Anonymous
Post 12/01/2023 11:32     Subject: What’s the most condescending work compliment you’ve received?
Anonymous wrote:When visiting the Charleston, SC office…

“Do you work here? I think you probably came from our DC office.”

I look like DC. Sad face.


Anonymous
Post 11/30/2023 21:50     Subject: What’s the most condescending work compliment you’ve received?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I didn't know YOU were an attorney! You're so friendly...


This one isn’t wrong.

- another friendly attorney that feels like a push over for being nice (I’m not a pushover at all, just not mean and biting.)


Same here. I just let people (including other attorneys) say what they want to say about me being too nice but that I’m "learning" to be mean. Whatever. I’m nice and still get siht done. It is possible.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2023 16:35     Subject: Re:What’s the most condescending work compliment you’ve received?
"you have the mind of a ferrari in the body of a volvo" or something to that effect. Said to me by another (older) woman when I was about 32 and a size 2/4. It was just so...odd.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2023 13:41     Subject: What’s the most condescending work compliment you’ve received?
“I love your enthusiasm but I don’t think it’s going to solve the problem.”

I made sure his problem was not solvable after that comment.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2023 07:50     Subject: What’s the most condescending work compliment you’ve received?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“You’re so articulate” as if they were surprised I’m not a total idiot


This doesn’t sound like a back handed compliment to me. This is just a compliment.

It's a microaggression.

It actually literally is not.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2023 07:25     Subject: What’s the most condescending work compliment you’ve received?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“You’re so articulate” as if they were surprised I’m not a total idiot


Are you black?


+1. This is a typical microagression said to people of color generally.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2023 07:21     Subject: What’s the most condescending work compliment you’ve received?
Anonymous wrote:“You’re so articulate” as if they were surprised I’m not a total idiot


Are you black?
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2023 07:17     Subject: What’s the most condescending work compliment you’ve received?
I can be nice when I want to be
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2023 22:08     Subject: What’s the most condescending work compliment you’ve received?
Anonymous wrote:After receiving a promotion and it was announced at the last meeting I'd have with the group, one said, "Well, clearly you had ambitions" and another said, "I had no idea" just sort of looking at me in shock.


They may have been thinking about themselves more than you. Perhaps you made their work easier and they are going to miss you for that.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2023 22:01     Subject: What’s the most condescending work compliment you’ve received?
After receiving a promotion and it was announced at the last meeting I'd have with the group, one said, "Well, clearly you had ambitions" and another said, "I had no idea" just sort of looking at me in shock.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2023 08:16     Subject: What’s the most condescending work compliment you’ve received?
After graduating from a highly selective college at the top of my class, I took an entry level position to gain experience and move up. A senior manager in my department heard me answering the phone and said, “Wow, you were made for this job.”
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2023 07:54     Subject: What’s the most condescending work compliment you’ve received?
Anonymous wrote:"Has anyone ever given you a pearl necklace? You're cute and I'd give you a pearl necklace." I was 18 and assisting an investment broker at a new defunct brokerage firm. Used to have a bull as its logo.


That was creepy af

Anonymous
Post 11/28/2023 12:54     Subject: What’s the most condescending work compliment you’ve received?
My paralegal could do it better but it's fine.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 20:02     Subject: Re:What’s the most condescending work compliment you’ve received?
When I started my career all of my peers were Ivy League type MBAs. I wasn’t. After three years I was the first one to reach a director level and a senior guy said to me “you’ve done really well given where you went to school.” About 3 years later he was reporting to me and I took the high road and said nothing.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 19:33     Subject: What’s the most condescending work compliment you’ve received?
"You don't look like a Scientist. You look like you should be working on Wall Street!"