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Anonymous wrote:Omg no. I would never allow this. He is supposed to be on paternity leave to HELP YOU and bond with his children. He might not be a jerk, but he is honestly clueless. Yea, you CAN take care of a newborn and 3 yo if you have to, and only because your husband is on a very important business trip/at a funeral/whatever. But for a fun weekend? Absolutely no way.

The hypocrisy is astounding.

So it's okay for work or a wedding but not okay for a fun weekend in Vegas.

Got it.

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Anonymous wrote:DH here. I don’t see what the big deal is. He’s home all day with newborns as well and wants to join a weekend trip with his buddies.

Despite the hype, mothering two kids and keeping them alive for 3 days isn’t climbing Everest.

Please tell us more about your expertise on mothering, male human.

Literally half the planet has done it since the dawn of time? I know that much. And 99%+ of those have done it under a whole hell of a lot more duress than “my husband went to Vegas for 2.5 days” and left me in my suburban, air-conditioned, well-appointed 5000 square foot home with two kids. Get over yourselves.

Well...certain type of victim woman will take a lot of shit from their DH. The DH who wrote above is married to a woman with low self-esteem and can get away by doing these kinds of things.

Feel sorry for the children who are raised in such shitty marriages.

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Wait, let me get this straight. We have low self esteem and shitty marriages because we facilitate our DHs weekend trip with friends?

Do you hear yourself?

Girl, are you okay?

Ones who brush off the difficulty of caring for a newborn and a toddler alone as not a big deal? And who apparently don’t have a clue that one person caring for them alone is not something that has been done since the dawn of time and that throughout most of history and still in most cultures mothers have help? If you are married to somebody like this, I do feel bad for you. You are letting your husband get away with being an ass.

Maybe I'm just more competent at mothering but no, I do not think a newborn and toddler are all that difficult. I have had three children close in age while my husband traveled extensively for work. Now he makes a fortune. You don't have to feel sorry for me. Just FYI, doubling down as you are confirms my suspicions that you're projecting your shitty marriage issues here. I hope your husband is okay. Good luck in your divorce.

Anonymous wrote:Omg no. I would never allow this. He is supposed to be on paternity leave to HELP YOU and bond with his children. He might not be a jerk, but he is honestly clueless. Yea, you CAN take care of a newborn and 3 yo if you have to, and only because your husband is on a very important business trip/at a funeral/whatever. But for a fun weekend? Absolutely no way.

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Anonymous wrote:DH here. I don’t see what the big deal is. He’s home all day with newborns as well and wants to join a weekend trip with his buddies.

Despite the hype, mothering two kids and keeping them alive for 3 days isn’t climbing Everest.

Please tell us more about your expertise on mothering, male human.

Literally half the planet has done it since the dawn of time? I know that much. And 99%+ of those have done it under a whole hell of a lot more duress than “my husband went to Vegas for 2.5 days” and left me in my suburban, air-conditioned, well-appointed 5000 square foot home with two kids. Get over yourselves.

Well...certain type of victim woman will take a lot of shit from their DH. The DH who wrote above is married to a woman with low self-esteem and can get away by doing these kinds of things.

Feel sorry for the children who are raised in such shitty marriages.

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Wait, let me get this straight. We have low self esteem and shitty marriages because we facilitate our DHs weekend trip with friends?

Do you hear yourself?

Girl, are you okay?

Ones who brush off the difficulty of caring for a newborn and a toddler alone as not a big deal? And who apparently don’t have a clue that one person caring for them alone is not something that has been done since the dawn of time and that throughout most of history and still in most cultures mothers have help? If you are married to somebody like this, I do feel bad for you. You are letting your husband get away with being an ass.

Anonymous wrote:DH here. I don’t see what the big deal is. He’s home all day with newborns as well and wants to join a weekend trip with his buddies.

Despite the hype, mothering two kids and keeping them alive for 3 days isn’t climbing Everest.

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Anonymous wrote:Eh, let him know that if he goes to Vegas, you will pump and go off for a girls spa weekend and leave him with both kids too, since you need to rest and all.

I'm the pp whose husband went to Coachella. I mean...yeah? My husband would be fine with our kids for the weekend. That's kind of the point. Instead of being smug you married a guy who doesn't want to take a guys trip why aren't you sad you don't have a spouse you feel comfortable leaving your own children with?

I am so with you. And yes, my kids woke up every 3 hours as almost all newborns ever do. I honestly liked being home with them alone. And I also like taking trips. And I want my husband to have fun. And for those that think going to Vegas means cheating I think maybe you don’t get out much? If your husband wants to cheat, it’s happening and probably not in Vegas. Please.

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Anonymous wrote:Eh, let him know that if he goes to Vegas, you will pump and go off for a girls spa weekend and leave him with both kids too, since you need to rest and all.

I'm the pp whose husband went to Coachella. I mean...yeah? My husband would be fine with our kids for the weekend. That's kind of the point. Instead of being smug you married a guy who doesn't want to take a guys trip why aren't you sad you don't have a spouse you feel comfortable leaving your own children with?

Bingo! We have a super healthy relationship. But parents are also people and should have time with friends. It works 100% both ways.

And spare us the notion that mothering a newborn and a toddler for a couple days is an insurmountable challenge. Drama llamas.

Except the OP is already supposedly getting a weekend off for a previous Vegas trip, that her partner took while she was 7months pregnant and home with a toddler. What a gem. Real winner. I am sure he is totally going to prioritize his wife getting time to herself when he gets back from his second solo trip in four months.

No, OP, most men do not need to go to Vegas every four months when they have young children. I also suspect there is more than drinking and gambling going on.

Yes sometimes it is necessary that one parent be alone with the kids for a weekend even eight weeks postpartum. The parent going away then takes on the responsibility of ensuring there is ample support and pitches in extra when they get back. Necessary is things like work, an ill parent, a siblings wedding, etc.

For the men so secure in their masculinity that they’re posting on a page for expectant and postpartum mothers, please let us know how often you have taken solo weekends with eight week old infants and toddlers in your care? I very rarely hear of men doing that...

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Anonymous wrote:DH here. I don’t see what the big deal is. He’s home all day with newborns as well and wants to join a weekend trip with his buddies.

Despite the hype, mothering two kids and keeping them alive for 3 days isn’t climbing Everest.

Please tell us more about your expertise on mothering, male human.

Literally half the planet has done it since the dawn of time? I know that much. And 99%+ of those have done it under a whole hell of a lot more duress than “my husband went to Vegas for 2.5 days” and left me in my suburban, air-conditioned, well-appointed 5000 square foot home with two kids. Get over yourselves.

Well...certain type of victim woman will take a lot of shit from their DH. The DH who wrote above is married to a woman with low self-esteem and can get away by doing these kinds of things.

Feel sorry for the children who are raised in such shitty marriages.

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Wait, let me get this straight. We have low self esteem and shitty marriages because we facilitate our DHs weekend trip with friends?

Do you hear yourself?

Girl, are you okay?

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Anonymous wrote:DH here. I don’t see what the big deal is. He’s home all day with newborns as well and wants to join a weekend trip with his buddies.

Despite the hype, mothering two kids and keeping them alive for 3 days isn’t climbing Everest.

Please tell us more about your expertise on mothering, male human.

Literally half the planet has done it since the dawn of time? I know that much. And 99%+ of those have done it under a whole hell of a lot more duress than “my husband went to Vegas for 2.5 days” and left me in my suburban, air-conditioned, well-appointed 5000 square foot home with two kids. Get over yourselves.

Well...certain type of victim woman will take a lot of shit from their DH. The DH who wrote above is married to a woman with low self-esteem and can get away by doing these kinds of things.

Feel sorry for the children who are raised in such shitty marriages.

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Anonymous wrote:Since you are already owed a weekend, I’d tell him he can’t go until you get yours. Fair is fair.