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Anonymous wrote:

My kids appreciate it. What happened in your home that they don’t? If my kids refused contact we would not pay for college. They are grown. If they make a no contact choice that includes money. My parents try to control me with money. I decline ever. Simple.

I hope you realize that you doing the same thing to your kids that your parents did to you, except with different conditions.

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It’s very easy for a parent to alienate their kids kids from another.

If I suspected parental alienation, I would talk to the child to understand what may be happening and possibly take them to therapy to have a therapist help them cope with a difficult parent or see the sutiation differently. I would not automatically assume parental alienation without evidence. I would also self reflect on my own parenting and how to make changes to improve the relationship. There are lots of parenting resources out there.

As for the financial support, it is almost a given that children do not appreciate it until they are older. We give out of love for our children, not for the expectation of anything in return.

My kids appreciate it. What happened in your home that they don’t? If my kids refused contact we would not pay for college. They are grown. If they make a no contact choice that includes money. My parents try to control me with money. I decline ever. Simple.

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My kids appreciate it. What happened in your home that they don’t? If my kids refused contact we would not pay for college. They are grown. If they make a no contact choice that includes money. My parents try to control me with money. I decline ever. Simple.

Anonymous wrote:
My kids appreciate it. What happened in your home that they don’t? If my kids refused contact we would not pay for college. They are grown. If they make a no contact choice that includes money. My parents try to control me with money. I decline ever. Simple.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[

It’s very easy for a parent to alienate their kids kids from another.

If I suspected parental alienation, I would talk to the child to understand what may be happening and possibly take them to therapy to have a therapist help them cope with a difficult parent or see the sutiation differently. I would not automatically assume parental alienation without evidence. I would also self reflect on my own parenting and how to make changes to improve the relationship. There are lots of parenting resources out there.

As for the financial support, it is almost a given that children do not appreciate it until they are older. We give out of love for our children, not for the expectation of anything in return.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re enjoying this, OP. Hope he still pays for college.

Of course, they are enjoying it. Dad should not pay for college. Mom can figure it out.

OP doesn't sound like they are enjoying it. OP sounds tired of trying to make a grown man understand what it means to be a father of a 17 YO. OP's ex is trying to control her and their daughter instead of doing the things that parents of teens do, which mostly consists of driving your teen places and waiting to pick them up from places. And when they can drive, they are out with their friends or at their activities --- not sitting around the house with their parents.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[

It’s very easy for a parent to alienate their kids kids from another.

If I suspected parental alienation, I would talk to the child to understand what may be happening and possibly take them to therapy to have a therapist help them cope with a difficult parent or see the sutiation differently. I would not automatically assume parental alienation without evidence. I would also self reflect on my own parenting and how to make changes to improve the relationship. There are lots of parenting resources out there.

As for the financial support, it is almost a given that children do not appreciate it until they are older. We give out of love for our children, not for the expectation of anything in return.

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It’s very easy for a parent to alienate their kids kids from another.

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Anonymous wrote:parental alienation

Parental alienation is highly disputed theory that has been misused to explain why children do not want to engage with a particular parent.

The idea that every time a child doesn’t want to spend time with a parent has to be the result of the other parent’s actions is ludicrous. Parents are just people and some people are unpleasant, angry, mean or selfish. Kids don’t necessarily want to be around that; it has nothing to do with the other parent’s actions.

It’s ludicrous but men and their attorneys use it with great success in court and in custody evaluations. Fighting alienation allegations now. It’s wild to realize that men invent entire theories and then train their parties to propagate them rather than face the fact that someone just doesn’t like them because they did a bad job of interacting with them, but it’s an actual thing.

Relieved that your DD is almost 18, OP. Hopefully you live somewhere where getting a hearing for this would take a solid 8 weeks. Luckily even if he was serious, no one would allow ex parte proceedings for this kind of thing.

It’s wild that some women alienate their kids and find all kinds of ways to justify it. I hope you don’t have kids. If a 18 year old doesn’t want to see a parent fine but don’t expect child support or college help.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:parental alienation

Parental alienation is highly disputed theory that has been misused to explain why children do not want to engage with a particular parent.

The idea that every time a child doesn’t want to spend time with a parent has to be the result of the other parent’s actions is ludicrous. Parents are just people and some people are unpleasant, angry, mean or selfish. Kids don’t necessarily want to be around that; it has nothing to do with the other parent’s actions.

It’s ludicrous but men and their attorneys use it with great success in court and in custody evaluations. Fighting alienation allegations now. It’s wild to realize that men invent entire theories and then train their parties to propagate them rather than face the fact that someone just doesn’t like them because they did a bad job of interacting with them, but it’s an actual thing.

Relieved that your DD is almost 18, OP. Hopefully you live somewhere where getting a hearing for this would take a solid 8 weeks. Luckily even if he was serious, no one would allow ex parte proceedings for this kind of thing.

It’s wild that some women alienate their kids and find all kinds of ways to justify it. I hope you don’t have kids. If a 18 year old doesn’t want to see a parent fine but don’t expect child support or college help.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re enjoying this, OP. Hope he still pays for college.

Of course, they are enjoying it. Dad should not pay for college. Mom can figure it out.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:parental alienation

Parental alienation is highly disputed theory that has been misused to explain why children do not want to engage with a particular parent.

The idea that every time a child doesn’t want to spend time with a parent has to be the result of the other parent’s actions is ludicrous. Parents are just people and some people are unpleasant, angry, mean or selfish. Kids don’t necessarily want to be around that; it has nothing to do with the other parent’s actions.

It’s ludicrous but men and their attorneys use it with great success in court and in custody evaluations. Fighting alienation allegations now. It’s wild to realize that men invent entire theories and then train their parties to propagate them rather than face the fact that someone just doesn’t like them because they did a bad job of interacting with them, but it’s an actual thing.

Relieved that your DD is almost 18, OP. Hopefully you live somewhere where getting a hearing for this would take a solid 8 weeks. Luckily even if he was serious, no one would allow ex parte proceedings for this kind of thing.

It’s wild that some women alienate their kids and find all kinds of ways to justify it. I hope you don’t have kids. If a 18 year old doesn’t want to see a parent fine but don’t expect child support or college help.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:parental alienation

Parental alienation is highly disputed theory that has been misused to explain why children do not want to engage with a particular parent.

The idea that every time a child doesn’t want to spend time with a parent has to be the result of the other parent’s actions is ludicrous. Parents are just people and some people are unpleasant, angry, mean or selfish. Kids don’t necessarily want to be around that; it has nothing to do with the other parent’s actions.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:parental alienation

Parental alienation is highly disputed theory that has been misused to explain why children do not want to engage with a particular parent.

The idea that every time a child doesn’t want to spend time with a parent has to be the result of the other parent’s actions is ludicrous. Parents are just people and some people are unpleasant, angry, mean or selfish. Kids don’t necessarily want to be around that; it has nothing to do with the other parent’s actions.

It’s ludicrous but men and their attorneys use it with great success in court and in custody evaluations. Fighting alienation allegations now. It’s wild to realize that men invent entire theories and then train their parties to propagate them rather than face the fact that someone just doesn’t like them because they did a bad job of interacting with them, but it’s an actual thing.

Relieved that your DD is almost 18, OP. Hopefully you live somewhere where getting a hearing for this would take a solid 8 weeks. Luckily even if he was serious, no one would allow ex parte proceedings for this kind of thing.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:parental alienation

Parental alienation is highly disputed theory that has been misused to explain why children do not want to engage with a particular parent.

The idea that every time a child doesn’t want to spend time with a parent has to be the result of the other parent’s actions is ludicrous. Parents are just people and some people are unpleasant, angry, mean or selfish. Kids don’t necessarily want to be around that; it has nothing to do with the other parent’s actions.