Anonymous
Post 07/15/2021 01:48     Subject: Appropriate age for boys to stop going into the locker room with their moms at the pool?
Anonymous wrote:Appropriate age for girls to stop going into the locker room with their dads at the pool?

Is your answer different?

Discuss.


My husband says all the time. Most men and boys don't care. My 11 year old couldn't care less.

I don't get why people are changing out in the open vs. using the stalls.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2021 01:37     Subject: Appropriate age for boys to stop going into the locker room with their moms at the pool?
If you're seriously offended by this....you may want to avoid going to an 'Onsen' hot-spring in Japan FYI. You'd be in for a rude awakening.

Just sayin'.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 20:42     Subject: Appropriate age for boys to stop going into the locker room with their moms at the pool?
In ffx, kids 6 and above must use the appropriate changing rooms.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 19:49     Subject: Appropriate age for boys to stop going into the locker room with their moms at the pool?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are you really suggesting if you had a boy age 3-4 ("older than toddler") you would send him into a mens' changing room alone?


+1, op, you’re crazy.

Agree with others - 7 years old but I’d be standing by that door like a hawk and listening to everything going on in the men’s lockers


JFC no one is raping your kid in the bathroom. They go alone at school all the time.


Is this a joke? At school, kids go to kids’ bathrooms. And they know the other kids. You think seven year olds are hitting up the teacher’s lounge?
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 19:29     Subject: Appropriate age for boys to stop going into the locker room with their moms at the pool?
Anonymous wrote:Appropriate age for girls to stop going into the locker room with their dads at the pool?

Is your answer different?

Discuss.


My answer is the same. Parents get to make the call when it comes to their own YOUNG kids, and we should all be accommodating of that as best we can, and encourage construction of family bathrooms.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 19:24     Subject: Appropriate age for boys to stop going into the locker room with their moms at the pool?
Appropriate age for girls to stop going into the locker room with their dads at the pool?

Is your answer different?

Discuss.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 19:23     Subject: Re:Appropriate age for boys to stop going into the locker room with their moms at the pool?
Anonymous wrote:I have an 8-year-old boy who would be so embarrassed to change in the women's locker room with me. I agree 8 is way too old. I stopped around 5 and even that felt awkward, and I'd only do it if truly necessary. The girls deserve privacy and I think both the young girls and boys would be very embarrassed to see each other changing!

However, I also get tired of moms of only young girls not being willing to stretch their imagination to the possibility of having a boy, calling them pervs (!) or otherwise not lending any empathy to the situation. We all know that moms are often the default parent, schlepping the clothes, towels, etc. and in general we would ALL prefer our young child (male or female) not be in a room full of male strangers that we can't ourselves enter (please don't compare it to the bathroom at school with all children!) It can be difficult to navigate when a mom and young son enter a situation like this and I can't just magically conjure my husband if he's not there or a family changing room if there's not one. ​Once again I have and do work around it - because the situation is tricky doesn't mean I just expect everyone else (including my embarrassed son) to deal with it. But it's a frustration to me when moms of girls don't understand that we are ALSO concerned for our child's safety and they may need our help just like your child does - not now that he's 8 really, but when 5 or 6 - absolutely. The best way I have seen someone describe it is if you wouldn't send your young girl into the men's room alone for fear for their safety, why would you expect a mom to send the same age little boy? They are young and vulnerable just like little girls!

Last - sorry for the rant - but what is with people saying what children should and shouldn't be comfortable with at certain ages and then "insulting" them by calling them special needs if they need extra care. My son is fairly independent, but not confident in brand new situations. We had a situation a few weeks ago where we got to new-to-us pool for a swim meet and the only way to enter the pool was through a large locker room. My child froze - he had never encountered this situation before because you don't have to enter through the locker room at our pool, and he just isn't a kid who feels confident in new situations like that. He also can panic and feel turned around very easily. We figured it out, but it rubs me the wrong way to hear people say that children who don't face EVERY situation head on and confident are somehow snowflakes. Also anyone using special needs as an insult is terrible.


+1
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 19:20     Subject: Appropriate age for boys to stop going into the locker room with their moms at the pool?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't send my 7 year old son alone into a locker room, no. Unless he was with an older sibling or someone we knew. Probably closer to age 8-9.

But I would go into a stall for him to change. I think that's more of the issue.


Yep, this.



No, as has been pointed out numerous times already, the issue is that young girls don't want your son walking through their locker room and seeing them naked while he himself is on the way to a stall for privacy. What you've described is total self-centeredness.

If nudity at your son's age is no big deal, then change his clothes on the pool deck.


Nope, I'll wait until he is 8-9.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 19:02     Subject: Appropriate age for boys to stop going into the locker room with their moms at the pool?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't send my 7 year old son alone into a locker room, no. Unless he was with an older sibling or someone we knew. Probably closer to age 8-9.

But I would go into a stall for him to change. I think that's more of the issue.


Yep, this.



I don’t understand why you wouldn’t though. Is your child not able to get themselves changed by themselves?
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 18:19     Subject: Appropriate age for boys to stop going into the locker room with their moms at the pool?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't send my 7 year old son alone into a locker room, no. Unless he was with an older sibling or someone we knew. Probably closer to age 8-9.

But I would go into a stall for him to change. I think that's more of the issue.


Yep, this.



No, as has been pointed out numerous times already, the issue is that young girls don't want your son walking through their locker room and seeing them naked while he himself is on the way to a stall for privacy. What you've described is total self-centeredness.

If nudity at your son's age is no big deal, then change his clothes on the pool deck.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2021 17:26     Subject: Appropriate age for boys to stop going into the locker room with their moms at the pool?
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't send my 7 year old son alone into a locker room, no. Unless he was with an older sibling or someone we knew. Probably closer to age 8-9.

But I would go into a stall for him to change. I think that's more of the issue.


Yep, this.