taketothebank wrote:

I don’t send them to poorer schools because I don’t agree with the parenting and behaviors and academic achievements of the kids at those schools now do I want to live in an unsafe neighborhood. Has nothing to do with the principal or the teacher.

The poster at 8:34 is right. These posts are derailing the thread.

I posted so that, if you have any guts, you can respond to this privately.

Finally, it is "nor" not "now."

Anonymous wrote:What have been some downsides to marrying outside your social class?

I grew up UC/UMC and my dh grew up MC/LMC. There are some cultural differences that become annoying such as the following:

- He thinks everything is expensive and does not have reasonable ideas about cost and quality. He will always go for the cheapest thing
- Horrible taste in food. He will buy these frozen prepared foods from Wegmans and think it is healthy
- Dresses in graphic T-shirts and jeans and a baseball cap. ALL THE TIME!
- Has a chip on his shoulder about "rich people" and higher education

I don’t send them to poorer schools because I don’t agree with the parenting and behaviors and academic achievements of the kids at those schools now do I want to live in an unsafe neighborhood. Has nothing to do with the principal or the teacher.

Anonymous wrote:

You are not following the argument which is back to differences in social classes and people marrying down.

Your hypocrisy is appalling. In an earlier post, you accused me of posting that Langley kids were druggies, without being able to show where I posted this statement.

Now, you accuse me of not following the argument. You need to support the word drool you post. You can see how to do so in an earlier post where I cited a study by the Urban Institute backing up what I posted.

Same question: IF they have as good if not better teachers and more money than Langley, why don't you send your kids to them?

You do not make any sense. Worse, you do not live what you preach. If so, your kids would be in the schools where you think the students are not as good.

You dodged this question because to answer it would make it even more clear that you are a hypocrite. Find some courage and answer this question.

Why don't you send your kids to the schools where you believe they would have so many advantages?

Anonymous wrote:I don’t. This is not as much about innate abilities as it is about upbringing. Those classes btw are hard for the student too, not just money. It’s like an extra school. Granted I do believe more special Ed children are poorer because that’s what the studies show that trauma breeds born trauma, but it’s also about how people grow up and what standards they create for themselves as a result of their upbringing. I once met a woman from middle Virginia who said she got Ds in school but still got into UVA but then decided not to go and went to the local community college and became a hairdresser. In her 30s she had a boyfriend, not a husband. It was much easier to get into college from her school than Langley because UVA lowered their college readiness bar for her, but most kids from Langley don’t opt for her lifestyle. However you cut it Langley kids for the most part are not slackers and druggies and they are ready for college and ready to prepare their children for college.

You are not following the argument which is back to differences in social classes and people marrying down.

Same question: IF they have as good if not better teachers and more money than Langley, why don't you send your kids to them?

You do not make any sense. Worse, you do not live what you preach. If so, your kids would be in the schools where you think the students are not as good.

Anonymous wrote:What have been some downsides to marrying outside your social class?

I grew up UC/UMC and my dh grew up MC/LMC. There are some cultural differences that become annoying such as the following:

- He thinks everything is expensive and does not have reasonable ideas about cost and quality. He will always go for the cheapest thing
- Horrible taste in food. He will buy these frozen prepared foods from Wegmans and think it is healthy
- Dresses in graphic T-shirts and jeans and a baseball cap. ALL THE TIME!
- Has a chip on his shoulder about "rich people" and higher education

Anonymous wrote:

They don’t work harder at school. The attendance rates and passing rates and honors and AP classes are all low. Many high schoolers have jobs making $10k a year. And no they don’t receive a better education at Langley than at a poorer school.

Then why are Langley High and McLean High consistently ranked higher than most other NoVA high schools when educational rankings come out? If the education is better at poorer schools, and all you need to do there is work harder, why don't you send your kids to these schools?

As you put it, they would get more brakes.

The poorer school always gets more money even when factoring in PTA funds. They also often have as good if not better teachers. It’s not the school. It’s the students. All I’m saying is that lifestyle has different expectations that carry forward into adulthood. If you want to be blind to it your choice.

They need more money because the parents at these schools do not receive the same level of donations that parents in wealthier districts can. Ever contributed to a Langley fundraiser for _____? How many of these do you think there are at the poorer schools.

Same question: IF they have as good if not better teachers and more money than Langley, why don't you send your kids to them?

You do not make any sense. Worse, you do not live what you preach. If so, your kids would be in the schools where you think the students are not as good.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What have been some downsides to marrying outside your social class?

I grew up UC/UMC and my dh grew up MC/LMC. There are some cultural differences that become annoying such as the following:

- He thinks everything is expensive and does not have reasonable ideas about cost and quality. He will always go for the cheapest thing
- Horrible taste in food. He will buy these frozen prepared foods from Wegmans and think it is healthy
- Dresses in graphic T-shirts and jeans and a baseball cap. ALL THE TIME!
- Has a chip on his shoulder about "rich people" and higher education

Social class? Are you from 1800's England? There is no social class and certainly no one is better than others for being lucky to have more opportunities. If someone thinks it makes them better, you don't want to be that person or their delusion of grandeur.

+1

Someone implied that Rich Kids did more drugs and got in trouble more. They don’t.

Anonymous wrote:What have been some downsides to marrying outside your social class?

I grew up UC/UMC and my dh grew up MC/LMC. There are some cultural differences that become annoying such as the following:

- He thinks everything is expensive and does not have reasonable ideas about cost and quality. He will always go for the cheapest thing
- Horrible taste in food. He will buy these frozen prepared foods from Wegmans and think it is healthy
- Dresses in graphic T-shirts and jeans and a baseball cap. ALL THE TIME!
- Has a chip on his shoulder about "rich people" and higher education

Anonymous wrote:

They don’t work harder at school. The attendance rates and passing rates and honors and AP classes are all low. Many high schoolers have jobs making $10k a year. And no they don’t receive a better education at Langley than at a poorer school.

Then why are Langley High and McLean High consistently ranked higher than most other NoVA high schools when educational rankings come out? If the education is better at poorer schools, and all you need to do there is work harder, why don't you send your kids to these schools?

As you put it, they would get more brakes.

The poorer school always gets more money even when factoring in PTA funds. They also often have as good if not better teachers. It’s not the school. It’s the students. All I’m saying is that lifestyle has different expectations that carry forward into adulthood. If you want to be blind to it your choice.

They need more money because the parents at these schools do not receive the same level of donations that parents in wealthier districts can. Ever contributed to a Langley fundraiser for _____? How many of these do you think there are at the poorer schools.

Same question: IF they have as good if not better teachers and more money than Langley, why don't you send your kids to them?

You do not make any sense. Worse, you do not live what you preach. If so, your kids would be in the schools where you think the students are not as good.

They don’t work harder at school. The attendance rates and passing rates and honors and AP classes are all low. Many high schoolers have jobs making $10k a year. And no they don’t receive a better education at Langley than at a poorer school.

The poorer school always gets more money even when factoring in PTA funds. They also often have as good if not better teachers. It’s not the school. It’s the students. All I’m saying is that lifestyle has different expectations that carry forward into adulthood. If you want to be blind to it your choice.