Anonymous
Post 11/25/2021 20:50     Subject: Is it rude to host party and not provide alcohol?
Anonymous wrote:Every time one of these threads comes around, I am surprised by the number of people who say they can’t attend a party without alcohol. And they don’t think they have a problem with alcohol. I drink, and come from a family of daily drinkers (I no longer drink daily because I would be sooo fat if I did)—but it seems to me the definition of problem drinking to say “I won’t do (fill in the blank) unless there’s alcohol.” Unless that fill in the blank is something absolutely awful….but you shouldn’t NEED booze to get you through a run of the mill social event.


+1. I don’t drink, nor does anyone in my immediate friend group. Not for any particular reason, we just don’t. If I were having a party or social gathering, and invited folks outside of that circle I still wouldn’t serve alcohol because I don’t drink. It wouldn’t even occur to me that it would be required.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2021 20:37     Subject: Is it rude to host party and not provide alcohol?
Every time one of these threads comes around, I am surprised by the number of people who say they can’t attend a party without alcohol. And they don’t think they have a problem with alcohol. I drink, and come from a family of daily drinkers (I no longer drink daily because I would be sooo fat if I did)—but it seems to me the definition of problem drinking to say “I won’t do (fill in the blank) unless there’s alcohol.” Unless that fill in the blank is something absolutely awful….but you shouldn’t NEED booze to get you through a run of the mill social event.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2021 17:20     Subject: Is it rude to host party and not provide alcohol?
Rarely if ever have I ever been to a Thanksgiving dinner that has alcohol, but I am from the south. If alcohol had been served the resulting fights would have been legendary.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2021 17:15     Subject: Is it rude to host party and not provide alcohol?
Anonymous wrote:I am at a Thanksgiving where there is a ton of alcoholic drink options, and for non-alcoholic there is… Water. ☹️


Why wouldn’t you bring a bottle of whatever you want? A lot of people don’t drink soda. The only nonalcoholic things I drink are water and coffee.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2021 17:09     Subject: Re:Is it rude to host party and not provide alcohol?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, it is rude.

However, if you are a recovering alchoholic and you are inviting your family (who are drinkers), you need to let them know about it. They can choose to come for a short time and then leave to go to a bar without you.


It is not rude. Some people don't drink for all sorts of regions. If you bring alcohol to an observant Muslims house or expect a Hindu vegetarian to serve meat just for you, that is just not rude but it is horribly self centered and you should examine who you are as a person.

Also who the hell goes to a bar on Thanksgiving?


I went to a bar with friends after a Thanksgiving meal once. One of my best Thanksgivings ever!
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2021 16:19     Subject: Is it rude to host party and not provide alcohol?
Anonymous wrote:I am at a Thanksgiving where there is a ton of alcoholic drink options, and for non-alcoholic there is… Water. ☹️


That stinks. I always bring non-alcoholic drinks, just in case.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2021 16:18     Subject: Is it rude to host party and not provide alcohol?
I wouldn’t care one bit. One dinner with no alcohol won’t kill anyone.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2021 16:16     Subject: Is it rude to host party and not provide alcohol?
I am at a Thanksgiving where there is a ton of alcoholic drink options, and for non-alcoholic there is… Water. ☹️
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2021 16:09     Subject: Is it rude to host party and not provide alcohol?
Anonymous wrote:I recently had to quit drinking. If I host a dinner party and serve a great spread (like I usually do) with a variety of non-alcoholic beverages, do you think guests will be put off or think I’m cheap or a bad host? The guests are heavy drinkers (drinking during daytime kid birthday parties, sneaking drinks at public parks, etc). When I’ve hosted in the past, I’ve always served alcohol, but can’t do that anymore. I never told them I quit.

If they brought their own, which some of them probably will, they can drink it and take it home. I don’t want to tell people to BYOB though. That sounds cheap to me.


In your situation I think you should tell them the reason why. I find that alcoholocs don't like hanging around non drinkers so don't be surprised if they dump you as friends...sorry!
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2021 15:16     Subject: Is it rude to host party and not provide alcohol?
Well, it's not polite!
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2021 15:15     Subject: Is it rude to host party and not provide alcohol?
I think the extent to which drinking is absolutely essential for people is incredibly sad.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2021 11:51     Subject: Is it rude to host party and not provide alcohol?
It's one way to make sure people leave early!
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2021 11:47     Subject: Is it rude to host party and not provide alcohol?
I wouldn't find it rude at all, but I am a more moderate drinker than the people you describe. If there's alcohol at an event, I'll have a little bit, if not, totally fine too.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2021 11:44     Subject: Re:Is it rude to host party and not provide alcohol?
Anonymous wrote:Yes, it is rude.

However, if you are a recovering alchoholic and you are inviting your family (who are drinkers), you need to let them know about it. They can choose to come for a short time and then leave to go to a bar without you.


It is not rude. Some people don't drink for all sorts of regions. If you bring alcohol to an observant Muslims house or expect a Hindu vegetarian to serve meat just for you, that is just not rude but it is horribly self centered and you should examine who you are as a person.

Also who the hell goes to a bar on Thanksgiving?
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2021 09:46     Subject: Re:Is it rude to host party and not provide alcohol?
Yes, it is rude.

However, if you are a recovering alchoholic and you are inviting your family (who are drinkers), you need to let them know about it. They can choose to come for a short time and then leave to go to a bar without you.