Anonymous wrote:I think it’s weird. Your DH doesn’t freshen up for you.

Anonymous wrote:I’m a sahm. I obviously get ready in the morning (simple hair, light makeup, casual clothes) but I also do a little refresh before DH comes home. Usually this is just brushing hair, touching up makeup and maybe changing into something a little more comfortable but more revealing than my daytime outfit (short shorts, cropped tank, low cut v neck etc). I do not feel any pressure or expectations from DH regarding any of this.

Anyway, I was talking to a few friends and it was brought up that I did this. They pressed for details and thought the whole thing was totally weird and silly, especially considering that DH sees me au natural at night and in the morning. I didn’t think this was a strange thing to do but my friends completely roasted me. What do you think dcum? Do you do this? Is this strange?

Anonymous wrote:As a man, I don’t really see the point of this. I would think it was a little weird if I noticed my wife had gotten ready for me to come home. I think most confident women wouldn’t feel the need to do this.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are the kids? I do think it’s weird that you get skimpy presumably before dinner. Do you have girls?

OP here- I think people may be getting the wrong impression from what I wrote initially. I like to change into comfortable but flattering loungewear at the end of the day. I would not characterize what I’m wearing as skimpy.. What I wear is similar to what women might wear to a yoga class or workout. Like another poster said, I don’t think leggings and a longline bra top is inappropriate to wear at home, personally.

Kids are 4, 2, and 6 months. I don’t think they are offended by wearing leggings as pants at home.

You are on dcum, OP. People here are scandalized by leggings. I also choose clothing that is perfectly appropriate but that DH might find sexy. Fine if you want to wear a shapeless sack but your kids won’t be scarred by you changing out of sweatpants and an oversized t shirt once in a while.

Yes the people here would not dress up for a first date or a job interview. They would blame the patriarchy but really it’s on them.

OP's new version - "I have ratty loungewear that I wear with the kids and flattering loungewear that I put on before DH gets home" is a lot more reasonable than the OP, where she does her hair, makeup, and puts on short shorts and a crop top or deep V-neck to greet him at the door. What she's saying now is a slightly vain woman who wants to keep the sexy SAHM illusion up; what she said in the OP was so porny and ridiculous that a dozen people assumed she was a man working on a screenplay.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's nice and a good thing for your relationship, and not at all over the top! I don't do it but good idea, maybe I'll start .

Ignore the haters... they probably think shaving your legs or taking showers regularly is weird too.

You win the awards for dumbest reply and most lacking in logic for the day

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Anonymous wrote:How old are the kids? I do think it’s weird that you get skimpy presumably before dinner. Do you have girls?

OP here- I think people may be getting the wrong impression from what I wrote initially. I like to change into comfortable but flattering loungewear at the end of the day. I would not characterize what I’m wearing as skimpy.. What I wear is similar to what women might wear to a yoga class or workout. Like another poster said, I don’t think leggings and a longline bra top is inappropriate to wear at home, personally.

Kids are 4, 2, and 6 months. I don’t think they are offended by wearing leggings as pants at home.

You are on dcum, OP. People here are scandalized by leggings. I also choose clothing that is perfectly appropriate but that DH might find sexy. Fine if you want to wear a shapeless sack but your kids won’t be scarred by you changing out of sweatpants and an oversized t shirt once in a while.

Yes the people here would not dress up for a first date or a job interview. They would blame the patriarchy but really it’s on them.

Anonymous wrote:I’ve never done this and I’ve been with dh for 20 years.

Reminds me of one of the first episodes of the Marvelous Mrs Maisel where she wakes up early to “put on her face” before her husband wakes up.

Anonymous wrote:I think it's sweet, OP! As long as this is something you do because you want to and not because you feel like your DH requires it, why not?
I've been married 20 years and I sometimes do this if I'm home before DH. Keep it hot, OP!

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Anonymous wrote:OP. Just to be clear, I do this and didn’t think it was odd until my friends called me out saying it was weird. I absolutely do not think every woman should be doing this or that a woman can’t be sexy and attractive without primping.

And like I asked you way back on page 1 when I thought you actually may be a real poster and not an incel trying to stir up shit if you like doing it who the hell cares if anyone thinks it's weird?

If we all told you it was weird, would you stop doing it?

I am really, really not an incel. This truly was just a thread asking a question out of curiosity; is what I’m doing fairly normal or uncommon. It seems like it’s somewhat uncommon, although a few posters do also get ready to see other adults, including their DH. I can see how this could turn into a discussion on the unrealistic expectations men have of women (esp given all of the toxic messaging women get about “snapping back” after pregnancy and “letting themselves go”) but it was not my intention to do this at all. My DH has seen me at my physical best and worst and everything in between and has always loved and doted on me. Personally, I get ready for him because, as a sahm with young kids, it makes me feel sexy and put together after a long day of being a tired mom. I’m sure plenty of women wouldn’t want to do this and that’s completely up to them to do what makes them happy.

I get this, esp during the pandemic. Sometimes I wear heels to the grocery store because I need to practice walking in them now that I am not wearing them to the office, etc. Other women give me dirty looks, though. I am just doing it for my own fun.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are the kids? I do think it’s weird that you get skimpy presumably before dinner. Do you have girls?

OP here- I think people may be getting the wrong impression from what I wrote initially. I like to change into comfortable but flattering loungewear at the end of the day. I would not characterize what I’m wearing as skimpy.. What I wear is similar to what women might wear to a yoga class or workout. Like another poster said, I don’t think leggings and a longline bra top is inappropriate to wear at home, personally.

Kids are 4, 2, and 6 months. I don’t think they are offended by wearing leggings as pants at home.

You are on dcum, OP. People here are scandalized by leggings. I also choose clothing that is perfectly appropriate but that DH might find sexy. Fine if you want to wear a shapeless sack but your kids won’t be scarred by you changing out of sweatpants and an oversized t shirt once in a while.