Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Intrasex competition for a desirable partner will never go away.

Probably true- any advances in financial equality and a more egalitarian balance of social expectations for women will help, though.

m

There will always be the fat chick who needs to bang the hot wifes husband as revenge from middle/high school.

+1

Anonymous wrote:I don’t really understand the obsession on this site with placing people in boxes. Not all women who have relations with married men are the same or have the reasons.

Some women like the conquest. Some think this is all they deserve or can get. For some it’s happenstance- banging in a hotel room at a conference. Some are sex starved at home and want a low threat means for sex. Some are sex Addicts or mentally ill. Some are glorified hookers and look for married men that will pamper them - like the men who buy their APs condos. And some women just meet and fall with some who happens to be married. For some women, a man being married is off limits. From the amount of affairs that occur, a sizable group of women will look past the ring.

Meh. They're all jezebels at the end of the day so sorry, same box.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On a different note, why do married men profess that they are happily married but cheat? I don’t think you can be happily married and do and say nasty things behind your wife’s back but I hear it all the time. Memo to yourself if you are a cheater - you are not happily married just fyi

They are not a good/happy person but their marriage is good/their wife is good.

Stop hoping their marriage is bad and they are leaving her for you.

Not hoping their marriage is bad but think its better to say nothing at all the profess how great it is. Obviously it isn't that great. I suppose people tell themselves the things they want to hear.

It’s often situational. In my cheating years, midlife, I was struggling inside. I had death of a college friend and a parent. I had a lot of unresolved stuff..and I went out and cheated. Zero to do with my wife or kids.

I hit the lottery with my wife, in-laws and kids. I truly did. I would tell you and told my AP then that my marriage was great. I needed to deal with my demons.

That’s in the past and I do have a marriage and partnership and kids that are incredible. I’m very happy.

It wasn’t “me” when I went through that phase if that makes sense. I was not a good person then and what I was doing did not make me happy. It made things worse.

+100

Similar. The grass isn’t greener. There’s nothing better. I was a fool, but I think going through that is why I’m able to be so happy now. It was rough, but it tore the walls off of everything and we are even closer after that battle.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On a different note, why do married men profess that they are happily married but cheat? I don’t think you can be happily married and do and say nasty things behind your wife’s back but I hear it all the time. Memo to yourself if you are a cheater - you are not happily married just fyi

They are not a good/happy person but their marriage is good/their wife is good.

Stop hoping their marriage is bad and they are leaving her for you.

Not hoping their marriage is bad but think its better to say nothing at all the profess how great it is. Obviously it isn't that great. I suppose people tell themselves the things they want to hear.

It’s often situational. In my cheating years, midlife, I was struggling inside. I had death of a college friend and a parent. I had a lot of unresolved stuff..and I went out and cheated. Zero to do with my wife or kids.

I hit the lottery with my wife, in-laws and kids. I truly did. I would tell you and told my AP then that my marriage was great. I needed to deal with my demons.

That’s in the past and I do have a marriage and partnership and kids that are incredible. I’m very happy.

It wasn’t “me” when I went through that phase if that makes sense. I was not a good person then and what I was doing did not make me happy. It made things worse.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On a different note, why do married men profess that they are happily married but cheat? I don’t think you can be happily married and do and say nasty things behind your wife’s back but I hear it all the time. Memo to yourself if you are a cheater - you are not happily married just fyi

They are not a good/happy person but their marriage is good/their wife is good.

Stop hoping their marriage is bad and they are leaving her for you.

Not hoping their marriage is bad but think its better to say nothing at all the profess how great it is. Obviously it isn't that great. I suppose people tell themselves the things they want to hear.

Anonymous wrote:On a different note, why do married men profess that they are happily married but cheat? I don’t think you can be happily married and do and say nasty things behind your wife’s back but I hear it all the time. Memo to yourself if you are a cheater - you are not happily married just fyi

They are not a good/happy person but their marriage is good/their wife is good.

Stop hoping their marriage is bad and they are leaving her for you.

Anonymous wrote:On a different note, why do married men profess that they are happily married but cheat? I don’t think you can be happily married and do and say nasty things behind your wife’s back but I hear it all the time. Memo to yourself if you are a cheater - you are not happily married just fyi

Compartmentalization. Again, a cheater would rather lie than deal with the unpleasant reality of their feelings, needs, and situation in an honest and open way. They are looking for an easy way around other people’s feelings and needs. So of course they won’t admit the real issues in their marriage — that would mean finding a mutually agreed on solution, like therapy or divorce. It’s a lot less “work” and bother to just go behind their wife’s back.

If they really loved her they would not do something that hurt her. There is usually some resentment going on there, even if subconscious about being trapped and not getting needs met. It’s hard for them to admit that resentment and deal with it openly. Easier to say the marriage is great and they love their wives while they escape from the crisis it’s causing inside them.

Anonymous wrote:All of the women my ex cheated with knew. I honestly don't think men have to lie like they think they do. There are plenty of women who don't care.

They were all also married in my case.

All of the women my ex cheated with knew. I honestly don't think men have to lie like they think they do. There are plenty of women who don't care.

Anonymous wrote:On a different note, why do married men profess that they are happily married but cheat? I don’t think you can be happily married and do and say nasty things behind your wife’s back but I hear it all the time. Memo to yourself if you are a cheater - you are not happily married just fyi

Many times it’s not so much the marriage, but the person. Marriage can be great, but the cheater is unhappy with life. Cheater looks for something to make them feel better - drugs, gambling, drinking, or sex. The cheater will say the marriage is great, yet they are still cheating.

On a different note, why do married men profess that they are happily married but cheat? I don’t think you can be happily married and do and say nasty things behind your wife’s back but I hear it all the time. Memo to yourself if you are a cheater - you are not happily married just fyi

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Intrasex competition for a desirable partner will never go away.

Probably true- any advances in financial equality and a more egalitarian balance of social expectations for women will help, though.

m

There will always be the fat chick who needs to bang the hot wifes husband as revenge from middle/high school.

Anonymous wrote:Intrasex competition for a desirable partner will never go away.

Probably true- any advances in financial equality and a more egalitarian balance of social expectations for women will help, though.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol okay please tell us your secret formula on “how to spot a whore.”

This I love - how do you spot a "whore"? I admittedly have had affairs. Not a single person would look at me and think I'm a whore. Quite the opposite, [/b]I imagine most women find me unattractive. But men, that's a different story[b] and I know if they are not sleeping with me they would be sleeping with someone else. It's always the married persons fault. The AP is just a convenience.

Men have very low standards when it comes to no-strings sex. It’s not something to be proud of. JFC

Some things are more important than superficial looks.

Fat chicks get all the married action.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Same reason people don't wear masks and get vaccinated during a pandemic. Their "freedom" is more important than the impact of their actions on third parties.

Adultery should be illegal and more severally punished

I agree with you.

It already is if you have a good prenup. Other than that, the state has quite enough to do with marriage as it is, thanks. Your bad experience should not diminish the rights of others.

States it’s illegal

Alabama, Arizona, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Illinois, Kansas, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, New York, North Dakota, Oklahoma, South Carolina, Utah, Virginia and Wisconsin