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Anonymous wrote:Ask. We had a weird situation where we weren't going to attend a family wedding because it was "no kids" but when the parents of the bride heard this, we were informed that kids within the close family could come. The couple was later among their friend group to marry so if everyone brought kids it would have been like a toddler daycare. We triple checked with the couple because we didn't want to appear presumptuous, and made it clear that we were fine either way, just wanted to clarify.

This is what I would also suggest might be the case and we experienced something similar. I would just ask, not to guilt them, but just so it’s clear so you can make the right plans (which may mean declining).

This happened to me. I declined the invite because I had a 6 month old who wasn’t invited. When they saw me decline they said “if the only way you can come is to bring your kid, then he can come”. This made it 100x more awkward and I still declined. I definitely don’t want to bring my kid to a “no kids” wedding.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you should not attend this wedding because there is resentment in your soul about the exclusion of your kids.

OP should not attend this wedding because flying the whole family to a wedding during a pandemic, at a time when a new and much more contagious variant is spiking, is both idiotically stupid and irresponsible. Great way to bring Delta variant back home. Even if everyone is vaccinated. Does no one pay ANY attention to actual scientific news? The concern is not only for the unvaccinated but for the vaccinated who can have and transmit Delta to others even if they don't get very sick themselves.

The bride and groom and guests and OP are all just gazing at their own navels. It's all the "We MUST have our wedding!" people who are going to keep infections spreading. But of course, you do YOU, OP!

Anonymous wrote:I see no children as nobody under 12. If the brewery was actually the issue she should've said no minors. But children is a specific word usually used to refer to the 12 and under set. So I understand OP's uncertainty.

Adults only would be only people over 18. She should've used this if that was her prerogative. I wonder if people who had toddlers received different invitations with the wording on it? Not everyone will look online. Really comes down to what the formal invite said on the envelope. I would decline now due to not previously understanding kids can't come.

There’s no “uncertainty” if the children’s names weren’t specifically on the outer envelope or the inner envelope. There’s no “confusion.” There’s no “interpretation” to make.

Has she answered what the invitation said?

I see no children as nobody under 12. If the brewery was actually the issue she should've said no minors. But children is a specific word usually used to refer to the 12 and under set. So I understand OP's uncertainty.

Adults only would be only people over 18. She should've used this if that was her prerogative. I wonder if people who had toddlers received different invitations with the wording on it? Not everyone will look online. Really comes down to what the formal invite said on the envelope. I would decline now due to not previously understanding kids can't come.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People seem to be missing an important point. The OP already RSVPed, presumably for 4. It seems to me that someone would have reached back out by now to clarify that the kids aren't be invited, right? Especially if they are flying to get there? The OP found the "no kids" thing on the registry, which is odd in and of itself.

OP, just call your brother or sister, or whoever is the parent that you're related to, and clarify.

You can’t just add guests to your RSVP.

Slightly unrelated, but not really. I got married super young. None of my friends had kids. One person rsvp’d +4 then didn’t show.

You “interpret” that it is, quite simply, the couples day - and most definitely NOT YOUR DAY, OP.

Your wedding, your rules.

It’s not complicated, OP- stop trying to make it complicated.

Anonymous wrote:People seem to be missing an important point. The OP already RSVPed, presumably for 4. It seems to me that someone would have reached back out by now to clarify that the kids aren't be invited, right? Especially if they are flying to get there? The OP found the "no kids" thing on the registry, which is odd in and of itself.

OP, just call your brother or sister, or whoever is the parent that you're related to, and clarify.

You can’t just add guests to your RSVP.

Anonymous wrote:I find it weird that the "no kids" statement wasn't clear in the invitation, but was instead on the registry?

That's weird.

IT WAS ON THE INVITATION. THE INVITATION HAS THE NAMES OF THE PEOPLE INVITED. THE ABSENCE OF THE NAMES OF THE CHILDREN MEANS THEY ARE NOT INVITED.

People seem to be missing an important point. The OP already RSVPed, presumably for 4. It seems to me that someone would have reached back out by now to clarify that the kids aren't be invited, right? Especially if they are flying to get there? The OP found the "no kids" thing on the registry, which is odd in and of itself.

OP, just call your brother or sister, or whoever is the parent that you're related to, and clarify.

I find it weird that the "no kids" statement wasn't clear in the invitation, but was instead on the registry?

That's weird.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An evening reception is no place for children anyway.

A 16 year old? What time do you think they go to bed?

It’s not about bedtime, moron, it’s about access to alcohol.

You've never taken your children to an event where alcohol was served? Really?

Anonymous wrote:Your kids would rather attend a boring function than stay at the hotel room and play videogames??????

Why in the world would she pay to take fly her children to California, in a pandemic, when airplane travel costs are through the roof, so they can sit in a hotel and play videogames??

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Anonymous wrote:People who have no kids weddings (especially when the kids are family) are the same people who expect their bridesmaids or groomsmen to spend $1500 on a bachelor/ette weekend and who think of their wedding as a showcase for their narcissistic tendencies. They are tiresome. I’d decline because it’s not covid safe and send a check for a fraction of the cost of a trip out there. It’s almost insulting to be invited across the country when you have a 13 year old and be told the 13 year old cannot come. WTF.

You kid isn't the Christ Child.

+1

THIS.

Your kids would rather attend a boring function than stay at the hotel room and play videogames??????