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Anonymous wrote:Why is this conversation turning on the parents for not realizing that James Carroll was a sexual predator. They aren’t the ones who committed the crimes. I imagine many of the parents are totally freaking out right now. This is a very scary and unsettling situation.

Parents need to be the PARENTS and know that they (not NCRC) are the only ones who truly care about the well being of their children

Anonymous wrote:Why is this conversation turning on the parents for not realizing that James Carroll was a sexual predator. They aren’t the ones who committed the crimes. I imagine many of the parents are totally freaking out right now. This is a very scary and unsettling situation.

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Anonymous wrote:Judith (the NCRC counselor) was quoted in the NCRC letter to families with the following advice:

“At times like these the most important way to care for the children in our community is to be mindful of not discussing this serious and sensitive topic in front of them.”

Not impressive, to say the least.

What is she supposed to say?

We failed.

Anonymous wrote:It’s very possible he just wasn’t into preschool children. Nobody has touched on this aspect but didn’t he post a pic of two teenage boys, so his perversion may have a particular type.

Anonymous wrote:Why is this conversation turning on the parents for not realizing that James Carroll was a sexual predator. They aren’t the ones who committed the crimes. I imagine many of the parents are totally freaking out right now. This is a very scary and unsettling situation.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what the obsession is over BVR (and even allegations against STA and NCS) on this thread and not a single mention of Concord Hill. It’s clear there are posters with a grip against the Cathedral schools. This man hasn’t been on the close since 2008 and no allegations of misconduct have been made about made against him during that time. Why is it more likely to have happened at BVR and not CH?

He created the discord account while at bvr. That info is 3 days old so we have no idea the damage done while he was there. But it’s likely not great. He was at CH for only 1 year and was interviewing mid year. And well the creepy Toth 3rd grade connection at bvr. And the working relationship he continued to have with bvr while at ncrc too- when he left CH he was done.

He was at bvr for 10 years, ncrc since 2018. While at ncrc since 2018 he was talking, meeting with and visiting with bvr constantly. CH connection def not great but the bvr and ncrc damage seems so much worse.

I doubt he had access to kids at BVR though after he left. He may have used his computer there which is gross but if he was there it would have been to meet with admissions people.

He worked at BVR until 2016.

There is no evidence in the affidavit that he ever used his computer at Beauvoir (though obviously he did when he worked there). Beauvoir is only mentioned one time in the affidavit and that is in connection to the school's address being used on his AT&T mobile phone account.

He did work there though until 2016 as he was the outplacement director for us.

I understand. But the affidavit does not cover any activities from that time period. Posters keep suggesting that he engaged in his nefarious activities at Beauvoir. He may have, but there has been no evidence of that so far.

I certainly hope not as I just found out he was meeting with kids alone as outplacement director despite the previous head saying teachers and staff were NOT allowed alone with kids as a safety measure post Toth…..

He was outplacement director for my kids at Beauvoir.

I will add we had no red flags about him at all. We love Beauvoir and are not looking to blame them or anyone. He kept up a very British professional manner and I would not have guessed any of it.

British-ness lets a lot of people get away with a lot of stuff.

Former parent who interacted with him at NCRC - I thought he was cold and strange, and had an odd gut feeling about him; I avoided the whole outplacement process with him and didn't want to be beholden to him; he was an odd man; not to the extent that I would have expected any of this to come out - but I will say my "gut" was telling me to stay away.

We had the same exact feeling about him. NCRC was our first choice until we met him. We ended up choosing a different school. I did not have any safety concerns though, just found our interaction with him to be really odd and cold. So glad we went with our gut.

It’s really interesting to hear so many people echoing the same sentiment. Prior to this week we had only heard positives about him.

You recognized the RED flags and listened to your gut. This is what it takes, EVEN when you can’t quite put your finger on anything specific.

If something doesn’t feel right, get away.

You sound unhinged.

Anonymous wrote:Why is this conversation turning on the parents for not realizing that James Carroll was a sexual predator. They aren’t the ones who committed the crimes. I imagine many of the parents are totally freaking out right now. This is a very scary and unsettling situation.

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Anonymous wrote:Judith (the NCRC counselor) was quoted in the NCRC letter to families with the following advice:

“At times like these the most important way to care for the children in our community is to be mindful of not discussing this serious and sensitive topic in front of them.”

Not impressive, to say the least.

What is she supposed to say?

Anonymous wrote:Judith (the NCRC counselor) was quoted in the NCRC letter to families with the following advice:

“At times like these the most important way to care for the children in our community is to be mindful of not discussing this serious and sensitive topic in front of them.”

Not impressive, to say the least.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what the obsession is over BVR (and even allegations against STA and NCS) on this thread and not a single mention of Concord Hill. It’s clear there are posters with a grip against the Cathedral schools. This man hasn’t been on the close since 2008 and no allegations of misconduct have been made about made against him during that time. Why is it more likely to have happened at BVR and not CH?

He created the discord account while at bvr. That info is 3 days old so we have no idea the damage done while he was there. But it’s likely not great. He was at CH for only 1 year and was interviewing mid year. And well the creepy Toth 3rd grade connection at bvr. And the working relationship he continued to have with bvr while at ncrc too- when he left CH he was done.

He was at bvr for 10 years, ncrc since 2018. While at ncrc since 2018 he was talking, meeting with and visiting with bvr constantly. CH connection def not great but the bvr and ncrc damage seems so much worse.

I doubt he had access to kids at BVR though after he left. He may have used his computer there which is gross but if he was there it would have been to meet with admissions people.

He worked at BVR until 2016.

There is no evidence in the affidavit that he ever used his computer at Beauvoir (though obviously he did when he worked there). Beauvoir is only mentioned one time in the affidavit and that is in connection to the school's address being used on his AT&T mobile phone account.

He did work there though until 2016 as he was the outplacement director for us.

I understand. But the affidavit does not cover any activities from that time period. Posters keep suggesting that he engaged in his nefarious activities at Beauvoir. He may have, but there has been no evidence of that so far.

I certainly hope not as I just found out he was meeting with kids alone as outplacement director despite the previous head saying teachers and staff were NOT allowed alone with kids as a safety measure post Toth…..

He was outplacement director for my kids at Beauvoir.

I will add we had no red flags about him at all. We love Beauvoir and are not looking to blame them or anyone. He kept up a very British professional manner and I would not have guessed any of it.

British-ness lets a lot of people get away with a lot of stuff.

Former parent who interacted with him at NCRC - I thought he was cold and strange, and had an odd gut feeling about him; I avoided the whole outplacement process with him and didn't want to be beholden to him; he was an odd man; not to the extent that I would have expected any of this to come out - but I will say my "gut" was telling me to stay away.

We had the same exact feeling about him. NCRC was our first choice until we met him. We ended up choosing a different school. I did not have any safety concerns though, just found our interaction with him to be really odd and cold. So glad we went with our gut.

It’s really interesting to hear so many people echoing the same sentiment. Prior to this week we had only heard positives about him.

You recognized the RED flags and listened to your gut. This is what it takes, EVEN when you can’t quite put your finger on anything specific.

If something doesn’t feel right, get away.

You sound unhinged.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy how people lose complete perspective in this area. It’s horrible this happened and everyone can agree on that, including NCRC, but to act like it’s this rampant problem with males in preschools isn’t true.
We have 3000 preschools in metro area, and lots of guys work at these schools. One or two cases, as evil as they were, does not mean that males shouldn’t work with children.
It’s not a common thing here, so get a grip, people.

One or two? You have no idea about what you are talking about.

What do you plan on doing when your child goes to Elementary school and lots of guys work there?

Or when your child goes to middle, high school, college as the # of male teachers/professors increases at each level.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what the obsession is over BVR (and even allegations against STA and NCS) on this thread and not a single mention of Concord Hill. It’s clear there are posters with a grip against the Cathedral schools. This man hasn’t been on the close since 2008 and no allegations of misconduct have been made about made against him during that time. Why is it more likely to have happened at BVR and not CH?

He created the discord account while at bvr. That info is 3 days old so we have no idea the damage done while he was there. But it’s likely not great. He was at CH for only 1 year and was interviewing mid year. And well the creepy Toth 3rd grade connection at bvr. And the working relationship he continued to have with bvr while at ncrc too- when he left CH he was done.

He was at bvr for 10 years, ncrc since 2018. While at ncrc since 2018 he was talking, meeting with and visiting with bvr constantly. CH connection def not great but the bvr and ncrc damage seems so much worse.

I doubt he had access to kids at BVR though after he left. He may have used his computer there which is gross but if he was there it would have been to meet with admissions people.

He worked at BVR until 2016.

There is no evidence in the affidavit that he ever used his computer at Beauvoir (though obviously he did when he worked there). Beauvoir is only mentioned one time in the affidavit and that is in connection to the school's address being used on his AT&T mobile phone account.

He did work there though until 2016 as he was the outplacement director for us.

I understand. But the affidavit does not cover any activities from that time period. Posters keep suggesting that he engaged in his nefarious activities at Beauvoir. He may have, but there has been no evidence of that so far.

I certainly hope not as I just found out he was meeting with kids alone as outplacement director despite the previous head saying teachers and staff were NOT allowed alone with kids as a safety measure post Toth…..

He was outplacement director for my kids at Beauvoir.

I will add we had no red flags about him at all. We love Beauvoir and are not looking to blame them or anyone. He kept up a very British professional manner and I would not have guessed any of it.

British-ness lets a lot of people get away with a lot of stuff.

Former parent who interacted with him at NCRC - I thought he was cold and strange, and had an odd gut feeling about him; I avoided the whole outplacement process with him and didn't want to be beholden to him; he was an odd man; not to the extent that I would have expected any of this to come out - but I will say my "gut" was telling me to stay away.

We had the same exact feeling about him. NCRC was our first choice until we met him. We ended up choosing a different school. I did not have any safety concerns though, just found our interaction with him to be really odd and cold. So glad we went with our gut.

It’s really interesting to hear so many people echoing the same sentiment. Prior to this week we had only heard positives about him.

You recognized the RED flags and listened to your gut. This is what it takes, EVEN when you can’t quite put your finger on anything specific.

If something doesn’t feel right, get away.

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jsteele wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what the obsession is over BVR (and even allegations against STA and NCS) on this thread and not a single mention of Concord Hill. It’s clear there are posters with a grip against the Cathedral schools. This man hasn’t been on the close since 2008 and no allegations of misconduct have been made about made against him during that time. Why is it more likely to have happened at BVR and not CH?

He created the discord account while at bvr. That info is 3 days old so we have no idea the damage done while he was there. But it’s likely not great. He was at CH for only 1 year and was interviewing mid year. And well the creepy Toth 3rd grade connection at bvr. And the working relationship he continued to have with bvr while at ncrc too- when he left CH he was done.

He was at bvr for 10 years, ncrc since 2018. While at ncrc since 2018 he was talking, meeting with and visiting with bvr constantly. CH connection def not great but the bvr and ncrc damage seems so much worse.

I doubt he had access to kids at BVR though after he left. He may have used his computer there which is gross but if he was there it would have been to meet with admissions people.

He worked at BVR until 2016.

There is no evidence in the affidavit that he ever used his computer at Beauvoir (though obviously he did when he worked there). Beauvoir is only mentioned one time in the affidavit and that is in connection to the school's address being used on his AT&T mobile phone account.

He did work there though until 2016 as he was the outplacement director for us.

I understand. But the affidavit does not cover any activities from that time period. Posters keep suggesting that he engaged in his nefarious activities at Beauvoir. He may have, but there has been no evidence of that so far.

I certainly hope not as I just found out he was meeting with kids alone as outplacement director despite the previous head saying teachers and staff were NOT allowed alone with kids as a safety measure post Toth…..

He was outplacement director for my kids at Beauvoir.

I will add we had no red flags about him at all. We love Beauvoir and are not looking to blame them or anyone. He kept up a very British professional manner and I would not have guessed any of it.

British-ness lets a lot of people get away with a lot of stuff.

Former parent who interacted with him at NCRC - I thought he was cold and strange, and had an odd gut feeling about him; I avoided the whole outplacement process with him and didn't want to be beholden to him; he was an odd man; not to the extent that I would have expected any of this to come out - but I will say my "gut" was telling me to stay away.

We had the same exact feeling about him. NCRC was our first choice until we met him. We ended up choosing a different school. I did not have any safety concerns though, just found our interaction with him to be really odd and cold. So glad we went with our gut.

It’s really interesting to hear so many people echoing the same sentiment. Prior to this week we had only heard positives about him.

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jsteele wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what the obsession is over BVR (and even allegations against STA and NCS) on this thread and not a single mention of Concord Hill. It’s clear there are posters with a grip against the Cathedral schools. This man hasn’t been on the close since 2008 and no allegations of misconduct have been made about made against him during that time. Why is it more likely to have happened at BVR and not CH?

He created the discord account while at bvr. That info is 3 days old so we have no idea the damage done while he was there. But it’s likely not great. He was at CH for only 1 year and was interviewing mid year. And well the creepy Toth 3rd grade connection at bvr. And the working relationship he continued to have with bvr while at ncrc too- when he left CH he was done.

He was at bvr for 10 years, ncrc since 2018. While at ncrc since 2018 he was talking, meeting with and visiting with bvr constantly. CH connection def not great but the bvr and ncrc damage seems so much worse.

I doubt he had access to kids at BVR though after he left. He may have used his computer there which is gross but if he was there it would have been to meet with admissions people.

He worked at BVR until 2016.

There is no evidence in the affidavit that he ever used his computer at Beauvoir (though obviously he did when he worked there). Beauvoir is only mentioned one time in the affidavit and that is in connection to the school's address being used on his AT&T mobile phone account.

He did work there though until 2016 as he was the outplacement director for us.

I understand. But the affidavit does not cover any activities from that time period. Posters keep suggesting that he engaged in his nefarious activities at Beauvoir. He may have, but there has been no evidence of that so far.

I certainly hope not as I just found out he was meeting with kids alone as outplacement director despite the previous head saying teachers and staff were NOT allowed alone with kids as a safety measure post Toth…..

He was outplacement director for my kids at Beauvoir.

I will add we had no red flags about him at all. We love Beauvoir and are not looking to blame them or anyone. He kept up a very British professional manner and I would not have guessed any of it.

British-ness lets a lot of people get away with a lot of stuff.

Former parent who interacted with him at NCRC - I thought he was cold and strange, and had an odd gut feeling about him; I avoided the whole outplacement process with him and didn't want to be beholden to him; he was an odd man; not to the extent that I would have expected any of this to come out - but I will say my "gut" was telling me to stay away.