Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm back with some updates. DD ended up Venmoing us the money back (so no jail), but unfortunately, she begged money from DS (who works a high-paying tech job in SF) to buy plane tickets for her to go to her roommates's parents' house over winter break (not OUR house). When I asked her why she wouldn't come to her own flesh and blood -- her family! -- over her friend's family for Christmas, she FLIPPED OUT at us and started cussing us out. She kept yelling at DH and I that we were "controlling her financially all throughout college by making college funding contingent on me attending church when I don't believe in God" and that we "only know how to control her financially and don't have any real relationship with your only daughter except for one that consists of financial control" and that we've "ruined her with generational trauma" and all this ridiculous psychobabble that she unfortunately has picked up from her therapist (who is convinced, wrongly, that we're the root of all of her problems, but I digress).

Oh, and she's still unemployed and "searching for a job." Like she has been since May

I emphasized to her that maybe 9 months of "searching for a job" has shown that her strategy has been ineffective, and she needs to go back to school for a more lucrative degree than her BA in English if she wants a chance of getting a normal office job. But she REFUSES, because she's entitled, delusional, and extremely narcissistic.

Anonymous wrote:Why is one of the conditions to attend Christian church?

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So she's not a failure to launch if she's not living with you or dependent on you for her lifestyle.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a family matter not a police matter. Not being able to find a stable job some months after graduation is NOT failure to launch. I am so glad I didn't have parents like you.

+1.

Some of these parents are heartless!

My younger brother was unemployed on and off until 26. He pays some of my mother's bills now at 33. Some children need help for a little longer.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a family matter not a police matter. Not being able to find a stable job some months after graduation is NOT failure to launch. I am so glad I didn't have parents like you.

Ayfkm?
She stole from them.
I’d report to police.

Anonymous wrote:So she just graduated, didn't find a job in her field but did find one as a barista, held that job for many months and just lost it. She doesn't seem like failure to launch to me and more in a panic about how to not be on the street due to job loss...

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. No, we NEVER gave her permission to use our credit card. We weren't even aware that she knew the CC number until now, but apparently she wrote down my CC number when she was back home from winter break last year without me noticing. See how much of a sneaky, entitled person she is?

Re: college. She was an English major at a SLAC known for entitled, whiny students (similar to Oberlin/Wesleyan). She started off as pre-med/Bio at an HYPS school, but she left the school after her freshman year due to "mental health issues" (which I now realize are just depression and loneliness due to how insufferable she is to be around). She took 1 year off of college back in 2021 and then transferred to this progressive SLAC (similar in rankings/political reputation to an Oberlin/Vassar type school) because she wanted to "pursue her creative ambitions."

She lives with a college friend in a different part of the country, and pays $600/month in rent. She Venmo'd the person $3k from MY bank account (the audacity!) because she wanted to "front-load" rent for January-May. Insane.

She wants to use the extra $1k for Delta plane tickets to visit her FRIEND's FAMILY (not us, but her roommate's parents!) over winter break because "she never wants to see us again." This is despite the fact that she's 23 and on our health insurance and phone plan. Insane.

You're a troll. F off.

Not a troll, I'm giving you all the details and you have nothing and aren't particularly helpful.

Anonymous wrote:This is a family matter not a police matter. Not being able to find a stable job some months after graduation is NOT failure to launch. I am so glad I didn't have parents like you.

Anonymous wrote:This is a family matter not a police matter. Not being able to find a stable job some months after graduation is NOT failure to launch. I am so glad I didn't have parents like you.