Anonymous wrote:I never understood how someone's decision not to drink at a party impacts your ability to have a good time.

changes the vibe. Fun times! 😴

Anonymous wrote:I don't drink, I don't recall anyone ever having a problem with that.

I take that back, my sister did briefly, but she also has a bit of a problem with drinking.. Even with that she was never really rude about it.

I am a lobbyist and drink very very rarely. I’m successful and attend a lot of events. I get a coke and nobody notices or cares, and if they say anything I just say “my tolerance sucks” or “I have to drive home” and nobody seems to care. If I’m at a white collar or black tie event I’ll let them pour the glass of wine and won’t drink it. It’s not a big deal. The Mormon senators looks absolutely 20 years younger so that’s good enough for me. That doesnt mean I won’t sometimes take a sip but I can’t wait to remember the last time I was drunk. I’ve had three kids and people are always shocked, same with my husband who I encourage not to drink. I think it’s an awful burden to carry as a working parent, unless you’re like a 7 foot tall 250 lb man and a drink doesnt faze you. I don’t judge drinkers and will serve wine but not my bag.

I don't drink, I don't recall anyone ever having a problem with that.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you still want to go out or be friends with them?

It is well known that the only people that mind others not drinking are those with drinking problems. I was told that once and as I get older I find it to be so true.

This is sadly accurate. People with a healthy relationship with alcohol don’t need other people around them to be drinkers as well. Drunks love to be surrounded by other drunks.

Anonymous wrote:As a non-drinker, the situation I’ve been pressed the most about non drinking is with other moms. There seems to be a mommy wine culture where all mommies must drink when together. At book club, I’m asked 10 times if I’d like a glass of wine. When I say no thank you, the response sometimes is “just have a little” or “this is soooooo good, you need to taste this.”

At paint night, the group picture is everyone holding a glass of wine around their art work. Sports travels, let’s all drink after the game.

I never feel this type of pressure at work or family events.

Especially since the rate of alcoholism in women is rising more than men, I find all this mommy wine culture stuff pretty toxic.

Anonymous wrote:Would you still want to go out or be friends with them?

It is well known that the only people that mind others not drinking are those with drinking problems. I was told that once and as I get older I find it to be so true.

Anonymous wrote:Drinking is a bit part of American culture. Sucks for you.

Okaaayy…

Drinking is a bit part of American culture. Sucks for you.

Those who don’t drink alcohol are smart. Alcohol is bad for your health and everyone knows it, but many still drink anyway. I think that it will eventually be a bad habit that most people quit - like smoking.

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Anonymous wrote:What drink do you order when you go out?

If this was a question for the non drinker above (me) if I feel like embarrassing my husband, I’ll order a Shirley Temple. With my co-workers friends usually nothing or water. Those two groups know I don’t drink. If I’m with a new group, I order Cherry Coke.

Shirley temple and cherry coke? How old are you?

DP, but was this nastiness necessary. Maybe think before posting.

NP. I don't care if my friends drink, but I would think it juvenile to try to order a cherry coke as an adult at a restaurant.

It’s more juvenile to be judgmental about others’ drink choices.

I drink alcohol, and I love cherry coke! I would totally order one.

I don’t drink and judge the adults that are hammered and acting the fool. I’ll be wide awake at 6AM tomorrow morning, ready to go, and sharp. You, on the other hand, will be a pile of shit.

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Anonymous wrote:Depends on the total package. Sometimes I think they’re boring…. (never tried alcohol, don’t like the taste, scared how they’d react to it… ) Sometimes I think it’s smart (migraines, terrible hangovers, trouble stopping at one or two drinks), and sometimes I don’t care.

You judge someone because they don't like the taste of alcohol? I mean, it's pretty nasty until you learn to get used to it.

Seriously. If I was going to judge somebody, I’d judge people who drank poison with the intent to develop a taste for it.

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Anonymous wrote:Depends on the total package. Sometimes I think they’re boring…. (never tried alcohol, don’t like the taste, scared how they’d react to it… ) Sometimes I think it’s smart (migraines, terrible hangovers, trouble stopping at one or two drinks), and sometimes I don’t care.

You judge someone because they don't like the taste of alcohol? I mean, it's pretty nasty until you learn to get used to it.

Seriously. If I was going to judge somebody, I’d judge people who drank poison with the intent to develop a taste for it.

Me too. I wasted my youth at happy hours and alcohol-drenched parties and made few real memories, all blurred together pre-30. What a waste, literally. My drink of choice now is lemonade. I still have a glass of champagne on birthdays, at weddings, and New Years Eve.

Anonymous wrote:Would you still want to go out or be friends with them?

Oh yes. I find it creepy to be around drunk people. Their personality changes. And sometimes you have to arrange to get them home safely. Sometimes they become violent.
People who don't drink have the same personality 24 / 7. And I don't need to worry about their safety. Or mine.