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Anonymous wrote:OP: we talked this morning and I told him I needed to take a step back; I’m not sure if I’m ready for a relationship with him.
To be honest, my guy is telling me something is off here.

*gut not guy

OP: to elaborate, he told me he was only seeing each of them for 6 weeks and was not sleeping with either one. So why the need to have them get dressed up for a “coffee dare” and break up in person? I get the feeling it’s more about his ego- he wants to see how they’ll react.

So let's go back to when you had been seeing him for 6 weeks.had possibly planned another date with him you would have been totally fine with him just texting you and saying oopsies gonna be exclusive with someone now laters

OP: not a text, but a kind, caring phone call- absolutely! I would not have wanted to meet in person.

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Anonymous wrote:He's lying obviously. He probably has longstanding plans with them that include sex and he doesn't intend to break them, whether you're exclusive or not. And his comment about being punished for being transparent is a ruse.

OP: unfortunately, I do wonder about this. I have kind of a queasy feeling in my stomach and don’t really trust him. Regardless if I’m right or wrong, I know lack of trust isn’t a great way to start a committed relationship.

Perhaps this isn’t really about this guy OP, but your inability to trust.

OP: it's possible, but I've honestly never had trust issues in past relationships with other guys- only this guy. I usually feel very secure if it's the right guy.

Cut the crap op! It's very clear you have no idea what you are doing and they you have no idea what the right guy is if you did you wouldn't be single and in this situation.

You are dizzy and have some maturity issues. Perhaps one of your friends can suggest a book or podcast.

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Anonymous wrote:OP: we talked this morning and I told him I needed to take a step back; I’m not sure if I’m ready for a relationship with him.
To be honest, my guy is telling me something is off here.

*gut not guy

OP: to elaborate, he told me he was only seeing each of them for 6 weeks and was not sleeping with either one. So why the need to have them get dressed up for a “coffee dare” and break up in person? I get the feeling it’s more about his ego- he wants to see how they’ll react.

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Anonymous wrote:OP it makes no sense to me that you would be worried he’s going to have sex with these women or something (?), when if you haven’t been exclusive hes likely been doing that the whole 3 months?

And if he hasn’t been sleeping with them too all this time, why would he suddenly just have sex with them right before being exclusive with you (someone he’s already had sex with)?

Your concern seems illogical.

OP: because, if has been having sex with them, then he's lying (because he said he hasn't). If he hasn't been having sex with them, why the need to see them in person again just to say it's not going to work out? Something is off.

+1 This is so true. If he hasn’t been having sex with them, why the need for a 7-10 day goodbye tour that includes an in-person date?

Lots of comments here that women are “exhausting.” Really? Being pro-active and careful about who you are in a committed relationship with and having sex with exclusively is being “exhausting?” If op wanted a fwb yes I’d say she’s doing too much; but that’s not the case.

The in person dates this man wanted to have are about him, not about the other women. He likes to be the center of attention and have the spotlight on him. If he was even being truthful with op, that is. Who knows what this dude is doing. For all the women posting here how sweet and caring and kind the guy is, grow up. He’s not. He’s an attention whore that likes to manipulate his harem of women.

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Anonymous wrote:OP it makes no sense to me that you would be worried he’s going to have sex with these women or something (?), when if you haven’t been exclusive hes likely been doing that the whole 3 months?

And if he hasn’t been sleeping with them too all this time, why would he suddenly just have sex with them right before being exclusive with you (someone he’s already had sex with)?

Your concern seems illogical.

OP: because, if has been having sex with them, then he's lying (because he said he hasn't). If he hasn't been having sex with them, why the need to see them in person again just to say it's not going to work out? Something is off.

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Anonymous wrote:OP: we talked this morning and I told him I needed to take a step back; I’m not sure if I’m ready for a relationship with him.
To be honest, my guy is telling me something is off here.

*gut not guy

OP: to elaborate, he told me he was only seeing each of them for 6 weeks and was not sleeping with either one. So why the need to have them get dressed up for a “coffee dare” and break up in person? I get the feeling it’s more about his ego- he wants to see how they’ll react.

So let's go back to when you had been seeing him for 6 weeks.had possibly planned another date with him you would have been totally fine with him just texting you and saying oopsies gonna be exclusive with someone now laters

OP: not a text, but a kind, caring phone call- absolutely! I would not have wanted to meet in person.

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Anonymous wrote:He's lying obviously. He probably has longstanding plans with them that include sex and he doesn't intend to break them, whether you're exclusive or not. And his comment about being punished for being transparent is a ruse.

OP: unfortunately, I do wonder about this. I have kind of a queasy feeling in my stomach and don’t really trust him. Regardless if I’m right or wrong, I know lack of trust isn’t a great way to start a committed relationship.

Perhaps this isn’t really about this guy OP, but your inability to trust.

OP: it's possible, but I've honestly never had trust issues in past relationships with other guys- only this guy. I usually feel very secure if it's the right guy.

Cut the crap op! It's very clear you have no idea what you are doing and they you have no idea what the right guy is if you did you wouldn't be single and in this situation.

You are dizzy and have some maturity issues. Perhaps one of your friends can suggest a book or podcast.

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Anonymous wrote:He has no idea the bullet he just dodged.

Totally mean and unnecessary. ( dp)

No .not mean it's the truth op is immature drama. Op if you want instant exclusivity, don't sleep with a guy and be fine with him seeing others for 3 months . Learn your own mind and not what your friends tell you to think.

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Anonymous wrote:He's lying obviously. He probably has longstanding plans with them that include sex and he doesn't intend to break them, whether you're exclusive or not. And his comment about being punished for being transparent is a ruse.

OP: unfortunately, I do wonder about this. I have kind of a queasy feeling in my stomach and don’t really trust him. Regardless if I’m right or wrong, I know lack of trust isn’t a great way to start a committed relationship.

Perhaps this isn’t really about this guy OP, but your inability to trust.

OP: it's possible, but I've honestly never had trust issues in past relationships with other guys- only this guy. I usually feel very secure if it's the right guy.

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Anonymous wrote:OP: we talked this morning and I told him I needed to take a step back; I’m not sure if I’m ready for a relationship with him.
To be honest, my guy is telling me something is off here.

*gut not guy

OP: to elaborate, he told me he was only seeing each of them for 6 weeks and was not sleeping with either one. So why the need to have them get dressed up for a “coffee dare” and break up in person? I get the feeling it’s more about his ego- he wants to see how they’ll react.

So let's go back to when you had been seeing him for 6 weeks.had possibly planned another date with him you would have been totally fine with him just texting you and saying oopsies gonna be exclusive with someone now laters