Anonymous
11/13/2025 03:46
Subject: Does your mother comment on everyone's looks?
She used her o do it to me when I was a. Hold and young adult. Guess what it did to my self esteem??
Anonymous
11/12/2025 17:21
Subject: Does your mother comment on everyone's looks?
Yes but mostly on weight and it’s really embarrassing.
Anonymous
11/11/2025 10:22
Subject: Does your mother comment on everyone's looks?
No and she is 95
Anonymous
11/11/2025 07:51
Subject: Does your mother comment on everyone's looks?
It was not only normal but expected to dissect everyone's physical appearance - but especially women - for Boomers and most of Gen X. I'm 60 and have managed to mostly train myself out of this, but I do occasionally slip. It's hard to stop doing something that was so ingrained in us until just a few years ago.
Anonymous
11/08/2025 08:16
Subject: Does your mother comment on everyone's looks?
It was/is my dad who does this.
Anonymous
11/08/2025 08:10
Subject: Does your mother comment on everyone's looks?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is just that these women are shallow and intellectually limited. If someone starts out that way they frequently end up that way. It's not about age, it's about inherent limitations.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this because I'd find it immensely boring. It could be worse though. She doesn't sound like a bigot.
The reality is that men select wives based on looks. Therefore it is quite rational for women to focus significant energy on appearances.
It's always been this way and educated men also want educated women. IOW the whole package.
Watching the 'love your body/stop the fat shaming' generation be fat, not get dates and be miserable is pitiful. Until they found GLP1s.
Well to an extent yes, but do they want educated ugly fat women or educated pretty women?
We all if they had to pick between an educated intelligent ugly woman and a pretty average women, they would pick looks every time.
True but true for me, too. I wouldn't have noticed DH if he wasn't good looking and reasonably fit.
Anonymous
11/08/2025 07:51
Subject: Does your mother comment on everyone's looks?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is just that these women are shallow and intellectually limited. If someone starts out that way they frequently end up that way. It's not about age, it's about inherent limitations.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this because I'd find it immensely boring. It could be worse though. She doesn't sound like a bigot.
The reality is that men select wives based on looks. Therefore it is quite rational for women to focus significant energy on appearances.
It's always been this way and educated men also want educated women. IOW the whole package.
Watching the 'love your body/stop the fat shaming' generation be fat, not get dates and be miserable is pitiful. Until they found GLP1s.
Well to an extent yes, but do they want educated ugly fat women or educated pretty women?
We all if they had to pick between an educated intelligent ugly woman and a pretty average women, they would pick looks every time.
Anonymous
11/08/2025 07:36
Subject: Does your mother comment on everyone's looks?
Anonymous wrote:My mother is early 80s now-always obsessed with other people's looks and her own. She was blessed with beauty on the outside and that is why she was able to have friends-people assume things about those who are attractive and want to be around them. Now her looks have faded so much, and people don't want to be around her because she cannot censor her ugly side as much. She still obsesses about other people's looks and is full of bitterness she no longer gets attention for hers.
This is like my 90s mother, still vain with a distorted ageist lens. She comments on how Old people look, but never her. I tell her she must have found the fountain of youth, which she believes. Like a film star ready for her close up, sad really if she wasn’t so mean
Anonymous
11/08/2025 07:01
Subject: Does your mother comment on everyone's looks?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is just that these women are shallow and intellectually limited. If someone starts out that way they frequently end up that way. It's not about age, it's about inherent limitations.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this because I'd find it immensely boring. It could be worse though. She doesn't sound like a bigot.
The reality is that men select wives based on looks. Therefore it is quite rational for women to focus significant energy on appearances.
It's always been this way and educated men also want educated women. IOW the whole package.
Watching the 'love your body/stop the fat shaming' generation be fat, not get dates and be miserable is pitiful. Until they found GLP1s.
Anonymous
11/07/2025 18:19
Subject: Does your mother comment on everyone's looks?
My mother is early 80s now-always obsessed with other people's looks and her own. She was blessed with beauty on the outside and that is why she was able to have friends-people assume things about those who are attractive and want to be around them. Now her looks have faded so much, and people don't want to be around her because she cannot censor her ugly side as much. She still obsesses about other people's looks and is full of bitterness she no longer gets attention for hers.
Anonymous
11/07/2025 10:05
Subject: Does your mother comment on everyone's looks?
My mom doesn't but my MIL does and I hate it.
Anonymous
11/07/2025 09:28
Subject: Does your mother comment on everyone's looks?
Yes, mine has always done this and still does. Mid 70's
Anonymous
11/06/2025 22:20
Subject: Does your mother comment on everyone's looks?
My mom did this too, but only on people she thought were ugly, fat, or not successful. And they were none of those things. Sad, really.
Anonymous
11/06/2025 22:19
Subject: Does your mother comment on everyone's looks?
Yes, she’s 85. She’s not as bad as she use to be. I remember she would make comments when someone was on a cane. Guess who is on one now? She is.
Anonymous
11/06/2025 22:16
Subject: Does your mother comment on everyone's looks?
My mother every single time I saw her.
Same with my sister.
She also told everyone she knew I was fat time and time again.
15 years ago I stopped speaking to her.
She died a month ago no loss for me.
Same with my sister.
She also told everyone she knew I was fat time and time again.
15 years ago I stopped speaking to her.
She died a month ago no loss for me.