Anonymous
Post 03/29/2024 11:56     Subject: I do not know how to handle adult son’s dramatic change
Anonymous wrote:She sounds abusive and a narcissist.


There is no woman in this thread who sounds abusive and a narcissist. Why did you resort to psychological diagnosis without any explanation?
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2024 10:38     Subject: I do not know how to handle adult son’s dramatic change
She sounds abusive and a narcissist.
Anonymous
Post 03/29/2024 10:31     Subject: I do not know how to handle adult son’s dramatic change
The son of the OP must enhance his skills in order to broaden his opportunities. A woman should enhance his life, rather than be the sole focus. Men who possess talents have a wider range of choices when it comes to relationships.
Anonymous
Post 03/28/2024 19:24     Subject: I do not know how to handle adult son’s dramatic change
Surprising! In my circle (22-30 age group, mostly from T20 schools), nobody moved back to suburbia in their childhood bedrooms. Only people moving back are ones who can't afford to live on their own or lack adult skills to survive on their own.



Anonymous
Post 03/28/2024 12:51     Subject: I do not know how to handle adult son’s dramatic change
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is anecdotal but I know of 20+ family friends whose kids have moved back to start new job in DMV area!


Indian or similar culture?


Some (three) are Indian Americans, but a good mix of many different cultures (Chinese, Vietnamese, Greek, Italian, and Spanish, to name a few).
Anonymous
Post 03/28/2024 12:48     Subject: I do not know how to handle adult son’s dramatic change
Anonymous wrote:He sounds like an incel loser. Hopefully she dumps him and finds a real man.


Are you in the wrong thread?
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2024 17:30     Subject: I do not know how to handle adult son’s dramatic change
Anonymous wrote:This is anecdotal but I know of 20+ family friends whose kids have moved back to start new job in DMV area!


Indian or similar culture?
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2024 15:39     Subject: I do not know how to handle adult son’s dramatic change
He sounds like an incel loser. Hopefully she dumps him and finds a real man.
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2024 20:19     Subject: I do not know how to handle adult son’s dramatic change
This is anecdotal but I know of 20+ family friends whose kids have moved back to start new job in DMV area!
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2024 20:17     Subject: I do not know how to handle adult son’s dramatic change
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Any how problems in your original post doesn't require you to worry anymore because in two months, he'll be home in his childhood bedroom, no college life issues and no girlfriend issues. Everything would be back to normal and y'all can happily cook gourmet meals and watch late night television.

Now read the OP with genders reversed. OP's DD got back together with BF and dropped everyone else, stopped calling and texting her mom and siblings. Would you be glad she will be home after graduating or try and push her away further? Btw what's wrong with cooking meals at home with your child?!


Everyone gets busy when embarking on a new relationship. We've all been there or seen it with friends, give them their space.

As for a rule where college grads have to move back home with Mommy and work around there. No one I knew had that. One Greek American friend had a big fight with her parents when they tried to force her to live at home and commute to college all four years. She did 2 at home, it sukked, and then 2 in apartments with friends, which was much better for everyone. And she was a great student.


https://www.forbes.com/sites/brendarichardson/2022/08/30/many-young-adults-who-moved-back-home-during-the-pandemic-still-live-there/amp/


https://finance.yahoo.com/news/moving-back-parents-common-now-120000981.html
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2024 16:08     Subject: I do not know how to handle adult son’s dramatic change
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Any how problems in your original post doesn't require you to worry anymore because in two months, he'll be home in his childhood bedroom, no college life issues and no girlfriend issues. Everything would be back to normal and y'all can happily cook gourmet meals and watch late night television.

Now read the OP with genders reversed. OP's DD got back together with BF and dropped everyone else, stopped calling and texting her mom and siblings. Would you be glad she will be home after graduating or try and push her away further? Btw what's wrong with cooking meals at home with your child?!


Everyone gets busy when embarking on a new relationship. We've all been there or seen it with friends, give them their space.

As for a rule where college grads have to move back home with Mommy and work around there. No one I knew had that. One Greek American friend had a big fight with her parents when they tried to force her to live at home and commute to college all four years. She did 2 at home, it sukked, and then 2 in apartments with friends, which was much better for everyone. And she was a great student.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2024 12:55     Subject: I do not know how to handle adult son’s dramatic change
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I've seen this. She's likely a narcissist or has some other controlling personality disorder and he's choosing to accommodate her rather than honor who he was and the other people in his life. Her insecurities will mean she's constantly testing him and he has to keep choosing her over other people and other interests.

Some people wise up, but it's after children and marriages have suffered. Some people live like this forever. I don't really know how to get someone "out of the fog" of such relationships. It is painful to watch.


OP here. I do not want to focus on the GF and what she is doing. I am concerned about his change of personality, attitude and habits. I am worried that he is not focusing on his own well being, his won interests, family and friends.


Such a drastic change would most likely mean, drugs.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2024 12:27     Subject: I do not know how to handle adult son’s dramatic change
Anonymous wrote:Any how problems in your original post doesn't require you to worry anymore because in two months, he'll be home in his childhood bedroom, no college life issues and no girlfriend issues. Everything would be back to normal and y'all can happily cook gourmet meals and watch late night television.

Now read the OP with genders reversed. OP's DD got back together with BF and dropped everyone else, stopped calling and texting her mom and siblings. Would you be glad she will be home after graduating or try and push her away further? Btw what's wrong with cooking meals at home with your child?!
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2024 23:39     Subject: I do not know how to handle adult son’s dramatic change
What does the father think about his son’s depression, girlfriend and post-graduation plans.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2024 23:36     Subject: I do not know how to handle adult son’s dramatic change
Anonymous wrote:Any how problems in your original post doesn't require you to worry anymore because in two months, he'll be home in his childhood bedroom, no college life issues and no girlfriend issues. Everything would be back to normal and y'all can happily cook gourmet meals and watch late night television.

Lol