Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
It takes a great parent or coach to recognize not just current performance, but the potential for even greater achievements. That’s how excellence is nurtured—through a bit of encouragement to push beyond the comfort zone.
Thanks! Will continue to do that.
The results are out. She did worse than my estimation. But I’m glad that she texted me “I did really bad in the test”. Well, that rarely happens so the awareness and willingness to communicate made me happy.
I’ll ask her to spend more time to prepare for the next year. My goal is for her to see hard work pays off and of course to lay a better math foundation. If she does not make it to honor in 8th grade, we will not try amc10 if she agrees. And I’m ok with it. At least she tried. A journey for me to learn about her potential.
I don't know why, but the way you worded the above makes me sad. I get that parents want to help their children improve but it doesn't sound motivating at all. I don't think that would do anything for me as a kid, if my parent asks me to prepare more. It would probably make me more anxious because I will feel that I am disappointing them more if I don't prepare like I was asked.
To me it sounds like she is not that excited about it because she is preparing by herself. It would be much better if she found one or two like minded peers/friends to work together with. You mentioned she is surrounded by lots of smart kids at school; if she had a small group I bet she would enjoy learning difficult things a lot more because it's less of a lonely experience when doing it with someone else. Does she know anyone else who is into Aops/math contests outside of school? If she could find even one other person, especially any of her friends, it would make it that much more enjoyable. Many kids do love learning and have the capacity to really excel, but it's just difficult for them to spend hours alone, on top of their normal schoolwork. But together with some friends could make it a very different experience and all of a sudden it is possible she could be just as motivated as she is with A's at school. I'd guess she is motivated to get A's because she is competing with her peers and wants to stand out, not necessarily because she loves all her subjects in school.
Over the years I've observed how many smart kids work and many of the highly motivated ones always had some sort of social environment that supported what they were doing, whether it was some formal team, or just friends at the same school who they were also competing or collaborating with for fun. It's just much easier and more fun to do this type of thing with others. Many kids at TJ love it not because they are given hours of work, much more than at a base school, that is by far the worst part for them. They love it because it is very easy to find like minded peers to work together with on a passion or hobby that they share an interest with. They are never alone. This is just an example, but it is very important to have that social support.