Anonymous
12/23/2021 15:28
Subject: Re:Job offer overseas vs 50% child custody
Anonymous wrote:OP, this whole thread discussion of whether or not you should morally take your kids overseas is irrelevant, as some folks have tried to say. You need to consult a divorce lawyer before you pursue your job hunt any further.
If your DH does not agree to the kids going, it doesn’t matter what he has contributed as father and husband, or how connected he is as a father. He will have 50% custody and if he doesn’t want them leaving the neighborhood you live in much less the country, they aren’t going anywhere. The courts would not allow it if both parents don’t agree to the move.
Your only choice would be to convince him somehow to allow them to go. If he doesn’t, you’re going to have to live here and find a job here. Full stop.
From her post, he does the after school care and activities so he cannot be as bad of a dad as she makes him out ot be.
Anonymous
12/23/2021 15:27
Subject: Job offer overseas vs 50% child custody
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:* two parent homes
Actually studies do say they need their fathers.
It depends on the quality of fathers. I am sure the assumption is not that the father would rather be doing something else than family. And that’s his permanent state of mind.
Anecdotally and scientifically, children do better with 100 percent custody with dad than with 100 percent custody with mom.
Lol, ok troll. This is absolute horsesh*t.
Kids do best with stable parents. OP doesn't sound stable. These kids are best off with Dad.
Anonymous
12/23/2021 08:55
Subject: Job offer overseas vs 50% child custody
Anonymous wrote:There is no "letter writing" to a judge. this is a decree.
The letter writing is referring to permission letters needed to travel out of the country with your child when only one parent is present, while you are still married. A judge is not involved in that.
Anonymous
12/22/2021 23:54
Subject: Job offer overseas vs 50% child custody
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:* two parent homes
Actually studies do say they need their fathers.
It depends on the quality of fathers. I am sure the assumption is not that the father would rather be doing something else than family. And that’s his permanent state of mind.
Anecdotally and scientifically, children do better with 100 percent custody with dad than with 100 percent custody with mom.
Lol, ok troll. This is absolute horsesh*t.
Anonymous
12/22/2021 20:01
Subject: Job offer overseas vs 50% child custody
There is no "letter writing" to a judge. this is a decree.
Anonymous
12/22/2021 07:38
Subject: Job offer overseas vs 50% child custody
I grew up moving between countries, going to school abroad and then back home. Don't do it
You don't even have full custody and would live there as a single parent
You don't even have full custody and would live there as a single parent
Anonymous
12/22/2021 07:33
Subject: Re:Job offer overseas vs 50% child custody
Anonymous wrote:OP, this whole thread discussion of whether or not you should morally take your kids overseas is irrelevant, as some folks have tried to say. You need to consult a divorce lawyer before you pursue your job hunt any further.
If your DH does not agree to the kids going, it doesn’t matter what he has contributed as father and husband, or how connected he is as a father. He will have 50% custody and if he doesn’t want them leaving the neighborhood you live in much less the country, they aren’t going anywhere. The courts would not allow it if both parents don’t agree to the move.
Your only choice would be to convince him somehow to allow them to go. If he doesn’t, you’re going to have to live here and find a job here. Full stop.
You say above that there is no way he would write a permission letter allowing you to take the kids out of the country to live for awhile if you're still married. There is your answer on being able to take them out of the country if divorced. You're going to HAVE to get his agreement in order to take them when divorced as well. No judge would allow you to move with them otherwise.
Anonymous
12/22/2021 04:05
Subject: Re:Job offer overseas vs 50% child custody
OP, this whole thread discussion of whether or not you should morally take your kids overseas is irrelevant, as some folks have tried to say. You need to consult a divorce lawyer before you pursue your job hunt any further.
If your DH does not agree to the kids going, it doesn’t matter what he has contributed as father and husband, or how connected he is as a father. He will have 50% custody and if he doesn’t want them leaving the neighborhood you live in much less the country, they aren’t going anywhere. The courts would not allow it if both parents don’t agree to the move.
Your only choice would be to convince him somehow to allow them to go. If he doesn’t, you’re going to have to live here and find a job here. Full stop.
If your DH does not agree to the kids going, it doesn’t matter what he has contributed as father and husband, or how connected he is as a father. He will have 50% custody and if he doesn’t want them leaving the neighborhood you live in much less the country, they aren’t going anywhere. The courts would not allow it if both parents don’t agree to the move.
Your only choice would be to convince him somehow to allow them to go. If he doesn’t, you’re going to have to live here and find a job here. Full stop.
Anonymous
12/21/2021 20:00
Subject: Re:Job offer overseas vs 50% child custody
Anonymous wrote:Who are all these Dads who actually want their kids?
Most divorced dads are lousy. Fact.
OP's husband doesn’t want to be a dad. He's admitted it.
Typical man.
Really, we haven't heard from the husband/Dad. We don't know if this is for real or the actual full story. Most Dad's I know would gladly have full custody. What kind of person are you to say that? Typical mom who doesn't want the Dad involved for more child support.
Anonymous
12/21/2021 19:57
Subject: Re:Job offer overseas vs 50% child custody
Anonymous wrote:Who are all these Dads who actually want their kids?
Most divorced dads are lousy. Fact.
OP's husband doesn’t want to be a dad. He's admitted it.
Typical man.
Troll
Anonymous
12/21/2021 19:50
Subject: Re:Job offer overseas vs 50% child custody
Who are all these Dads who actually want their kids?
Most divorced dads are lousy. Fact.
OP's husband doesn’t want to be a dad. He's admitted it.
Typical man.
Most divorced dads are lousy. Fact.
OP's husband doesn’t want to be a dad. He's admitted it.
Typical man.
Anonymous
12/21/2021 19:28
Subject: Re:Job offer overseas vs 50% child custody
Old custody case so maybe times change, but Halle Berry tried to move her daughter to France and got shutdown by courts in 2012. I have to think she had as much $ and legal minds as anyone and she got a big nope.
Anonymous
12/21/2021 00:35
Subject: Job offer overseas vs 50% child custody
Anonymous wrote:You take the job. Kids go to boarding school. This is the way to make it work. Lots of privileged kids with traveling parents make up the population of boarding schools.
Dad keeps the kids.
Anonymous
12/20/2021 20:12
Subject: Job offer overseas vs 50% child custody
You take the job. Kids go to boarding school. This is the way to make it work. Lots of privileged kids with traveling parents make up the population of boarding schools.
Anonymous
12/20/2021 20:10
Subject: Job offer overseas vs 50% child custody
Take the job. You can fly the kids over frequently.