

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Anonymous wrote:I see showers as parties and a way to hang out with family and friends. Also all that good food!!

Just with a gift as an entry fee.

Well, I am used to bringing hostess gifts, wine and food to most any party I attend. I also give generous amounts of cash gifts on weddings. I have been raised well and without the soul sucking poverty that people like OP has experienced, so bringing gifts to other actually brings me joy. And buying baby gifts? OMG! They are the best. So cute, so tiny, so much fun!!