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Anonymous wrote:Having run in those circles for about a decade, I have a pretty good guess as it pertains to married people.
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About 40% have in the past, are now, or are open to it in the future.

About 10-20% are actively cheating or looking to cheat at any given time. The numbers are no different for women than they are for men but women will do a much better job of keeping it a secret.

I ran in the same circles and I agree with you, although....

I have always thought something like 20% of men would never cheat, even if forever sexless. 20% of men are dirtbags and their marriage means nothing to them. They are the ones whose wives come on here saying they had a great sex life, but he still cheated.

The other 60% are ones who might be tempted, might give in, probably or definitely will cheat if they are rendered sexless or neglected at home if the opportunity arises. So maybe between your 40% and my 60%, and I could give you a more accurate prediction on any given man if you showed me how attractive he is, how much he travels for work and how great his sex life is at home.

A few years ago my girlfriend (27) was after a very cute, innocent married colleague, maybe ten years older, from another location who traveled maybe 6-8 times a year. She didn't think he was getting much at home given what she knew of his wife and just how busy their lives were. FWIW I don't approve of this because I think she undersells HERSELF (the real problem with cheating). I tried to tell her to leave him alone and that she could get someone unattached, but she just wanted a bit of fun. At that point she's my friend first, so I'll still support her and hope she makes better choices.

Anyway, she's gorgeous and fun so I thought if she set her sights on this guy then that would be that. But she told me he wouldn't take the bait. At a conference she sat next to him at a dinner, and tried rubbing her leg against his. She then asked him to walk with her so they could talk as the group went ahead. But although he talked with her, he kept engaged with the group and never broke off with her. She's not sure if he was clueless or if he really didn't want to cheat. Obviously I wasn't there, but sometimes it's hard to tell if the guy really wouldn't cheat or can't believe that this hot thing would actually go for him so he doesn't take the risk.

Anonymous wrote:Having run in those circles for about a decade, I have a pretty good guess as it pertains to married people.
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About 40% have in the past, are now, or are open to it in the future.

About 10-20% are actively cheating or looking to cheat at any given time. The numbers are no different for women than they are for men but women will do a much better job of keeping it a secret.

I ran in the same circles and I agree with you, although....

I have always thought something like 20% of men would never cheat, even if forever sexless. 20% of men are dirtbags and their marriage means nothing to them. They are the ones whose wives come on here saying they had a great sex life, but he still cheated.

The other 60% are ones who might be tempted, might give in, probably or definitely will cheat if they are rendered sexless or neglected at home if the opportunity arises. So maybe between your 40% and my 60%, and I could give you a more accurate prediction on any given man if you showed me how attractive he is, how much he travels for work and how great his sex life is at home.

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Anonymous wrote:I have no idea. I project my own contentment in marriage onto others. I really believe everyone in my circle is happy and faithful as my husband and I. If anyone got divorced or cheated and I found out I would be floored.

If I had to wager a guess, I think no more than 10-15% of men are constitutionally bold enough to carry on a true affair. Another 60% simulate cheating through the proxy of pornography. And the remaining 25% have the moral character to turn down temptation.

Your percentages are laughably off base. You think porn is cheating, and you think at least 25% of men don't watch porn? Oh sweetheart.

You’re right—I’d be wrong to assume that many men were of high character. I guess I thought 25% was a generously low number. A lot of men are irreparably steeped in immorality, but I don’t think all of them are. There is a sea change happening in the younger generations, too.

Anonymous wrote:A man is only as faithful as his options.

Not at all.
Some men will just never cheat, no matter how many chances they have.
Some have zero optons, but still spend all their free time trying.

It's an integrity thing,

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea. I project my own contentment in marriage onto others. I really believe everyone in my circle is happy and faithful as my husband and I. If anyone got divorced or cheated and I found out I would be floored.

If I had to wager a guess, I think no more than 10-15% of men are constitutionally bold enough to carry on a true affair. Another 60% simulate cheating through the proxy of pornography. And the remaining 25% have the moral character to turn down temptation.

Your percentages are laughably off base. You think porn is cheating, and you think at least 25% of men don't watch porn? Oh sweetheart.

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea. I project my own contentment in marriage onto others. I really believe everyone in my circle is happy and faithful as my husband and I. If anyone got divorced or cheated and I found out I would be floored.

If I had to wager a guess, I think no more than 10-15% of men are constitutionally bold enough to carry on a true affair. Another 60% simulate cheating through the proxy of pornography. And the remaining 25% have the moral character to turn down temptation.

Just look at the family of origin. It spans generations.

I have no idea. I project my own contentment in marriage onto others. I really believe everyone in my circle is happy and faithful as my husband and I. If anyone got divorced or cheated and I found out I would be floored.

If I had to wager a guess, I think no more than 10-15% of men are constitutionally bold enough to carry on a true affair. Another 60% simulate cheating through the proxy of pornography. And the remaining 25% have the moral character to turn down temptation.

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Anonymous wrote:The two biggest cheaters I know, as in 4-7 affairs (numbers differ between them) over the last 10 years are both very attractive now 40 something year old women. One broke up 3 marriages in a row, the other broke up one. One of the two is still married.

How is that one Ho still married? Her spouse has had to know about it by now, especially if one of her affairs helped cause a marriage to fall apart. Is he just a doormat?

I worked with someone like that. She was very charismatic and smart.

Sounds like a whore to me. Not smart, just a slut.

There are smart whores out there.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The two biggest cheaters I know, as in 4-7 affairs (numbers differ between them) over the last 10 years are both very attractive now 40 something year old women. One broke up 3 marriages in a row, the other broke up one. One of the two is still married.

How is that one Ho still married? Her spouse has had to know about it by now, especially if one of her affairs helped cause a marriage to fall apart. Is he just a doormat?

I worked with someone like that. She was very charismatic and smart.

Sounds like a whore to me. Not smart, just a slut.

Anonymous wrote:88% of the men said the other woman wasn’t better looking or more physically fit than their wives. The number one reason why married men cheat is NOT about sex. It’s about emotional connection and companionship. Many married men cheat because they’re lonely in their marriage, and they want to feel connected to a woman who loves them and wants to be with them physically and emotionally.

Where are people coming up with these numbers? 88? really?

Anonymous wrote:Having run in those circles for about a decade, I have a pretty good guess as it pertains to married people.
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About 40% have in the past, are now, or are open to it in the future.

About 10-20% are actively cheating or looking to cheat at any given time. The numbers are no different for women than they are for men but women will do a much better job of keeping it a secret.

So 60 percent you think are faithful?

Having run in those circles for about a decade, I have a pretty good guess as it pertains to married people.
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About 40% have in the past, are now, or are open to it in the future.

About 10-20% are actively cheating or looking to cheat at any given time. The numbers are no different for women than they are for men but women will do a much better job of keeping it a secret.

98.972983%

What about the cheaters who turn emotional affairs and friendships into physical ones?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The two biggest cheaters I know, as in 4-7 affairs (numbers differ between them) over the last 10 years are both very attractive now 40 something year old women. One broke up 3 marriages in a row, the other broke up one. One of the two is still married.

How is that one Ho still married? Her spouse has had to know about it by now, especially if one of her affairs helped cause a marriage to fall apart. Is he just a doormat?

I worked with someone like that. She was very charismatic and smart.